[nabs-l] Finding a Dating Partner

[Christina Moore]

Hey Rahul,

I think this is a more common challenge than some may believe. Not
just for those that are blind or visually impaired but for people in
general. Some people, regardless of disability, are just natural at
knowing how to attract and connect with those they are interested in
while others find the situation awkward and shy away from dating
altogether.
You mentioned you are averse to dating someone with a disability so I
will respect that decision.
I am not sure how things work in India so if any of my suggestions are
not possible, I am sorry but I hope they can lead you in some sort of
direction.
If there are clubs, social groups or other settings where young adults
hang out, you could go to those events and hang out with your peers.
Try to fit in wiht them; have a balance between telling them things
they need to know about your blindness (if any) and talking to them as
a regular young adult about TV shows, movies, sports Etc.
Try to show the groups that you are blind yes but that does not make
you impossible to befriend.
Another thing you could try is asking any people your age where you
live how they get dates. It may be best to ask people who are not
using Tinder because, as you mentioned, that service is not very
user-friendly.
I am sure your peers wouldn't mind helping you out. :-)


On 1/15/17, Shikha via NABS-L <nabs-l at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> I know many people have found a date at NFB events like state convention,
> national convention, or Washington seminar. My parents were also born in
> india so sometimes they are protective.
> Try to hang out with friends and explain to other people that you can live
> an independent life.
>
>
> Shikha.
>
>> On Jan 15, 2017, at 10:49 AM, Suzanne Germano via NABS-L
>> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>>
>> I met my husband on a bodybuilding forum. We are both very interested in
>> fitness and I competed in bodybuilding so we knew we had that in common.
>> He
>> messaged me through the forum.
>>
>> On Sun, Jan 15, 2017 at 8:42 AM, Justin Williams via NABS-L <
>> nabs-l at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>>
>>> You might also try the blind talk list with the same message.  Not that
>>> you
>>> won't get answers here, this would help all students, but you may find
>>> more
>>> folks in committed relationships on the blind talk list.
>>> Justin
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: NABS-L [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Rahul Bajaj
>>> via
>>> NABS-L
>>> Sent: Sunday, January 15, 2017 8:25 AM
>>> To: nabs-l at nfbnet.org
>>> Cc: Rahul Bajaj <rahul.bajaj1038 at gmail.com>
>>> Subject: [nabs-l] Finding a Dating Partner
>>>
>>> Hi Everyone,
>>>
>>> I hope this message finds you well.
>>> I know this is something that gets discussed often, but I was unable to
>>> locate a definitive source on this subject, so I figured I would ask
>>> this
>>> question.
>>>
>>> I would be extremely grateful if you guys could share the strategies
>>> that
>>> you have adopted (both successful and unsuccessful) for finding a dating
>>> partner.
>>> I know that Tinder is not accessible and the other dating apps that may
>>> be
>>> accessible aren't sufficiently 'mainstream' in India, which is where I
>>> live,
>>> to attract anyone except busybodies.
>>> I am averse to the idea of dating someone else with a disability, so any
>>> apps that may exist for this purpose aren't very useful for me.
>>> So I would be curious to know if anyone has any ideas as regards the
>>> steps
>>> that I can take to find someone.
>>> Also, in light of the fact that blind people typically do not have as
>>> active
>>> a social life as their sighted counterparts, I would be curious to know
>>> how
>>> those of you who are committed were able to find your partner.
>>>
>>> I know that this is a subject that not many people would be comfortable
>>> talking about on a public forum, so please feel free to email me
>>> privately
>>> to share your experiences.
>>> Thanks a ton for your help!
>>>
>>> Best,
>>> Rahul
>>>
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