[nagdu] Re Annoying Behavior

Thu May 27 19:17:40 UTC 2010

Elizabeth ws only offering her perspective. I read it as one of those
things where changing how you view something might be the solution you
seek. 
Marsha, could you get a book and read while your dog eats? You get to do
something you value, your dog gets you in the room, you both are happy. 
Also wondering if you needing/wanting to leave the room while your dog
eats is new to the dog? If it is, he/she may just need a bit more time.
You've gotten married and moved, both you and your dog have had to
adjust to a lot. 
For the cat, get a baby gate and put the cat's food in a study or some
room of the house. The cat should be able to jump over the gate, the dog
won't be able to. You'll need to keep the gate closed of course.
Not sure how well putting the food in the area where the litter box
would work, that whole pooping where you eat thing you know. 
I sympathize with both views and can truly understand both sides. On an
emotional level, I liked being with my dogs while they ate, on a person
being busy level, I can understand the annoyance factor. A good book may
be all you need along with a timer set for ten minutes so the dog learns
not to take its time. 

-----Original Message-----
From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Marsha Drenth
Sent: Thursday, May 27, 2010 2:52 PM
To: 'NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users'
Subject: Re: [nagdu] Re Annoying Behavior

I am sorry to say that, I still find my pups refusal to eat with out me
in
the room a bit on the annoying side. Its not because I am busy that I do
not
want to remain in the room. My pup does receive plenty of love, plenty
of
praise, and plenty of cuddles. My question was about feeding, nothing
more. 

I am glad you find it so wonderful to stand by your pup while she eats,
that
is fine with you, but not me. Your dogs are labs, and shepards and labs
are
different in many many ways. With my first pup who was a lab, retriever
mix,
she would eat no problems, no matter what time. But shepards are again
different. 

Again this has NOTHING to do with in my case that I do not want to give
my
pup love, or show her how much she means to me. Because she gets plenty
of
that!
marsha  

-----Original Message-----
From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf
Of Elizabeth Rene
Sent: Tuesday, May 25, 2010 2:56 PM
To: nagdu at nfbnet.org
Subject: [nagdu] Re Annoying Behavior

I was touched, yesterday, by the story of the German Shepherd dog guide
who 
didn't want to eat her dinner without her human companion nearby.

This seemed so sad to me as I thought of my seven Labrador guide dogs.
The 
owner needed to be busy outside the kitchen at feeding time, and found
her 
dog's refusal to eat alone to be a problem.

NB: If this story is about you, gentle owner, I apologize for not 
remembering your name.  You deserve to be addressed directly.  Let me
just 
tell you about my own experience and thinking about feeding dogs.  If
you 
want to write directly to me, please feel free.

I love to cook and to feed people.  It gives me great pleasure to savor 
their company and enjoyment of what I've made, and to express my
fondness 
for them through food and a relaxing evening.  For most of my
professional 
life, I have worked a 50-60-hour week, and have known what it is to be
busy.

So these evenings of cooking and entertaining have been oases from
stress 
for me.

My Labradors have all wolfed their twice-daily meals, and have not
minded if

I stepped away as they ate.  But they've all wanted me near while
drinking 
water, to the extent that they've  stopped drinking if I moved away.

Each of them has shown me some way--by stopping to lick me, by flipping
me a

splash of water, or by washing me when they were done--that they wanted
to 
share the experience of "dining" together.
I've always seen this to be a tender and sweet expression of my dogs'
love 
for me, and have found deep peace in these moments.

Though sometimes I'd like to be doing something else, I've learned that 
mealtimes and watering for my dogs signify nurture just as much as they
do 
the slaking of hunger and thirst.

And so I try to consciously offer my dogs' food and water with praise,
and 
with the same loving attention that I give my friends.  And I do so with

gratitude.

Praise and regular attention to their needs is all our dogs ask from us,
and

they work so hard for us in return.

How lucky we are that our dogs communicate so clearly that we matter to 
them, and that they want us near.

Best to all busy humans and your dogs.

Elizabeth

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