[nagdu] could have, would have, should have

Thu Mar 1 22:59:34 UTC 2012

Well, I waited almost too long with the dog I had to last return; should have never taken him out. But I wanted to make sure make sure make sure. That one I did make my own decision on; the others I needed a little nudge about. It is not an easy thing to go through. I'm not sure I would have put myself through what Daniel did, but I don't know that for sure. I've never had to do that. So we cannot judge at all. So off my soap box I go. *smile*

Cindy

On Mar 1, 2012, at 4:34 PM, Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC) wrote:

> No problem. 
> And thank you for understanding my point, being committed to making something work is great, but you also have to know when to walk away. Each of us will hit that point differently. 
> 
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Cindy Ray
> Sent: Thursday, March 01, 2012 5:27 PM
> To: NAGDU Mailing List, the National Association of Guide Dog Users
> Subject: Re: [nagdu] could have, would have, should have
> 
> Oh, Rebecca, sorry but I did misspell your name in that last message.
> Cindy
> 
> On Mar 1, 2012, at 4:16 PM, Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC) wrote:
> 
>> Isn't "giving up at the drop of a hat" a judgment call?
>> Like all things, it's very easy to tell somebody "don't give up" when you aren't the one living with the problem.
>> Dan gave way more to this dog then I would have, that's for sure.
>> I raise this because I wouldn't want somebody to say "This dog and I just aren't getting it together, time to call it a day" and be told "keep going, you need to try harder".
>> It's a very fine line, and it's an individual line that nobody else can really define.
>> 
>> 
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Natalie
>> Sent: Thursday, March 01, 2012 5:13 PM
>> To: NAGDU Mailing List, the National Association of Guide Dog Users
>> Subject: Re: [nagdu] could have, would have, should have
>> 
>> Hi Daniel,
>> You gave it your all, and that's what counts.  You're not a failure.  There
>> are other dogs out there who haven't been matched yet and will be a good
>> match for you, I'm sure.  Unfortunately, there are too many who would give
>> up at the drop of a hat, but you gave it your all, and don't beat yourself
>> up over it.  Sending tailwags from LJ.
>> Best,
>> Nat and Liam Joshua
>> 
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> From: "DJS" <falcoisking at comcast.net>
>> To: "NAGDU Mailing List" <nagdu at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Sunday, February 26, 2012 1:16 PM
>> Subject: [nagdu] could have, would have, should have
>> 
>> 
>>> Hello all,
>>> 
>>> 
>>> 
>>> I don't know if some of you remember me, but I was a participant in the
>>> list
>>> about 3 years ago. I had the guide dog, Scout. He was the one who ran me
>>> into my pond, crashed me into the grocery cart and busted my tooth, etc.
>>> 
>>> I had 2 trainers out from the school to work with me, but his behavior
>>> never
>>> really got above about a "c". I still kept working with him, because I
>>> just
>>> loved him so much, and he was such a loving dog.
>>> 
>>> I always looked past running into an occasional doorway, or a post here
>>> and
>>> there.
>>> 
>>> The final straw came last month when we were walking and a truck backed
>>> out
>>> of a driveway on a very busy street and knocked us both out into the
>>> street.
>>> The dog suffered no injuries thank goodness, but I suffered a concussion
>>> and
>>> several bruised ribs.
>>> 
>>> As usual, he was not paying attention to what he was doing.
>>> 
>>> To make a long story short, the school came and career changed him about 2
>>> weeks ago.
>>> 
>>> I am pretty much devastated.
>>> 
>>> I know, and most of you at the time I got him, told me I should return
>>> him,
>>> but did I listen? NO.
>>> 
>>> I so wish I had. I feel I have wasted so long a time. I really thought I
>>> could make it work.
>>> 
>>> The trainers kept telling me to work on different techniques, and I did. I
>>> wanted it to work so badly. Of course when they picked him up, they told
>>> me
>>> it was a total mis-match from the beginning, and that I should never have
>>> left the school with that dog.
>>> 
>>> A lot of good that does now - over 3 and a half years later.
>>> 
>>> 
>>> 
>>> This has been such a bad experience from the beginning, I don't know if I
>>> will ever want to go through the experience again.
>>> 
>>> 
>>> 
>>> I guess I am looking for some words of wisdom from you guys, and some help
>>> to go through this grief I am feeling at losing my best friend, even
>>> though
>>> he was not the best guide dog.
>>> 
>>> 
>>> 
>>> You can be critical of me too, just please not to hard just yet, because I
>>> am so sad.  I only wish I knew then what I know now.
>>> 
>>> 
>>> 
>>> Thanks for any support.
>>> 
>>> 
>>> 
>>> Daniel
>>> 
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