[stylist] Some parting thoughts

[PAUL BAVER]

No one is perfect, I for one think that you are perfectly correct, in how 
you feel. Reaching out to each other is more of a gift, then we know, 
learning is a blessing, I think that pet peeves, when introduced to such a 
passionate group of writers, can be very dangerous. I think everyone should 
Kiss, and make up. Paul E Baver
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Donna Hill" <penatwork at epix.net>
To: "Writer's Division Mailing List" <stylist at nfbnet.org>; "Writer's 
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Sent: Saturday, March 31, 2012 2:37 PM
Subject: [stylist] Some parting thoughts


> Hi All,
>
> I have a few things to say about the current issues on this list.
>
>
>
> First, I want to apologize to Eve (and I'll try to find your personal
> e-mail, in case you're no longer with us). I got in-between whatever was
> going on with you and Bridgit and may have unwittingly added fuel to the
> fire.
>
>
>
> Bridgit, you are a bright and talented young woman and have much to offer.
> Nevertheless, your language of late has been a bit inflammatory and seems 
> to
> violate your rule about criticism needing to be done with kindness. Your
> comments to Eve that this list might not be the place for her and your
> recent post to Lynda in which you talk about the contributions you hoped 
> she
> would make or could have made (I paraphrase), are examples of what I am
> talking about. In the case of the latter, it suggests that your heart is
> already closed to Lynda. In the case of your comments to Eve, it would 
> have
> been sufficient to say what your understanding of the list was and the 
> value
> of that. Going any further is hurtful and judgmental. Frankly, when I read
> it, I regretted ever responding in support of your initial comments on the
> pet peeves thread in the first place.
>
>
>
> I challenge you to examine your use of language more closely and develop 
> an
> appreciation for the power of subtleties to engender negative reactions. 
> Try
> to edit them out of your posts and include them in fiction to strengthen 
> the
> development of tension and characters.
>
>
>
> Lynda, I'm sorry you are being subjected to this unpleasantness. I'm happy
> that you've had such a wonderful experience on the other NFB list, but 
> this
> sort of thing is an unfortunate occurrence that occasionally troubles all
> lists, sighted or blind. In fact, if my guess is correct about the list to
> which you referred, I can assure you that there have been incidents there 
> as
> well. When you first posted your pet peeves question, I had a nasty 
> feeling
> that it was in itself an inflammatory subject. Since you obviously weren't
> expecting any feuding on the list, you wouldn't have known this.  Everyone
> loves to complain, myself included, and vent about their dislikes, but it
> can easily get out of hand when it is taken or meant personally.
>
>
>
> I think that we, as members of a population which is below par in the 
> areas
> of income, employment, opportunity and social acceptance, are closer to 
> the
> ragged edge than the general public - and they are pretty close 
> themselves.
> This doesn't excuse unkindness and it can be argued that it ought to give 
> us
> a better understanding of how words and attitudes can hurt. Nonetheless, 
> we
> don't live in an ideal world, and people occasionally lash out.
>
>
>
> The NFB is a wonderful organization with many great programs, ideas and
> people, but to suspect that there isn't any politics, back-stabbing or
> inconsideration of any type is a bit pie-in-the-sky, in my opinion. That's
> human nature, and we are not immune to it.
>
>
>
> I was surprised to hear that some feel we aren't doing much sharing of 
> work
> on this list. It comes and goes, but I thought a few months ago, we were
> going hot and heavy for a time. Anyway, I'm at my own ragged edge, and I
> need to take a break from the list for a little while to get my own house 
> in
> order. No, Robert, I'm not leaving the division and will get my dues paid
> soon. Be gentle with one another and keep writing.
>
> Blessings,
>
> Donna
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