[nagdu] A bit of a dilemma.

[Vivianna]

hi jim,
i also see this as a big problem.
teenagers can be extremely cruel and distructive.  remember being one yourself?  if she does not want you to have a guide dog, for whatever reason, she could harm your bonding or the training of the dog.  it’s my opinion that, all members of a household agree on having a guide dog in the home.
you surely don’t want to put a young newly trained dog into a situation like that.
also, dogs can sense stress and tension in the home, which is not a good thing.
just my opinion.

Vivianna

On Sep 2, 2014, at 7:53 AM, Cindy Ray via nagdu <nagdu at nfbnet.org> wrote:

> I think this is more than a bit of a dilemma. It’s a serious problem. I wonder why the child doesn’t want you to get a dog? Is she afraid? 
> 
> I think you, not the girlfriend need to talk to the teenager about this, probably the two of you together. She doesn’t get to decide if you are getting the dog, and if the mother and daughter don’t have a great relationship anyway, then she isn’t going to sway her daughter. How do you mean the girl accepts you for the most part. What part doesn’t she accept? If you feel the dog will be that big an advantage, then you need to go for it. If you have good, or reasonably good, mobility skills without one, you might wait a few years, but if you are determined to get a dog, you should do so. I think a firm decision and a frank discussion are in order. Ultimately, though, you alone know the consequences of this decision, what it will do to your family dynamic, etc. 
> 
> Cindy
> . 
> On Sep 2, 2014, at 7:24 AM, Jim Jones via nagdu <nagdu at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> 
>> Hi all, I appologize for not posting for so long. I'm in a bit of a spot. 
>> I have apps in at 3 schools. I think I've been accepted to one of them for sure. The issue is, my girlfriend's alright with the fact that I'm getting a dog, but her 14 year old step daughter isn't at all. I'm living with them. They don't have a good relationship to begin with, and my girlfriend says she'll talk to the step daughter about my coming home with the dog while I'm in training. The step daughter accepts me, for the most part. 
>> Is there any advice on how to handle this from my end of things? My girlfriend knows what the dog is for, and how much help it will be when I get one. 
>> 
>> Jim Jones 
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