[stylist] DBG 7 and domestic violence

[helene ryles]

In my case there were scenes in our house but in this case the saying
'it takes two to tango' went since neither my parents were both at it.
I don't consider them abusive as such. Not physically abusive although
they  did throw tantrums around us and break things. So it was a good
thing when they got seperated.
The experience I had as an adult was differant though. It was
physically as well as verbally abusive. It took my money but wouldn't
accept who I was.

Helene

On 17/09/2009, Judith Bron <jbron at optonline.net> wrote:
> Statisticly sons who grow up in a home where the father is an abuser, the
> son has a better chance of being an abuser also.  The same goes for a girl
> in a home where the mother is being abused.  She will probably marry a man
> who will abuse her.  The stats also show that the abused woman will go back
> over and over to the man who is abusing her.  If the man is brought up on
> criminal charges for his abuse, the woman will most often defend his actions
> in a court of law.  You are right.  It defies logic.  Judith
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>> Barbara: Thanks for your comments.
>> Mr Murat is weak.
>> He is also in love with this woman despite her nature. You would be
>> amazed by things people over look when they are in love with someone.
>> I've been through that sort of thing myself so I know first hand the
>> kind of things one will do when one is in love with someone. Even
>> after that person hurts me. Love is illogical and doesn't have any
>> sense.
>> I did meet a certain person who I was in love with. I also took drugs
>> at the time which did have an affect of weakening thing my character.
>> I'm a lot stronger now, but I've not been out with anyone else since
>> then.
>> I actually had a pillow stuffed over my head and I couldn't breathe. I
>> felt my life was in danger. The social worker got involved but I ended
>> up denying everything. I told them nothing had really happened (which
>> wasnt true). That has to be one of the dumbest things I ever did in my
>> life since it made it harder when I eventually decided to leave.
>> That was a few months after getting my second guide dog. I spent 3
>> weeks at guide dog training centre. Those 3 weeks were a great help to
>> me. When I went back I was differant so I eventually left and made
>> myself intentionally homeless since I still didn't want to talk about
>> what happened there.
>>
>> I didn't leave because of what they were doing to me, but they Jilli
>> was being drawn in too. Their dog was attacking her and she had to
>> watch me being attacked too. If it wasn't for Jilli I think I would
>> have stayed longer.
>>
>> Helene
>> Helene
>>
>> On 16/09/2009, Barbara Hammel <poetlori8 at msn.com> wrote:
>>> What if he was an exceedingly weak person who had no resources if his
>>> current situation were to change?
>>> Maybe he knows the truth but is more scared of her than the consequences
>>> of
>>> what she does?
>>> I also thought Liza was angered too quckly.
>>> Barbara
>>>
>>> If wisdom's ways you wisely seek, five things observe with care:  of whom
>>> you speak, to whom you speak, and how and when and where.
>>>
>>> --------------------------------------------------
>>> From: <LoriStay at aol.com>
>>> Sent: Wednesday, September 16, 2009 10:01 AM
>>> To: <stylist at nfbnet.org>
>>> Subject: Re: [stylist] DBG 7 (completely new chapter)
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>>>> David, a social worker, says no one is in denial that long, and after he
>>>> realized the truth, he wouldn't go back to denial.
>>>> Lori
>>>> In a message dated 9/15/09 6:31:05 PM, dreamavdb at googlemail.com writes:
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> Why does it take the husband four children to realize what a monster he
>>>>> married?
>>>>> He is in denial. He loves this woman even though he must have realised
>>>>> what she's like.
>>>>>
>>>>
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