[nagdu] I did it!

rhonda cruz rhondaprincess at gmail.com
Wed Jul 11 15:39:10 UTC 2012


hi i hope it all works in all partys. involved.
 hugs.


On Jul 11, 2012, at 8:28 AM, Shannon Wells wrote:

> I didn't say anything about my husband's family, because they do not factor in. They are not available and I wouldn't want most of them to be. My husband isn't the bad guy and I never said he was. His biggest concern about taking the time off is that there is no one there at present to fill his shoes, and he would have a huge amount of catching up to do. I'm not trying to sound like I'm praying he will do what I want. I guess it came across that way, because right now, that is the only solution I can see. I get impatient sometimes, so I'm sorry if it came across that my husband and I were arguing, because we're not. No one is mad at anyone. I believe he understands how important it is to me, and I understand how important his job is to him. The thing I keep telling myself is if it's meant to be, it will and if it's not, it won't.
> Shannon Wells
> On Jul 11, 2012, at 10:19 AM, Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC) wrote:
> 
>> Shannon, 
>> Prayer works, though it sounds like you are praying that your husband do what you want and that sort of thing never ends well. 
>> Staying home for two or three weeks is a long time. It's not like a day or two with a sick kid.
>> It's difficult on coworkers and on any work projects he's doing. It's very difficult to catch up when he gets back. 
>> His boss may give him the time under FMLA though that depends on if his company offers that type of leave. 
>> If his company does offer FMLA, he will need to think about whether or not this is a good use of that leave. He may feel that it is not. 
>> 
>> 
>> You mention having a sister that may keep the girls. That will also be disruptive. You still won't be around and they will know that. It's really no different then a nanny or even a daycare.  Depending on their ages, getting them in for a couple weeks will be a piece of cake. Daycares do some neat stuff with kids these days so they may really enjoy it.  Either way, you won't be home. This isn't worth hanging your husband up as the bad guy.  
>> 
>> You did not mention his family as an option for looking after the girls. Any reason why not? 
>> 
>> Be very careful with the argument "If you aren't willing to stay home, you shouldn't have kids".  The kids are here and unless I'm missing something, it sounds like he's an involved dad.  He just isn't doing what you want when you want.  Using this argument in this situation is unfair and unkind.  He may need or want to be at work just as badly as you need or want a dog. 
>> 
>> Also, be careful too with your dog application.  Fine to go ahead and fill it out, not fine to present him as the mean monster who is keeping me from getting a dog.  You are setting him up to fail.  
>> 
>> This is a stressful time for all of you. Why fight with your husband when you don't need to? You have many many ways to solve this problem.
>> 
>> You will need your husband to be on-board with this dog especially when the team is new. You are trying to get what you want in a very ugly manner. That won't bode well for your new dog or your marriage. 
>> 
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Shannon Wells
>> Sent: Wednesday, July 11, 2012 9:45 AM
>> To: NAGDU Mailing List, the National Association of Guide Dog Users
>> Subject: Re: [nagdu] I did it!
>> 
>> Well, IMHO prayer always works. My girls have never been in daycare and never had a nanny. My mom works for the school board so is not available. Other family members either work, attend college over an hour away or just won't keep them. I'm a homeschooler, as I've said, so my kids are used to being here with me all the time. I do have a sister who might be able to work out a schedule with my husband, though. As for whether he would want to stay home with them, my opinion on that is, if you don't want to stay home sometimes with your kids, then don't have any. I want another dog very much, but my girls come first, at least for now.
>> Shannon wElls .
>> On Jul 11, 2012, at 9:22 AM, Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC) wrote:
>> 
>>> Why does your husband need to be home with the girls?
>>> Could grandma or a family friend do this?
>>> Maybe you could get a temporary nanny or use daycare for those two weeks?
>>> My husband wouldn't be able to take two weeks off either. It's not that he wouldn't want to, he doesn't have the leave, and if he did, he'd prefer to do something else with it. So would I.
>>> Another option is for hubby to take fmla though I can understand why he'd not do this.
>>> 
>>> If it were me (and I have a kid too) I'd leave hubby out of this. Finding a solution that doesn't involve him taking time off work will work better then prayer in this case.
>>> 
>>> 
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Shannon Wells
>>> Sent: Tuesday, July 10, 2012 6:47 PM
>>> To: the National Association of Guide Dog Users NAGDU Mailing List
>>> Subject: [nagdu] I did it!
>>> 
>>> Well, I did it! I applied to Pilot Dogs. I filled out the online form. Still don't have the issue worked out with my husband being able to take off work to be with my girls, but I'm still praying. Smile.
>>> Shannon Nicole Wells, author
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