[nagdu] Bill of Rights statement Concerning Health, Temperment, & Behavior

Lyn Gwizdak linda.gwizdak at cox.net
Tue Apr 26 00:58:46 UTC 2011


Tami,
You're not a loser!  These blind busybodies are displaying marginalized 
behavior and they feel so bad about themselves that they can't just do what 
is needed to improve their own lives. So many oppressed groups do this to 
their own - yeah keep ourselves fighting each other and then we won't notice 
the real oppressors in our lives!

Lyn and Landon


----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Tamara Smith-Kinney" <tamara.8024 at comcast.net>
To: "'NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users'" 
<nagdu at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Thursday, April 21, 2011 2:12 PM
Subject: Re: [nagdu] Bill of Rights statement Concerning Health, 
Temperment,& Behavior


> Lyn,
>
> Heavens!  Your later experience with TSE shows something else about that
> organization, too.  They learn from their mistakes.  I am glad they were 
> so
> great with you on a personal level, too.  It's hard enough to deal with
> guilt feelings when your pet has a bit of a cold.  Well, for me.  I know
> it's irrational and even silly, but I'm the one who is supposed to take 
> care
> of them, so I guess that translates into feelings of guilt somehow.  Oh,
> well.
>
> That's really magnified with my guide, even though I know better and don't
> lie around weeping over it.  Still, it's always kinda there, moreso when
> we're working, because I'm in so many ways so much responsible for her 
> than
> I would be with a carefree house pet.  So for real issues -- like a cut 
> paw
> pad or those awful UTIs she was having a couple of years ago, the last 
> thing
> I need help with from someone else is a long list of how many ways this is
> my fault and what I'm doing wrong and how awful that makes me...  Really, 
> I
> can cover that part of it just fine on my own, even while I'm calmly and
> reasonably taking steps to deal the problem so that it goes away and to
> diagnosed what really caused it so we can prevent its happening again and
> all that.  /smile/  More help with problem solving, please, less with the
> heaping of guilt, thank you.
>
> It's still shocking somehow to grasp how so many in the blind community 
> will
> leap on that bandwago and how enthusiastically some off them will do so. 
> I
> think I vaguely understand the psychology going on there, and where a lot 
> of
> it comes from to make it so extreme sometimes, but...  The inevitable
> feeling that I'm being bashed over the head by my own side is not one I
> enjoy, especially when I'm having a spot of trouble in my life because of
> what someone else did to me that wrong -- even unethical or downright
> illegal -- that they're bashing me over the head for bringing on myself...
> Um...  Then there's the version of events where the problems I am having
> because of whatever it is explain why any other party involved was 
> justified
> in doing their part to cause them because I am so obviously a lifelong 
> loser
> to be having these problems in the first place...  The only thing that 
> makes
> me madder is to see it being pulled on someone else or to hear from 
> someone
> they've had it pulled on them.  Sigh.
>
> Ah, well, we all soldier on, don't we?  We and our healthy, happy guide
> dogs!  /grin/
>
> Tami Smith-Kinney
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf
> Of Lyn Gwizdak
> Sent: Wednesday, April 20, 2011 11:29 AM
> To: NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users
> Subject: Re: [nagdu] Bill of Rights statement Concerning Health,
> Temperment,& Behavior
>
> Hi Lisa,
> It is good you shared the story about your allergic dog and how you were
> treated by the school. I'm sure others have been through this very same 
> type
>
> of thing.  Glad things are better and you are doing well with Bernie.
>
> When I had my first dog from TSE - the shepherd named Brownie who I no
> longer had when we met in '91.  I had an awful time with her.  She 
> wouldn't
> eat and was so thin that the County Animal Control was called by someone 
> and
>
> they paid me a visit.  I wasn't angry that Animal control was called - it
> showed that someone cared to make that call based on my dog's thinness. I
> mean her ribs and hips showed!  But that dog wouldn't eat! No matter what 
> I
> fed her.  The Animal Control officer was sympathetic and told me to try a
