[nagdu] could have, would have, should have

[Julie J.]

Daniel,

I commend you for sticking with it for so long.  You had professional 
trainers telling you to try this or that or to give it time and it would 
work out.   They were supposed to know and you thought they did.   The 
thing is we are all human and we all make mistakes.  Maybe the trainers 
should have known better, maybe you should have insisted on a different 
dog, maybe the dog shouldn't have been a guide or maybe it's all of 
those, but it doesn't really matter,  just like you said in the subject 
line, could have, would have, should have, it's all in the past now.

They say time heals all wounds.  I don't know if that is true, but they 
do seem to scab over pretty good. I hope with time you will come to a 
place of peace with Scout and the guide dog program.   Putting your 
trust in someone and having it thoroughly broken is a tough thing to get 
past.   Please know that you did all you could and then a couple more  
miles.

I wish you all the best as you move forward.
Julie








On 2/26/2012 2:16 PM, DJS wrote:
> Hello all,
>
>
>
> I don't know if some of you remember me, but I was a participant in the list
> about 3 years ago. I had the guide dog, Scout. He was the one who ran me
> into my pond, crashed me into the grocery cart and busted my tooth, etc.
>
> I had 2 trainers out from the school to work with me, but his behavior never
> really got above about a "c". I still kept working with him, because I just
> loved him so much, and he was such a loving dog.
>
> I always looked past running into an occasional doorway, or a post here and
> there.
>
> The final straw came last month when we were walking and a truck backed out
> of a driveway on a very busy street and knocked us both out into the street.
> The dog suffered no injuries thank goodness, but I suffered a concussion and
> several bruised ribs.
>
> As usual, he was not paying attention to what he was doing.
>
> To make a long story short, the school came and career changed him about 2
> weeks ago.
>
> I am pretty much devastated.
>
> I know, and most of you at the time I got him, told me I should return him,
> but did I listen? NO.
>
> I so wish I had. I feel I have wasted so long a time. I really thought I
> could make it work.
>
> The trainers kept telling me to work on different techniques, and I did. I
> wanted it to work so badly. Of course when they picked him up, they told me
> it was a total mis-match from the beginning, and that I should never have
> left the school with that dog.
>
> A lot of good that does now - over 3 and a half years later.
>
>
>
> This has been such a bad experience from the beginning, I don't know if I
> will ever want to go through the experience again.
>
>
>
> I guess I am looking for some words of wisdom from you guys, and some help
> to go through this grief I am feeling at losing my best friend, even though
> he was not the best guide dog.
>
>
>
> You can be critical of me too, just please not to hard just yet, because I
> am so sad.  I only wish I knew then what I know now.
>
>
>
> Thanks for any support.
>
>
>
> Daniel
>
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