[nagdu] I did it!

Thu Jul 12 19:42:39 UTC 2012

First of all, I'd rather not fly. I'm not afraid to fly; I have on several occasions, but I don't like the hassle. Second, I don't want to be real far away, in case something happens at home. Back when I got my first dog, I was a young, college student and had no one else to look out for but me. My needs have changed, and I'm not 19 anymore. lol
On Jul 12, 2012, at 3:33 PM, Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC) wrote:

> 	Call them they may help you out via home training or a shorter class. 
> If you were happy with them, not sure why you'd pick Pilot just because they are close to your home. Why does the distance to the school matter? 
> 
> Other people have picked schools based on distance from their home. HOnestly I don't get it unless working conditions of the team are driving the decision, Tracey comes to mind here. 
> 
> Otherwise I just don't understand. Can you explain? Is Pilot's location more like where you live?
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Shannon Wells
> Sent: Thursday, July 12, 2012 3:28 PM
> To: NAGDU Mailing List, the National Association of Guide Dog Users
> Subject: Re: [nagdu] I did it!
> 
> I got my first dog from The Seeing Eye
> On Jul 12, 2012, at 12:19 PM, Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC) wrote:
> 
>>       They do. Guiding Eyes offers it and Fidelco does too though you want to be careful about their ownership policy.
>> What was the school you got your last dog from? They may be willing to do home training.
>> 
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Shannon Wells
>> Sent: Wednesday, July 11, 2012 8:49 PM
>> To: NAGDU Mailing List, the National Association of Guide Dog Users
>> Subject: Re: [nagdu] I did it!
>> 
>> Juanita, no I hadn't considered in home training, because I didn't know schoools offered it.
>> On Jul 11, 2012, at 4:13 PM, Juanita Herrera wrote:
>> 
>>> Shannon,
>>> To avoid all this, have you considered in-home training? Some schools offer it.
>>> Juanita and Anise
>>> 
>>> On 7/11/12, Shannon Wells <oldtimechristian at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>> I didn't say anything about my husband's family, because they do not factor
>>>> in. They are not available and I wouldn't want most of them to be. My
>>>> husband isn't the bad guy and I never said he was. His biggest concern about
>>>> taking the time off is that there is no one there at present to fill his
>>>> shoes, and he would have a huge amount of catching up to do. I'm not trying
>>>> to sound like I'm praying he will do what I want. I guess it came across
>>>> that way, because right now, that is the only solution I can see. I get
>>>> impatient sometimes, so I'm sorry if it came across that my husband and I
>>>> were arguing, because we're not. No one is mad at anyone. I believe he
>>>> understands how important it is to me, and I understand how important his
>>>> job is to him. The thing I keep telling myself is if it's meant to be, it
>>>> will and if it's not, it won't.
>>>> Shannon Wells
>>>> On Jul 11, 2012, at 10:19 AM, Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC) wrote:
>>>> 
>>>>> Shannon,
>>>>> Prayer works, though it sounds like you are praying that your husband do
>>>>> what you want and that sort of thing never ends well.
>>>>> Staying home for two or three weeks is a long time. It's not like a day or
>>>>> two with a sick kid.
>>>>> It's difficult on coworkers and on any work projects he's doing. It's very
>>>>> difficult to catch up when he gets back.
>>>>> His boss may give him the time under FMLA though that depends on if his
>>>>> company offers that type of leave.
>>>>> If his company does offer FMLA, he will need to think about whether or not
>>>>> this is a good use of that leave. He may feel that it is not.
>>>>> 
>>>>> 
>>>>> You mention having a sister that may keep the girls. That will also be
>>>>> disruptive. You still won't be around and they will know that. It's really
>>>>> no different then a nanny or even a daycare.  Depending on their ages,
>>>>> getting them in for a couple weeks will be a piece of cake. Daycares do
>>>>> some neat stuff with kids these days so they may really enjoy it.  Either
>>>>> way, you won't be home. This isn't worth hanging your husband up as the
>>>>> bad guy.
>>>>> 
>>>>> You did not mention his family as an option for looking after the girls.
>>>>> Any reason why not?
>>>>> 
>>>>> Be very careful with the argument "If you aren't willing to stay home, you
>>>>> shouldn't have kids".  The kids are here and unless I'm missing something,
>>>>> it sounds like he's an involved dad.  He just isn't doing what you want
>>>>> when you want.  Using this argument in this situation is unfair and
>>>>> unkind.  He may need or want to be at work just as badly as you need or
>>>>> want a dog.
>>>>> 
>>>>> Also, be careful too with your dog application.  Fine to go ahead and fill
>>>>> it out, not fine to present him as the mean monster who is keeping me from
>>>>> getting a dog.  You are setting him up to fail.
>>>>> 
>>>>> This is a stressful time for all of you. Why fight with your husband when
>>>>> you don't need to? You have many many ways to solve this problem.
>>>>> 
>>>>> You will need your husband to be on-board with this dog especially when
>>>>> the team is new. You are trying to get what you want in a very ugly
>>>>> manner. That won't bode well for your new dog or your marriage.
>>>>> 
>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf
>>>>> Of Shannon Wells
>>>>> Sent: Wednesday, July 11, 2012 9:45 AM
>>>>> To: NAGDU Mailing List, the National Association of Guide Dog Users
>>>>> Subject: Re: [nagdu] I did it!
>>>>> 
>>>>> Well, IMHO prayer always works. My girls have never been in daycare and
>>>>> never had a nanny. My mom works for the school board so is not available.
>>>>> Other family members either work, attend college over an hour away or just
>>>>> won't keep them. I'm a homeschooler, as I've said, so my kids are used to
>>>>> being here with me all the time. I do have a sister who might be able to
>>>>> work out a schedule with my husband, though. As for whether he would want
>>>>> to stay home with them, my opinion on that is, if you don't want to stay
>>>>> home sometimes with your kids, then don't have any. I want another dog
>>>>> very much, but my girls come first, at least for now.
>>>>> Shannon wElls .
>>>>> On Jul 11, 2012, at 9:22 AM, Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC) wrote:
>>>>> 
>>>>>> Why does your husband need to be home with the girls?
>>>>>> Could grandma or a family friend do this?
>>>>>> Maybe you could get a temporary nanny or use daycare for those two
>>>>>> weeks?
>>>>>> My husband wouldn't be able to take two weeks off either. It's not that
>>>>>> he wouldn't want to, he doesn't have the leave, and if he did, he'd
>>>>>> prefer to do something else with it. So would I.
>>>>>> Another option is for hubby to take fmla though I can understand why he'd
>>>>>> not do this.
>>>>>> 
>>>>>> If it were me (and I have a kid too) I'd leave hubby out of this. Finding
>>>>>> a solution that doesn't involve him taking time off work will work better
>>>>>> then prayer in this case.
>>>>>> 
>>>>>> 
>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>>>>>> Behalf Of Shannon Wells
>>>>>> Sent: Tuesday, July 10, 2012 6:47 PM
>>>>>> To: the National Association of Guide Dog Users NAGDU Mailing List
>>>>>> Subject: [nagdu] I did it!
>>>>>> 
>>>>>> Well, I did it! I applied to Pilot Dogs. I filled out the online form.
>>>>>> Still don't have the issue worked out with my husband being able to take
>>>>>> off work to be with my girls, but I'm still praying. Smile.
>>>>>> Shannon Nicole Wells, author
>>>>>> http://www.wildheartbook.com
>>>>>> http://oldtimechristian.blogspot.com
>>>>>> http://www.twitter.com/authorshannon
>>>>>> http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1826550903
>>>>>> 
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