[stylist] interesting Background info for a good blindness story

Thu Apr 5 12:09:32 UTC 2012

Have you read the book _Cock Eyed_? It is the story of the author who was 
blind. It is hilarious as we are taken into his situations with women and 
dating. He is married now and is a college professor - an English Prof. and 
has a great life.  I think you would enjoy this book and might just get some 
tips for finding your lady, too.  Happy hunting!  Lynda

Lynda Lambert
104 River Road
Ellwood City, PA 16117

724 758 4979

My Blog:  http://www.walkingbyinnervision.blogspot.com
My Website:  http://lyndalambert.com

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "justin williams" <justin.williams2 at gmail.com>
To: "'Writer's Division Mailing List'" <stylist at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Thursday, April 05, 2012 12:30 AM
Subject: Re: [stylist] interesting Background info for a good blindness 
story

> That's rough.  In the south, I encounter a lot of closed minded people; 
> more
> than in any other part of the country.  All the classy women, you know the
> ones who have college degrees and who are close to our level of skilled 
> and
> intelligence, don't seem to want you because they know they can get a man
> who can see; including the ones on Match.com, and they all say there so 
> open
> minded; isn't that a joke.  I nearly choke every time I hear it.  I refuse
> to settle.  Not only have I tried the dating web sites, I have traveled 
> all
> over the city; frequenting a number of different settings such as house
> parties, churches,  and other social establishments; seemingly to no 
> avail.
> I have found very few instances where a woman was interested.  I get 
> treated
> as more of a curiosity.  My best conversations seem to be with married 
> women
> probably because neither they, nor their husbands consider me a threat;
> isn't that uplifting.  We already know that most women don't consider us
> viable mates already; I mean, that is what the article said right! It just
> agreed with my own findings didn't it.  I hope I'm wrong.  I am black, and 
> I
> know very few blind men married to sighted women; especially amongst my
> race, though race to me is no object; a good thing, for I can truly claime
> the open minded trait that seems to be so elusive to most.  Now I realize
> that you guys are a captive audience, so if you wish to get at me for
> venting just a little, then please, feel free.  Understand however, that I
> am really sending this to God; though he already knows.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: stylist-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:stylist-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Robert Leslie Newman
> Sent: Wednesday, April 04, 2012 9:42 AM
> To: writers nfb
> Subject: [stylist] interesting Background info for a good blindness story
>
> I got this article from the NFBTalk list: the subject line read- Blindness
> and sexuality
>
>
>
> Blindness and Sexuality: Researching Myths and Facts Summary Report:
>
>
>
> Distributed by: National Data Distribution Center (NDDC)
>
>
>
> April 1, 2009
>
>
>
> Atlanta Georgia
>
>
>
>
>
> The two hundredth anniversary of the birth of Louis Braille is being
> celebrated by the US mint with the production of a silver coin 
> commemorating
> the man who created the modern reading system used by many blind people.
>
> Unfortunately, although blind people work and live normal lives, they are
> still different in many ways and their experiences are a matter of 
> curiosity
> amongst the sighted population.  For most of us, the question, "What is it
> like to be blind?," has entered our minds more than once.
>
>
>
>
>
> Research, some of it useful and much of it not, about how people who are
> blind perceive the world, abounds.  One of the more interesting topics of
> study is sexuality among the blind.  The story, goes that blind people are
> incredible sexual partners--somehow being extremely sensitive to their
> partners and, being able to stimulate them far more than the average 
> person.
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
> Masters and Johnson were so intrigued by this subject that they collected
> data over several years from those who had had sex with blind people.
>
> Surprisingly, what they thought would be myths, turned out to be true. The
> results were stunning.  On average, women rated their blind partners 9.1 
> on
> a scale of 10.  The average rating was five for sighted partners.
>
>
>
>
>
> "This research has been duplicated several times," says Author Mary Roach,
> author of, 2008 best seller, Bonk: the Curious Coupling of Science and 
> Sex.
>
> The data hasn't attracted much attention because blindness is such a low
> incidence event.  "We usually print things that have broad interest.  And,
> even though this indicates that blind people are incredibly sexual, there
> aren't really enough of them to go around."
>
>
>
>
>
> Comments from sighted partners were astounding.  "He seemed like he knew 
> my
> soul," from a 23 year old female.  "Her tongue knew just how to touch 
> every
> part of me if you know what I mean," from a college male.  One woman
> commented, "The things he could do with his fingers were beyond 
> description
> in this survey.  It's not that he was built bigger than other men, it just
> seemed like he touched me inside with it all over,"  she said with a shy
> smile.
>
>
>
>
>
> When William Masters was asked, in a 1971 interview, why he didn't draw 
> more
> attention to these findings he said, "I didn't know anything about
> blindness.  We were publishing information of general interest about
> sexuality and this just didn't fit that mold.  Perhaps some day 
> researchers
> will help us understand why blind people have such incredible sexual
> capacities and we'll be able to use that information to increase the
> abilities of others.  Until then, a very few lucky men and women will
> experience the phenomena of sex with a blind person."
>
>
>
>
>
> There is a down side to this research.  When interviewed, blind people
> generally expressed frustration about sexuality.  Broadly speaking, they
> divided sighted people into three groups.  First is the group who simply
> want to have sex with them for the thrill and experience of it.  "We feel
> used," was the most common thing reported.  second, was the group who 
> simply
> couldn't see themselves with a blind husband or wife.  "They want to be 
> with
> us, but don't see us as fathers and mothers, for example,"  was often 
> heard.
>
> the third group were those who "get it" as one blind man put it.  "They 
> can
> see beyond blindness and except us for who we are.  Blindness just fades
> into the background and becomes another characteristic."
>
>
>
>
>
> The sad truth is that although blind people work, raise families, travel
> independently and generally speaking, live normal lives, the public
> perception is the opposite.  The image of the helpless beggar still lurks 
> in
> our minds.  Sighted people report that the fear of blindness overwelms 
> their
> rationality.  "I know that I shouldn't let blindness interfere with how I
> think about my partner, but, I can't help it," said a young college 
> student
> engaged to a blind physicist working at NASA.  "Yes, he has money, and 
> yes,
> he's sexy, and oh, my god, can he please me, if you know what I mean.  The
> hardest thing is getting over this image of him as a helpless blind man. 
> We
> sail, bike ride and horse back ride.  I can't think of anything he can't 
> do
> except drive, but, I'll admit, the image of a helpless blind man still
> haunts me.  People look at him with such pity and I just want to scream,
> "You don't get it you fools.""  But she admits that making the decision to
> mary is difficult.
>
>
>
>
>
> Chad, a young blind college student says he finds the whole sex thing a 
> bit
> distracting.  "Sure I can please women more than my sighted friends can, 
> and
> frankly, it's because they just don't pay attention to women and what 
> their
> bodies and hearts are saying.  Women will tell you everything you need to
> know if you just listen and feel."
>
>
>
>
>
> We give you all of this information with the caviat that perhaps only one 
> in
> six thousand people is an eligible blind man or woman, so, happy 
> searching.
>
>
>
>
>
> Robert Leslie Newman
>
> Personal Website-
>
> Adjustment To Blindness And Visual impairment
>
> http//www.thoughtprovoker.info
>
> NFB Writers' Division, president
>
> http://www.nfb-writers-division.net
>
> Chair of the NFB Communications Committee
>
>
>
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