[NAGDU] [nagdu] Preferential Treatment was: Blanket Prosciption Against Advance Notice

Fri Dec 9 22:28:04 UTC 2016

   I agree that many blind people are very upset about things like pre-boarding, handicapped %plates and plackards, paratransit, and or  cheapper fares.  Then they are rude about it.  The same goes for people that feel that they are owed special treatment because they are blind.  
I was told that  as a blind person we shape peoples of blindness.  I have had lots of people tell me what some blind person treated them.  I had a cab driver that told me he said to a blind persoñ that there was a paratransit systim in town.  The person said, "I don't do that."  Like it was something very bad.
I am like othersen  I do use lots of things like pre-boarding. The bottom line is you can pick your battles, and you can be considerate.  We have the right to make a choice and not let others make us feel badly about it.  I will make arrangements other than waiting for a bus in extrime cold or heat.  I will not let others make me feel like I am not a "good blind person", because I am exercising my freedom of choice.  

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From: Star Gazer via NAGDU  <nagdu at nfbnet.org>
To: his'NAGDU Mailing List, the National Association of Guide Dog Users'"        <nagdu at nfbnet.org>
Date: 12/08/2016 9:49 am
Subject: Re: [NAGDU] [nagdu] Preferential Treatment was: Blanket Prosciption Against Advance Notice

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>				Some people just don't like being told no,
> and not a lick of politeness will change that. 
> Something about you as a person made that woman offer you assistance so take
> heart. I think had it been me, I'd have said "I'm sorry you've had negative
> experiences" and then I'd wonder why she was telling me. Makes me wonder if
> you'd said "No thank you" if you'd also have been "rude".
> 
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> Against Advance Notice
> 
> Hello:
> 
> I am always very grateful when the airline moves me t a better seat.  That
> is much better than my dog being squished in a tight place and the passenger
> sitting next to me complaining about having to be near a dog.  I consider
> that a reasonable accommodation.  I feel the same about preboarding.  If
> they are willing to let me get myself and the dog settled before the other
> passengers begin pushing and shoving then I am all for it.  I do not think
> in any it is demeaning to us as blind people.  It is no different than them
> allowing extra time for someone using a walker or wheelchair.  Let's get
> real, it does take us a bit longer to get ourselves settled and avoiding the
> crowd is much better, especially when people these days are so impatient and
> likely to cause a fuss.  I think many blind people are much too sensitive to
> what some of you consider preferential treatment.  If you were a senior
> citizen who needed more time would you think it was wrong to let them have
> it?  no, you probably wouldn't.  I think we have to quit being so judgmental
> of others.  If you do not want what you consider as preferential treatment
> then politely decline it but don't knock anyone else for taking it.  Show
> appreciation for any airline or any other public transportation or
> accommodation for being kind enough to offer you a better place for you and
> your dog.  Changing the public attitude about blindness goes both ways.  We
> cannot insist on respect if we become rude whenever anyone tries to be nice
> to us.  One day many years ago I was in New York city.  I was at a very busy
> intersection waiting for the traffic light to change.  I did not know that
> signal was out of order until a person came up to me to offer assistance. 
> That woman said she was very reluctant to offer assistance because many
> times she had been yelled at by blind people when she offered to help them. 
> She said she found blind people to be very rude and hostile.  Obviously this
> is not the image we want to give the public.  Therefore, if you do not want
> assistance or to take advantage of other accommodations you don't think you
> deserve, then please decline with extreme politeness and consideration.
> 
> Sandra Johnson and Eva
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> Sent: Friday, December 02, 2016 3:24 PM
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> Subject: Re: [NAGDU] [nagdu] Preferential Treatment was: Blanket Prosciption
> Against Advance Notice
> 
> I think that comparison is a bit of stretch, Marion.
> 
> If the regular seats would fit ordinary humans, I might consider it
> preferential treatment, but since they don't, I think it is a reasonable
> accommodation.
> 
> I don't mind paying for adequate space, by the way, but I also don't mind
> not being charged for it.
> 
> David and Claire Rose in Clearwater, FL
> 
> On 12/2/2016 1:16 PM, Buddy Brannan via NAGDU wrote:
> > This is a little like what we hear so many times about God giving us a 
> > keener sense of hearing or touch to compensate for our blindness.
> 
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