[nagdu] Nowhere to go?

Sarah coastergirl92 at gmail.com
Mon Sep 24 23:40:31 UTC 2012


What kind of fears does she have? My parents just know that I've 
dreamed about a guide dog since I was 7 and they just want me to 
follow it even though I'm starting to have a change of heart.

 ----- Original Message -----
From: "Lyn Gwizdak" <linda.gwizdak at cox.net
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Date sent: Sun, 23 Sep 2012 10:33:40 -0700
Subject: Re: [nagdu] Nowhere to go?

Autism!  OK, it makes sense now.

Sara, there are groups or organizations that work with autistic 
people -
Google "autism organizations" and you should get some.

I have a friend who is going to be 66 in a couple of weeks and we 
believe
she is on the autism spectrum.  Back when she was young, they 
didn't know
anything about it and she had alot of trouble with this all her 
life.  Now,
at age 66, she is getting ready to go for her doctorate in 
microbiology and
is doing very well.  She deals with fears alot but gets through 
them with
the help of a therapist.

Sara, please get some help with this so you can live a fairly 
normal life -
you owe it to yourself.  Why on earth hasn't your parents done 
anything
about this???  You have a life to live.

A guide dog will not work if you lack confidence.  The dog needs 
that in a
handler in order to do its job well.  Sounds like you've been 
roped into
getting a dog and that is not a good reason to get a guide dog.  
I truely
hope you get the proper help you need for your life.

Lyn and Landon
"Education creates tolerance towards diversity."
----- Original Message -----
From: "Cindy Ray" <cindyray at gmail.com
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Sent: Tuesday, September 18, 2012 6:03 PM
Subject: Re: [nagdu] Nowhere to go?


 You are on the autism spectrum.  That explains a lot of things.  
Is there
 any way you can move into a town where you can have more 
experiences? How
 will you deal with the anxieties that go with autism? Do you 
have
 aspergers, or is it another part of the spectrum.

 Cindy

 On Sep 18, 2012, at 7:42 PM, Sarah wrote:

 I meant to say Autism.

 ----- Original Message -----
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 Date sent: Tue, 18 Sep 2012 17:07:08 -0500
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 Don't understand what acthism is.
 CL

 On Sep 18, 2012, at 4:20 PM, Sarah wrote:

 i have some Achtism so if they ask questions about my dog I will 
answer
 them but I can easily get people to talk about roller coasters.

 ----- Original Message -----
 From: Cindy Ray <cindyray at gmail.com
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 Date sent: Tue, 18 Sep 2012 15:08:29 -0500
 Subject: Re: [nagdu] Nowhere to go?

 Only you can decide if you are motivated enough to get out.  
People are
 not afraid of your cane; people don't know how to interact with 
you
 because you are blind.  I once told my ex-husband that I thought 
people
 wouldn't think I was  normal if I had a dog.  He asked if I 
thought they
 did when I was using a cane; I had to concede that he had made a 
good
 point.  People like dogs, so they will talk to your dog, want to 
pet it,
 and even ask questions about it.  Sometimes if you are skillful, 
you may
 get them to interact with you about other things, but not 
necessarily.
 Of course, I have always had a problem with this myself, some 
people like
 it.

 Cindy

 On Sep 18, 2012, at 2:47 PM, Sarah wrote:

 People tell more that I should have the dog because it will 
motivate me
 to get out.  I have to go we've put in a lot of time and the dog 
has
 already been trained just for me.  So I have to go.

 ----- Original Message -----
 From: Cindy Ray <cindyray at gmail.com
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 Date sent: Tue, 18 Sep 2012 14:22:41 -0500
 Subject: Re: [nagdu] Nowhere to go?

