[nagdu] question

Tue Mar 3 19:55:30 UTC 2009

Tami, 

You have admirable courage and strength to deal with all of this and do it
with dignity. I don't use that word "courage" lightly. I am blessed to have
a husband who is incredibly supportive. When I collapsed with a burst
aneurism in my brain nearly three years ago, the doctors told him that I
might not be able to be left alone again if I survived. I also understand,
(though I don't have any memory of it)  that my personality changed a great
deal during that time, to the extent that I was no longer the person he had
married. He stood by me and advocated on my behalf so that I received
appropriate rehabilitation and still stands by me and supports me when I get
frustrated whenever I don't rise to my expectations. He's a terrific friend
who I am pleased to know for nearly twenty-four years.

Please know that there are those sort of friends in the federation and
elsewhere. If I can be of any assistance, even as an ear to listen, contact
me at my email address and I will give you the other contact info then.
relton30857 at cox.net

In loving Support,

Joy with Belle
-----Original Message-----
From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf
Of Tamara Smith-Kinney
Sent: Monday, March 02, 2009 2:32 PM
To: 'NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users'
Subject: Re: [nagdu] question

Joy,

That was exactly what was going on.  She had had some recent upsets in her
own life, and it was showing.  She had not been like that before.  Still!

I'm sure that was the case with my ex, as well, although in his case the
upset was from my vision loss.  I was understanding for as long as I could
be; but sooner or later, I simply had to leave the problems his upset was
causing me, since I really needed to focus on the fact that I was the one
who was going blind in that scenario.  /smile/

Tami Smith-Kinney

-----Original Message-----
From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf
Of Garry and Joy Relton
Sent: Monday, March 02, 2009 8:02 AM
To: 'NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users'
Subject: Re: [nagdu] question

Row, I can't imagine experiencing that sort of control! Sometimes, we have
to negotiate with people and sometimes, as you found out, we don't. I find
that people who have to control are usually those who have feelings of
inadequacy and lack of control in their own life.

-----Original Message-----
From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf
Of Tamara Smith-Kinney
Sent: Friday, February 27, 2009 3:19 PM
To: 'NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users'
Subject: Re: [nagdu] question

Linda,

I once went to the grocery store with a friend, since she offered to drive
me there and was doing some shopping of her own.  I paid her for gas and
everything.  But she took it in her head that I didn't need fabric softener
and threatened to leave me there if I insisted on buying it.  Fabric
softener!  Needless to say, I did not go shopping with her again!

Epilogue:  I left the fabric softener behind, thinking we could discuss the
issue later and it was only fabric softener, after all.  Ha!  I should have
let her go have her snit and either walked home with my cane or called a
cab, since I was temporarily living way, way out there.  Live and learn, I
guess.  /smile/

My now ex-husband had a tendency to use his status as driver to be
controlling, but I stopped putting up with it and just found my own way home
a time or two.  /grin/  Then I quit putting up with him.  /grin/

Tami Smith-Kinney

-----Original Message-----
From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf
Of lindagwizdak at peoplepc.com
Sent: Friday, February 20, 2009 6:29 PM
To: NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users
Subject: Re: [nagdu] question

I agree.  I think no blind person should EVER be without a cane or dog while

out - even with a human sighted guide.  What if your human companion got 
pissed at you for something and just left you stranded sans a mobility aid 
(grin!).

Morris Frank, Seeing Eye founder, found himself in this situation and he 
would have given his eye teeth for a modern white cane and the training in 
using it!

Linda and Landon
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IT)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
To: "NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users" 
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Sent: Friday, February 20, 2009 5:39 AM
Subject: Re: [nagdu] question

> Right, and how do you handle it say if you need to use the ladies'
> room and Dear Old Dad can't guide you in? What happens too say if 
> you're at an event and you meet a cute guy (or girl for that matter) 
> who hasn't a clue how to guide you and you'd like to spend some extra 
> time sans the parents with this person?
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Buddy Brannan
> Sent: Friday, February 20, 2009 3:32 AM
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> Subject: Re: [nagdu] question
>
>
> On Feb 19, 2009, at 9:56 PM, Allison Nastoff wrote:
>
>> Usually, I don't carry a cane when doing sighted guide.
>
> I hope you never get stranded (even if accidentally) by your guide.
> What plan do you have for that, should it ever happen?
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