[nabs-l] How to handle creepy blind-obsessed people

Tue Oct 20 09:40:46 UTC 2015

I lost it in January of 2011. Josh, are you losing your vision right now or did recently? If this is something you want to know more about, a new thread can be started about it. I bet there's quite a few people who have also experienced losing their vision. 

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> On Oct 19, 2015, at 20:18, josh lester via nabs-l <nabs-l at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> 
> Wow!
> What I can't stand is people that when taught how to guide me, insist
> on me putting my hand on their shoulder, or letting them hold my hand
> like a child!
> It's annoying!
> Alana, when did you start losing your sight?
> Thanks
> 
>> On 10/19/15, Alana Leonhardy via nabs-l <nabs-l at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>> This sounds very disturbing. I have also encountered a person like this. It
>> was right as I was losing my vision that I met this person, and the only
>> reason things didn't escalate beyond control is because I moved away. The
>> things you mentioned sound very similar, and it sounds like he makes you
>> feel really uneasy. People can show interest in the disabled for a number of
>> reasons, some good and some not so much. Sometimes it's because they think
>> they'll be an easy victim, sometimes they're interested in the person as a
>> whole and they're disability doesn't make them uncomfortable or lose the
>> attraction, blind and sighted people end up together all the time. But
>> sometimes, it's the disability itself that excites the person, like my sick
>> ex and maybe the guy you're talking about. I can't say for sure since I
>> don't know the man. But if that's what is going on, then the word you've
>> used, target, is a good one. I can certainly understand why you may be
>> worried for yourself and your friend if you reject his advances, but just
>> because he has a creepy fetish doesn't mean he will become violent. My
>> advice is to to tell him you're not interested via private Facebook message,
>> so there's a record of your saying no and his reaction. There has been some
>> good advice offered previously too :)
>> I hope I'm overreacting because of my own previously mentioned situation,
>> and that your creep is easier to deal with.
>> Best of luck,
>> Alana
>> 
>> Sent from my iPhone
>> 
>>> On Oct 18, 2015, at 21:41, Kaiti Shelton via nabs-l <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
>>> wrote:
>>> 
>>> Hi all,
>>> 
>>> I'm sure you're wondering about the strange subject line, but the
>>> situation is exactly how it sounds.  This guy started pestering a
>>> friend of mine who is also blind on campus, and since we've started a
>>> disability organization and have been seen together and he saw my cane
>>> he's now starting to do it to me.  Apparently he has some neurological
>>> problems that are supposedly controled, but the odd behavior isn't
>>> something that we're aware of that can be related to seizure
>>> disorders.  He has admitted to my friend that he has a thing for girls
>>> with disabilities, and since meeting her has been fascinated by blind
>>> chicks.  It was a little disturbing to me when he started sending me
>>> really forward facebook messages and mentioned my friend, and when I
>>> asked her about it the next day she half-jokingly referred to him as
>>> "Her stalker," and told me she'd fill me in further in private, which
>>> she did.  He seems fairly harmless for the time being and she's so far
>>> been successful in just ignoring him or not giving information, and
>>> she certainly made it known that she does not return the liking he
>>> says he has for her, but I still am creeped out a bit by the pattern
>>> of going after blind chicks.  Obviously I haven't given him any
>>> information and have mostly ignored his messages he's been sending me,
>>> but I'm a little hesitant to just block him because he'll probably
>>> show up to the club meetings now that he knows about them.
>>> 
>>> I've been advised by a male friend of mine to just tell him to back
>>> off and leave me alone, but I'll admit that as a woman who is fairly
>>> identifyable as the only one with a cane and who is unable to see him
>>> coming I don't know if that is the best approach or not.  He hasn't
>>> done anything at this point that is reportable, so I don't quite know
>>> what the best approach would be.  I am pretty creeped out how he
>>> targets disabled women and blind women in particular now, but that
>>> isn't a crime in and of itself.  Thankfully I had class the time when
>>> he showed up to our table hours for our awareness week on campus, and
>>> he didn't show up to the described movie night we just had like he
>>> said he was going to.  I usually have chapter meetings for another
>>> organization directly after the club meetings so I do have an excuse
>>> to leave club by a certain time, but I'm not thrilled by the idea of
>>> this dude showing up and being weird with my friend and I while we're
>>> trying to get work done, or meeting me in person and making it harder
>>> for him to miss me when I'm going about my business on campus.
>>> 
>>> Don't get me wrong---I totally have ignored creepy online people
>>> before in the few instances where they have sent me strange facebook
>>> chats or what have you, but the fact that this is a sighted dude on my
>>> campus who is going after a specific disability is really creepy to me
>>> and I do not feel comfortable about it.  Advice?  Also, I do
>>> understand that this topic kind of verges on adult conversations, but
>>> please keep your responses G or PG as I do not intend to break any
>>> list guidelines and nothing grossly inappropriate has happened here.
>>> 
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