[nagdu] Do you ever get angry with our dogs and how tocontroleit?

[Lisa Irving]

Our boys sure can be hellions, can't they? They're like their handlers, huh?

Lisa and Bernie
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Lyn Gwizdak" <linda.gwizdak at cox.net>
To: "NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users" 
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Sent: Thursday, March 03, 2011 12:32 PM
Subject: Re: [nagdu] Do you ever get angry with our dogs and how 
tocontroleit?


> Hi Lisa,
>>From literature I've read, they seem to feel dogs do not have the capacity
> to feel guilt - purely a human trait!  Usually when dogs display what we 
> interpret as guilt, the dog is reacting to our anger at what they did and 
> they are actually doing submissive behaviors.  They know they've pissed 
> off the boss.  What has anyone else read about this?
>
> An example:  You left the dog home to do an activity and the dog gets 
> upset at being left behind and he chews your favorite slippers - ahem! 
> Landon and Bernies' bout with my slippers last week!  Then you come home 
> to find all this fluffy stuff - the shredded slippers - and you get upset 
> and LOOK upset. The dog starts to do appeasment behavior which we 
> interpret as guilt.
>
> People do this as well only we feel the guilt because we know we did 
> wrong. Dogs are masters at reading body language and eye contact very 
> well. But they don't feel guilt - only "Oh sh*t, he or she's really mad at 
> something and it's directed at me!!!"
>
> Bernie and Landon are incorrigable!!!  They destroyed my slippers when 
> they no longer had the rope toy which they destroyed earlier.  LOL! No 
> worries, I didn't like those slippers anyway and they didn't get the ones 
> I do wear.  I should hire out Landon to test dog toys to see if they 
> really are indestructable!  The only toys I have for Landon is his 
> NylaKnot that he got at Seeing Eye. He does chew it down so he's had three 
> since we left Seeing Eye and I bought new ones for him.
>
> Lyn and Landon
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Lisa Irving" <lirving1234 at cox.net>
> To: "NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users" 
> <nagdu at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Wednesday, March 02, 2011 4:45 PM
> Subject: Re: [nagdu] Do you ever get angry with our dogs and how to 
> controleit?
>
>
>> Wow! You really sound very genuine and quite loving. You're doing just 
>> fine. Our dog guides are, at times, just like precocious children. Even 
>> reasonable and caring parents blow a gasket  occasionally.
>>
>> I get irritated, and sometimes, quite riled at Bernie's behavior. The 
>> door swings both ways. I'm guessing he gets annoyed and vexed at me too. 
>> We get over things pretty quickly. I don't know if Bernie is able to 
>> experience what guilt feels like. I do guilty quite well for the both of 
>> us. Really, BREATH slowly and evenly, and do what you're doing.
>>
>> Lisa and Bernie
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: "Ioana Gandrabur" <igandrabur at gmx.de>
>> To: "NFBnet NAGDU Mailing List" <nagdu at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Wednesday, March 02, 2011 12:41 PM
>> Subject: [nagdu] Do you ever get angry with our dogs and how to controle 
>> it?
>>
>>
>>> Hi all,
>>>
>>> I just had a frustrating incident with Loyal exactly repeated 2 days in 
>>> a row. First time I was annoyed, next time I got upset but tried to not 
>>> act angry.
>>> He just did his nr 2 and I was trying to position myself to mark the 
>>> place when this small barky dog comes along. Loyal who basically never 
>>> lurches towards other dogs in harness decides to dash towards it and I 
>>> fell on my butt luckily not in the stuff I was supposed to pick up. I 
>>> made him sit and accepted that I would not be picking up that time.
>>>
>>> Today the exact same thing happens except I did not fall. I did 
>>> obedience and tried to act calm but I was really angry for some minutes 
>>> and also being upset at myself for being angry because Loyal is really 
>>> so willing to please and easily affected by my mood.
>>> How do you deal with being irritated with your dog?
>>>
>>> Take care and thanks for listening to my rambling.
>>>
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