[nagdu] What do you do when you're angry with your dog?
The Pawpower Pack
pawpower4me at gmail.com
Mon Mar 22 04:00:26 UTC 2010
I find that since I've become a clicker trainer, much of my personal
anger, feelings of frustration and resentment toward my dog and some
of her behaviors has lessoned dramatically.
I now know that if my dog engages in A behavior when B happens, then C
will be the result.
As an example, I have left a sandwich on a plate and have not worked
enough with my dog on "leave it" and then I leave the room without
cueing my dog to either follow me or to engage in a fluent
incompatible behavior, that the result may be that she eats my
sandwich. The fault lays with me alone. My dog isn't testing me, or
flouting my authority, or trying to exert her dominance. She is being
a dog and I have set up a situation where her dog instincts are most
likely going to kick in.
I find that clicker training helps me to be much more logical and
methodical about behavior, it's causes and results and my part in it.
This is not to say that I never get angry or frustrated, because I
do. However when it happens I seem to be a bit more clear headed
about it and I have stopped taking dog behavior so personally.
I do find that a "time out" in the crate is good for me sometimes, or
some quick clicker work to refocus us if the crate isn't an option.
Really though, stuff happens, dogs do things we wish they wouldn't but
at the end of the day, the amazing work they do and the constancy they
show, outweighs any behaviors I'd may not like. Things are just
things and they can be replaced-- living through Katrina and the
destruction of everything I've held dear has taught me that we can
make do without our stuff, but that it's almost impossible for me to
make do without my dog.
I try to use my brain, set my dog up for success, spend lots of time
on leave it training, and just let everything else go.
Rox and the Kitchen Bitches
Bristol (retired), Mill'E SD. and Laveau Guide Dog, CGC.
"It's wildly irritating to have invented something as revolutionary as
sarcasm, only to have it abused by amateurs." -- Christopher Moore
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