[Sportsandrec] Sportsandrec Digest, Vol 102, Issue 3

Tue Sep 9 21:33:45 UTC 2014

Hi there,

George, how do you make sure that someone is getting something out of
what you're doing together? I fear that people may be entirely genuine
in saying that they're getting something positive out of a
relationship when, for them, it's merely a charitable act. Part of me
is fine with that. Why deny people the right to feel good about
helping me when I truly need help? On the other hand, part of me is
extremely uncomfortable with that dynamic. There's something in me
which demands to be an established equal. I have to chew on that a bit
more...

J

On 9/9/14, George McDermith via Sportsandrec <sportsandrec at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>   Hi J,
>
>   A great question, as I too am very keen on making sure my work out
> partners are getting something out of what we are doing. I agree, if
> it is a charity case, then things will fall off as soon as the do good
> desire wanes in the person.
>
>   I tandem cycle, and tend to conform my rides to what my captain
> wants- i.e. if they can only go for 10-15 miles I take them up on it,
> and attempt to find someone who is more willing to do 50-75 for
> another ride. I also offer my thanks, and try to make sure it is a win
> win for myself and my partner. Whenever I feel like it is leaning
> towards charity I double check and make sure they are getting
> something out of what we are doing. If they still seem to be leaning
> towards charity after this talk I assume that they will not be long
> for our partnership. Nothing is fool proof of course, but this has
> seemed to work for me.
>
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>>    1. question (maryjane griffith)
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>>    3. Gym Partners (J Louchart)
>>    4. Re: Gym Partners (Carly Mihalakis)
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>> Date: Mon, 8 Sep 2014 13:39:58 -0500
>> From: "maryjane griffith" <timbersgirl219 at gmail.com>
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>> Hello,
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>> My name is maryann and I am from Louisiana. I was wondering if there is
>> anyone in Louisiana who knows about any  sports for the blind around my
>> area.
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>> Thanks
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>> maryann
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>> From: judoheidi at comcast.net
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>> From: J Louchart <jalouchart at gmail.com>
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>> Subject: [Sportsandrec] Gym Partners
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>> Hi there,
>>
>> Technical question: Which methods do you folks use to find people with
>> whom to go to the gym?
>>
>> Social question: How do you prevent an activity based friendship from
>> becoming a service based friendship? That is, my caution regarding a
>> running partner is that I don't want the partner to be performing a
>> charity service for me. I find that the charity-service mentality
>> doesn't lend itself to a long partnership. Thoughts?
>>
>> J
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>> --
>> J Louchart
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>> "Everyone is a genius; but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb
>> a tree, it will live its whole life believing it is stupid." -- Albert
>> Einstein
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>> Date: Mon, 08 Sep 2014 12:30:12 -0700
>> From: Carly Mihalakis <carlymih at comcast.net>
>> To: J Louchart <jalouchart at gmail.com>,	Sports and Recreation for the
>> 	Blind Discussion List	<sportsandrec at nfbnet.org>, 	Sports and
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>> Good morning, J,
>>
>> Well, if you get yourself involved with say a gym, or somewhere where
>> working out is not particularly exceptional, it's something people do
>> in the coarse of practicing normalcy. 12:01 PM 9/8/2014, J Louchart
>> via Sportsandrec wrote:
>>>Hi there,
>>>
>>>Technical question: Which methods do you folks use to find people with
>>>whom to go to the gym?
>>>
>>>Social question: How do you prevent an activity based friendship from
>>>becoming a service based friendship? That is, my caution regarding a
>>>running partner is that I don't want the partner to be performing a
>>>charity service for me. I find that the charity-service mentality
>>>doesn't lend itself to a long partnership. Thoughts?
>>>
>>>J
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>--
>>>J Louchart
>>>
>>>"Everyone is a genius; but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb
>>>a tree, it will live its whole life believing it is stupid." -- Albert
>>>Einstein
>>>
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-- 
J Louchart

"Everyone is a genius; but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb
a tree, it will live its whole life believing it is stupid." -- Albert
Einstein