 Sarah, I think you have a lot bigger worries than that.  Your 
real
 concerns need to be that you are able to care for the dog, that 
you are
 going to be able to go explore, that you are willing to learn 
how to go
 places on your own and then do it, which could mean going gainst 
your
 mom.  You are an adult now; you need to take on adult 
responsibilities
 that include flying from the  nest.  And I would discuss what 
the family
 is going to do about the poor laborador's problem.  Your dog 
will be on
 leash probably for a couple of weeks after you come home, or for 
a few
 days anyway, and gradually released from that depending on how 
it is
 adjusting.  There will have to be efforts made by everyone to 
make sure
 that the dog's messes are cleaned up.  You will be expected to 
take your
 dog out on leash to relieve it, especially if you don't have a 
fenced in
 yard, but it is good to do that anyway.  Knowing the habits of 
your dog
 and how firm the stools are helps you to know how your dog is 
feeling.
 There are lots and lots of concerns.  I am wondering if you 
should
 possibly change the date to another time.  I had mentioned it to 
you off
 list, but Julie was right.  One of the centers for the blind 
might be
 even better than an IL Center for you to get the help you need.  
I am
 concerned about the depression etc.

 CL

 On Sep 18, 2012, at 2:15 PM, Sarah wrote:

 I've always had big concerns and worries.  I'm very worried not 
because I
 don't want to go explore, I can't wait to do that there is so 
many slaces
 here to explore we have a zoo within walking distance.  Ikm 
worried
 because we have a handicaped Labrador who can't get around very 
well due
 to a tumor in her spinal cord and partial paralysis.  She can't 
control
 her bowel movements so she goes in the house and I'm concerned 
for my
 guide dog coming into a house where a dog poops and urinates.  I 
know she
 can't help it, but I'm worried.

 ----- Original Message -----
 From: "Vanessa Lowery" <vlowery at dhr.state.md.us
 To: "the National Association of Guide Dog Users NAGDU Mailing 
List"
 <nagdu at nfbnet.org
 Date sent: Tue, 18 Sep 2012 14:27:03 -0400
 Subject: Re: [nagdu] Nowhere to go?

 Yes, getting a dog is not only hard work in class, but is 
equally hard
 work when at home.  A person deciding to get a guide dog needs 
to get it
 because he/she wants to, not because family is pushing you to do 
so.
 Granted, as you self-reported, you talked about getting a guide 
dog since
 young childhood, but what is your current take on getting a 
guide dog.
 Are you doing so for you or to satisfay the family?

 No one is discouraging you from getting a guide dog, Sarah, and 
being
 located in a rural living arrangement is not insurmountable wht 
a guide
 dog.  But you would ahve to take the initiative to find ways to 
go places
 where the dog could be worked.  One person I know lives wiht her 
husband
 in a rural setting, but she is able to take walks in the 
neighborhood
 wiht her dog.  Additionally, the dog gets some work where my 
friend is
 employed, and she and her husband go into town so the dog can 
get work in
 stores.  They also visit flea markets where the dog gets work.  
In your
 case, you may need to explore if you can do some walking in your
 immediate area.  And you need to explore if there is a 
transportation
 resource you can use to get you into town.  I have concerns that 
your
 family thinks that a guide dog is a well-trained pet.  If that 
is their
 perception, I have some real concerns.



 Vanessa Lowery, LGSW
 Adult and Community Services Division
 Adult Services Screening Unit
 410-853-3550
 VLowery at dhr.state.md.us


 Cindy Ray <cindyray at gmail.com> 9/18/2012 2:12 PM
 If you are getting the dog for the family, then you should 
really change
 your mind, I think, and get a pet.  Is there any possibility of 
your
 moving? Hou said you were in an independenbt living program for 
six
 months, but now you aren't.  You are twenty; the world is your 
future,
 but you have to help make it happen.  Fear holds us back so we 
have to
 just push through it, getting the help we need along the way.

 CL

 On Sep 18, 2012, at 1:08 PM, Sarah wrote:

 I want to just get a pet but sty family all want me to have a 
guide dog
 because I've been talking about it since I was 7.  But now that 
I'm 20, I
 just feel too tired and I don't have that get up and go like I 
used to.
 I kind of just feel like sleeping all day because I live so far 
away from
 Magic Mountain.  I've been everywhere up in this desert lots of 
times and
 we only go shopping once a week.

 ----- Original Message -----
 From: "Tracy Carcione" <carcione at access.net
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 Date sent: Tue, 18 Sep 2012 14:04:27 -0400
 Subject: [nagdu] Nowhere to go?

