[nagdu] Indoor Behavior - So Confused

[avapup.7 at gmail.com]

Thank you CL,

You made good points about just going ahead and doing these things without waiting for my family's approval or input. Truly, moving back with my family makes me feel like a teenager again, and not in any good ways!!

So far today, I've had Cocoa gated into my room with me or on leash. It's gone well so far, but I know the complaints about her barking will start up again. But all I can do is my best, and perhaps begin to look for a roommate or an apartment within my price range. 

It's also hard because I have a miniature Poodle who is absolutely spoiled by my dad, whereas I just treat him like any other dog. But my poodle is allowed to be hyper, run the house ( literally run ), jump on furniture, and in spite of all I do to stop it, my dad just won't listen. And he'd NEVER tolerate that behavior from Cocoa. Very frustrating, and not easy living at home as an adult. 

But I've got to set my mind to a place where -- yes, I am an adult. Yes, I am responsible for Cocoa's behavior -- as well as for her not getting yelled at ( or myself yelled at ) for her behavior.

Thank you!

Ava and Cocoa

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On Sep 9, 2012, at 7:06 AM, Cindy Ray <cindyray at gmail.com> wrote:

> Ugh, Ava, sounds like a difficult situation, and it is one your family has contributed to. If dad has been throwing the dog food, then of course she will do things like that. A dog remains a dog. If a bag of chips are left opened on the floor, almost any dog, if it sees the opportunity, willgo into it. I know this has to be hard, but don't wait for them to tell you what they want you to do about the tie down or leash; put her on it yourself. You are in your early thirties and shouldn't need to be asking permission about that. I think you need to explain to the family that you are doing what you can and that you are seeing a double standard here. They say you are a bad handler, yet they do things to contribute to the dog's behavior. If the other dogs are barking, then she is going to bark, too. Mine does. I don't know what else to say, except take a stand, for real. If you know things that need doing, like leaving on a leash for a time, do them, and practice obedience. Make sure yyou are showing signs of working on the problem so that you know in your heart that you are, and I think in most ways you are. 
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