[nagdu] Drop-offs

[Tamara Smith-Kinney]

Jenine,

There's that, too.  /smile/

When it comes to declining offered assistance, I have this really weird
notion the words "No, thank you" should suffice.  Maybe followed by a
clarification.  No, really.  I've got it.  And so on, with more firmness
each time....

It's when I've reached the end of my repertoire that I'm at a loss.  Do I
grab the plate away while he/she is cutting my meat and risk being cut?  Do
I get up and physically push him/her away so I can grab my plate?  How will
I then eat my meat without the knife and fork he/she is now refusing to hand
over?  Why is everyone else at the table just sitting there pretending
nothing is going on while all this is going on?  /lol/  Finally, a situation
where I think it would be great for another person to leap in give an
assist!  And everyone goes on about their business assuming it will all work
out in the end.  Very weird.

I'm getting out of hand with the metaphore, aren't I?  /grin/  I've never
tried the physical knock down/drag out, but I've played it out in my head
that while deciding to exercise the better part of valor -- or at least not
make a scene -- by letting some busybody cut my stinkin' meat.  /smile/

Tami Smith-Kinney

-----Original Message-----
From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf
Of Jenine Stanley
Sent: Wednesday, April 22, 2009 5:38 PM
To: 'NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users'
Subject: Re: [nagdu] Drop-offs

Tammy, 

What a great analogy. 

The opposite often occurs too. You ask someone to pass you the salt and they
then think you need your food cut for you. To avoid that, we avoid asking
for vital bits of info that might make the big picture a little more clear. 

I agree with the general thread that you should not feel badly though when
refusing help and that you can do so politely but firmly. 


_______________________________________________
nagdu mailing list
nagdu at nfbnet.org
http://www.nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/nagdu_nfbnet.org
To unsubscribe, change your list options or get your account info for nagdu:
http://www.nfbnet.org/mailman/options/nagdu_nfbnet.org/tamara.8024%40comcast
.net