 Hi Sarah.
 I wonder why you want a dog, if you feel you have nowhere to go?

 I am old enough to see the glimmer of retirement in my 
future--not soon,
 but not impossibly far off, either.  But I think that even after 
I
 retire,
 I'll have places to go.  I'll still have the usual trips around 
town--the
 grocery, diner, pharmacy, shopping...though those won't be every 
day.  I
 hope to do a bit of travelling.  And to get out and walk, 
preferably
 every
 day, just to keep myself fit.  I've had 6 guide dogs now, and 
every one
 of
 them has done best when they've gotten regular work.  Ben, my 
current
 dog,
 doesn't require miles and miles a day, and can take one day off 
a week
 with no problem, but he still gets squirrely if I don't work him 
for any
 length of time.
 I think my dogs will still get enough work, once I'm retired, 
but it does
 concern me a bit.  If I felt I really had nowhere to go, or no 
desire to
 go
 anywhere, I'd just get myself a pet.  But, being somewhat prone 
to cabin
 fever, I don't see that happening any time soon.

 Tracy

 Dang it now I'm worried.  I really have no desire to go 
anywhere.
 I just fel too tired

 ----- Original Message -----
 From: Cindy Ray <cindyray at gmail.com
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 Date sent: Tue, 18 Sep 2012 11:51:55 -0500
 Subject: Re: [nagdu] Downtime in class

 No, I don't do that.  I should, but because I am currently not
 going much of anywhere, I've gotten out of the habit.  I kind of
 wish I did, and maybe I'll start.  That's probably one of the
 reasons I won't get any dogs after this one.  I don't think he's
 getting a fair shake.  I hope I don't change my mind.

 CL

 On Sep 18, 2012, at 11:47 AM, Sarah wrote:

 Cool thanks.  How often do you walk your dog? Do
 you walk 3-5 miles every day?
 ----- Original Message -----
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 Ah, you'll be fine.  It is always exciting before you go for the
 dog.  I think you are going to have a fine time of it.

 Cindy

 On Sep 17, 2012, at 11:10 PM, Sarah wrote:

 That's exciting! I'm still kind of worried, but I'll do it.

 ----- Original Message -----
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 His name is Fisher.  Let's see.  I think they brought him to my
 room.  We walked around the room a lot.  He sniffed me and we
 cuddled.  At our school, they had us go out on their leisure 
path
 with the harness and an instructor attched to him, too, with the
 leash.  Then later we took them out to relieve and have dinner.
 He mostly tried to keep him close and see what toys he liked,
 though I went slow with this.  Some dogs, when you first get
 them, whine a lot because they hear familiar voices as others 
are
 being given dogs by the same instructor.  Some are restless the
 first night or so when they are with you; I've never had a lot 
of
 trouble with that with any of the dogs.

 CL

 On Sep 17, 2012, at 6:39 PM, Sarah wrote:

 What's his name? What was it like when you first met him?

 ----- Original Message -----
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 I think they can sense  your moods.  I think they definitely
 know the difference between stressed and calm.  I have a lab and
 golden cross.  He is six.

 CL

 On Sep 17, 2012, at 6:17 PM, Sarah wrote:

 that's awesome! I am so excited to have a dog.  Can dogs sense
 how you are feel, can they sense your moods? What kind of dog do
 you have?

 ----- Original Message -----
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 Date sent: Mon, 17 Sep 2012 18:12:22 -0500
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 \Hi, Sarah, I am Cindy.  You know, it depends on the dog.  I am
 a firm believer in spending a lot of time in the process of
 bonding with my dog, especially the first few days.  If the
 person who trained you is your trainer, they will look to that
 person for a while, but you will start to see a switch over in a
 few days.  When you take that dog home, I think the bonding
 increases because now it has left all it knows behind except 
you,
 so it trusts you.  You will have work to do to become a solid
 team, but your dog and you will have already begun a strong
 bonding that will only get stronger.  I think the key is a lot 
of
 attention, especially at first and mostly from you, corrections
 when you have to, and lots of praise when the dog does something
 right and well.

 CL


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