[nagdu] Signed up by family?

Fri Jun 19 18:38:55 UTC 2015

Hi Tracy and all,

I have a lot of thoughts on this.  I think that PR like this does a
lot more harm than good.  Here's why:

1. It promotes the idea that guide dogs are miracles or magical: I
love the bond, the way I walk with a dog, but at the end of the day,
he is a dog who loves to work, and we are a team.  We had to work hard
to get where we are, and using a dog still isn't perfect.  Yes,
getting a guide dog can change your life, but is it miraculous, the
being that will solve all of your problems as a blind person?  No.  I
don't think so.

2. The blind person is patronized: This should be obvious, but in
order to make themselves look good, the schools make us seem helpless
without their services.  In addition, in this case, the blind person
is made to seem as though he didn't even make a decision on the
matter.

3. Guides are portrayed as rights rather than privileges: Not every
person should work a guide dog.  Not every person would benefit from
one, and some people are denied dogs because of poor mobility skills
or other reasons.  What happened to the blind person working hard on
their cane skills to go to guide dog school?  For something that comes
with so much responsibility, getting a dog surely seems like a simple
process.

4. They support the myth that blind people must have guide dogs to
travel: This is similar to number two, but now I direct your attention
to the society at large.  Cane users are asked why they don't have
dogs, treated differently, and there are blind people who resent guide
dog users.  I believe that this kind of PR leads to this behavior.
Blind people buy into the idea that they can't without their dog, and
boom!  Resentment from other blind people who choose not to use a dog
and a misinformed public.

I should also add that there are other factors that influence these
things, especially the notions of the public.  These are just some
ideas I've had.

On 6/19/15, Tracy Carcione via nagdu <nagdu at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> Hi Minh.
> I respectfully disagree, but perhaps the loved ones we each have in mind
> are
> different.  I think my husband would benefit from having a guide dog, and I
> think he'd do well with one, but he says he's not interested.  Trying to
> nudge him along would just annoy him and make him dig in his heels.  The
> most I can do is point out ways my dog helps me, or ways it would help in
> some situation, and even that I'd better not keep harping on.  I strongly
> believe it's a choice a person has to make himself.  Family and friends can
> advise and encourage, but that's it.
>
> The GDB newsletter is PR, and I'm sure it's not entirely accurate, but I
> think we have every right to expect even PR to treat us as intelligent
> adults who can and do make decisions for ourselves. I understand that a
> school might feel some sloppiness is needed, but they can go too far, and
> then we should speak up, or at least point it out.  JMO.
> Tracy
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: nagdu [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of minh ha via
> nagdu
> Sent: Friday, June 19, 2015 12:06 PM
> To: NAGDU Mailing List, the National Association of Guide Dog Users
> Cc: minh ha
> Subject: Re: [nagdu] Signed up by family?
>
> The GDB newsletter is a promotional email that they send out to everyone,
> so
> obviously some details are blurred a little bit. I don't think I've ever
> seen marketing material from any guide dog school that truly portrays the
> guide dog process accurately or adequately. What probably happened was they
> discussed it, but he needed some extra pushing from his wife. And
> personally, as someone who is in a long and committed relationship, I would
> do the exact same thing if I whole heartedly believe that the person that I
> love truly needed a guide dog, but was too afraid to do so himself.
>
> Maybe it's a different process for those who lose vision later on in life.
> The adjustment period can last a really really long time and some blind
> people just require that extra nudge to get them going again.
>
> Minh
>
> On 6/19/15, Lisa via nagdu <nagdu at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>> Hi Tracy,
>>
>> I completely agree with you. Of course it's great when others
>> encourage a person to  consider getting a guide dog. But it's just the
>> same as getting someone a puppy for Christmas, only even worse. It's
>> meant as a nice gift or
>>
>> idea but it's not thoughtful.
>>
>> You have to be 100% sure that you would like to share your life with a
>> guide
>>
>> dog. There's so much you have to learn and plan. In the beginning,
>> there are
>>
>> so many things that can be challenging and exhausting while becoming a
> team.
>>
>> As everyone on here knows, it's not like getting somebody a cane. You
>> have to be willing to get up in the middle of the night when doggy has
>> got diarrhea because he's eaten something wrong. That's just one
>> single example,
>>
>> I could probably think of 100 others.
>> The decision to apply for a guide dog has to come from yourself
>> because you
>>
>> will be the one responsible for your guide.
>>
>> Well, of course we don't know whether the wife and husband had been
>> talking
>>
>> about the possibility of getting a guide dog before. Maybe the husband
>> knew
>>
>> about his wife signing him up and it's just a nice story for the
>> public. But
>>
>> if not,I think it's irresponsible and I don't see why a guide dog
>> program would want other people to sign their relatives and friends up
>> because it's
>>
>> likely they're facing a lot of difficulties then.
>>
>> Just my humble and spontaneous opinion :-)
>>
>> Lisa
>>
>>
>>
>>
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> From: "Tracy Carcione via nagdu" <nagdu at nfbnet.org>
>> To: "'NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users'"
>> <nagdu at nfbnet.org>
>> Cc: "Tracy Carcione" <carcione at access.net>
>> Sent: Friday, June 19, 2015 5:25 PM
>> Subject: [nagdu] Signed up by family?
>>
>>
>>>I just got the GDB newsletter for the general public, and there's a
>>>bit I  think is odd or over-the-top or patronizing, really.
>>>
>>> So-and-so suddenly lost his sight, and found ways to go on for years,
>>> but felt something was missing.  Then "his wife stepped in and signed
>>> him up for a guide dog, and, before he knew it, he was at GDB, being
>>> matched with his new partner."
>>>
>>> Really?  I've sometimes wished I could "sign someone up" for a guide
>>> dog, but it takes a real commitment from the person to get through
>>> the training and the first few months of adjustment, at least.  It's
>>> not a decision someone else could take for me, or me for someone
>>> else.
>>>
>>> When my brother fell down a manhole using his cane, my mother did sit
>>> him down and tell him he should get a guide dog, like his sister.  He
>>> decided
>>>
>>> it
>>> was good advice, and has been happy with the decision, but, if he'd
>>> decided otherwise, there wouldn't be a darn thing anyone could have
>>> done about it, even if they'd wanted to try.
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>> The GDB piece just seemed weird to me.  Why would they even want to
>>> encourage someone to sign up someone else?  What makes them think I
>>> have a keeper, who can make life-changing decisions for me?
>>>
>>> Has anyone actually heard of such a thing happening?
>>>
>>> Tracy
>>>
>>>
>>>
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-- 
Julie McGinnity
National Federation of the Blind of Missouri second vice president,
National Federation of the Blind performing arts division secretary,
Missouri Association of Guide dog Users President
graduate, Guiding Eyes for the Blind 2008, 2014
"For we walk by faith, not by sight"
2 Cor. 7