> dollop of cat food - it helped some.  Brownie was one of those shepherds
> that would yelp whenever she got a leash correction. Like I was killing 
> her!
>
> It was so embarrassing!
>
> After a real nasty dog attack on the streets of Chula Vista, she would 
> growl
>
> at any dog she saw or even at the sound of jangling of keys or dog tags.
> She eventually developed chronic diarrarhia and farted so bad the rest of
> the time. I had to decide to send her back after two and a half years of
> this and trying all kinds of thigs TSE asked me to try.  Then I applied to
> GDA and got a Lab there in 1990.
>
> It was 1997 when I went to TSE after a long chat with them about the
> problems I had with Brownie and the crap I endured from other guide dog
> users and the public - it was a wonder I went back for another dog after 
> all
>
> that!
>
> To show how good the Seeing Eye is, when I was there in '97, I talked to
> both the Director of Training and the head instructor at the time, they 
> told
>
> me that none of what happened with Brownie was my fault.  They told me 
> that
> they didn't take chances on a dog like her anymore.  Brownie would have 
> made
>
> a great pet but she wasn't cut out to be a guide dog.  She definately had
> stomach issues that may have existed and got made worse by the stress of
> guide dog work.  Both the Director of Training and the head instructor 
> knew
> that I was a good guide dog handler all along.  TSE has foound that some 
> of
> these "borderline" dogs are better off being dropped from the program and 
> it
>
> did save TSE money by just releasing these dogs then to put them out only 
> to
>
> have them be returned by a graduate and then have to train that person 
> with
> another dog.
>
> I was so pleased with the sensitivity and caring and respect TSE showed me
> through all of this.  Even when I returned BRownie, the people at TSE 
> NEVER
> made me feel like it was all my fault.  I had decided to go to GDA because 
> I
>
> didn't feel comfortable with traveling by plane by myself across the
> country. I got Brownie when I was living on the east coast.  Well, I did
> learn that I could fly myself across the country and so well.  I just 
> didn't
>
> have the confidence to do that.  Now, piece of cake - well sort of with 
> all
> we have to go through to fly post 9/11! LOL!
>
> Lisa, I can tell you more about this and how I was treated by the blind
> community folks over this - I don't know if I ever told you about this and
> their antics after I retired Olivia. (grin!)  Sometime when we are hanging
> out away from the blind center folks.
>
> Lyn and Landon
>
>
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Lisa Irving" <lirving1234 at cox.net>
> To: "NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users"
> <nagdu at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Tuesday, April 19, 2011 10:31 PM
> Subject: Re: [nagdu] Bill of Rights statement Concerning Health,
> Temperment,& Behavior
>
>
>> It's healing to share my story. For years I beat my self up about what I
>> didn't do for my dog.  And yes, the school's response played into how I
>> internalized things.
>>
>> When I called the school to inquire about my guide dog, I recall the
>> individual being icy and formal. I think this is a part of her 
>> personality
>
>> and not meant to be personal. However, it was personal for some years.
>> Some affirmations and re assurances would have gone a very long way had
>> they been genuinely conveyed; or conveyed at all.
>> Lisa and Bernie
>> was that
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: "Tamara Smith-Kinney" <tamara.8024 at comcast.net>
>> To: "'NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users'"
>> <nagdu at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Tuesday, April 19, 2011 10:46 AM
>> Subject: Re: [nagdu] Bill of Rights statement Concerning Health,
>> Temperment,& Behavior
>>
>>
>>> Lisa,
>>>
>>> Painful story.  I'm sorry you had to go through it but am glad you have
>>> the
>>> courage to share.  Others may be going through the same thing -- or
>>> will --
>>> and knowing they're not alone may give them both comfort and strenghth.
>>> And
>>> perhaps more information they can use to resolve their own
>>> issues/problems
>>> before it's also too late.
>>>
>>> If I may ask, since you mentioned your guilt feelings -- do you recall
>>> how
>>> many times, if any, the program trainer and/or staff told you that you
>>> were
>>> the one doing things wrong.  I confess to being overly cynical in
>>> automatically assuming that that was their first response to your
>>> concerns
>>> about the behavior.  I just have noticed that those involved in 
>>> resources
>>> for PWDs, the consumer is always wrong and should be informed of that in
>>> the
>>> most demeaning and even cruel way possible.  As many times as possible.
>>> I
>>> don't understand this phenomenon, and I don't know if my understanding
>>> will
>>> do anything at all for anybody on the receiving end, but ...  I still
>>> would
>>> like to understand it in case I can figure out how to do something 
>>> useful
>
>>> in
>>> some way to prevent those same people carrying on doing that to the 
>>> folks
>>> they're being paid to serve.
>>>
>>> Which is why I'm happy NAGDU is following through on the creation of the
>>> Bill of Rights.  Guide dogs are a resource -- provided by the charitable
>>> donors known as funding sources -- so for all the really good people who
>>> do
>>> as they should with character and intelligence and diligence to strong
>>> ethics, there do appear to be an unfortunate percentage of bad apples.
>>> I'm
>>> coming to the conclusion, based on consistent behavioral patterns across
>>> organizations and resource types, that there's some sort of, I dunno,
>>> personality type or something like that which is drawn into that sort of
>>> work which has nothing to do with a desire to help anyone at all.  These
>>> same personalities seem to be the first ones to go on about how grateful
>>> we
>>> should be for the wonderful things they're doing for us, etc., etc.,
>>> we've
>>> all heard the whole spiel, when they're so clearly putting forth their
>>> best
>>> efforts to ensure we don't receive the help they're being paid to give
>>> us...
>>>
>>> So I think it's important to share our individual stories and to
>>> communicate
>>> our ideas with the increased freedom we have on the internet.  That's
>>> been
>>> happening more and more, as a result of the earlier work of 
>>> organizations
>>> like the NFB -- primarily that of the NFB in our cases -- and that power
>>> to
>>> interact and communicate gives us more power to add to those very
>>> organizations.
>>>
>>> We can also communicate that the bad behavior is not okay and then work
>>> collectively to make it more difficult for the bad apples to spread the
>>> rot.
>>> Whew!
>>>
>>> Tami Smith-Kinney
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>>> Behalf
>>> Of Lisa Irving
>>> Sent: Monday, April 18, 2011 11:36 PM
>>> To: NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users
>>> Subject: Re: [nagdu] Bill of Rights statement Concerning Health,
>>> Temperment,& Behavior
>>>
>>> Marion,
>>>
>>> Without making things too complex, is there some way to include verbiage
>>> about disclosing observations made by the puppy raiser family(s)? Here's
>>> the
>>>
>>> context to my question.
>>>
>>> The puppy raiser family informed  me about the dog allergies. The school
>>> didn't know, or disregarded the puppy raiser's observations. I don't 
>>> want
>
>>> to
>>>
>>> confuse "observations" with "opinions". One is measureable and can be
>>> validated; observations. Again, it was the puppy raiser family that
>>> informed
>>>
>>> me, after my guide dog was released, of the school's findings and 
>>> medical
>>> intervention for the infections.
>>>
>>> Lisa and Bernie
>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>> From: "Marion Gwizdala" <blind411 at verizon.net>
>>> To: "NAGDU List" <nagdu at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Monday, April 18, 2011 4:10 AM
>>> Subject: [nagdu] Bill of Rights statement Concerning Health, 
>>> Temperment,&
>>> Behavior
>>>
>>>
>>>> Dear All,
>>>>    Here is the proposed language for the Bill of Rights, Please offer
>>>> any
>>>> input or suggestions you may have.
>>>>
>>>> The training program shall fully disclose to the consumer, in writing
>>>> and
>>>> in the accessible format of the consumer's choice, all known issues
>>>> concerning the dog's health, temperament, behavior, and training prior
>>>> to
>>>> placement.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Fraternally yours,
>>>>
>>>> Marion
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
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