[stylist] my next project

[Julie J.]

Chris,

Yes, this exactly!  I don't intend to write a book on how to be a blind 
spouse, but more along the lines of using my own blindness experience as an 
example within a larger context.  There was quite a bit of interest in this 
topic, so I think I'm going to start jotting down my ideas and see where it 
goes.

My first thought was that marriage, or any long term intimate relationship, 
is not equal and is not a democracy.  It can't be.   There are two people, 
one votes yes and the other votes no.  In the end someone has to come out 
ahead and the other deals with it.   I don't think I've seen marriage talked 
about in quite this way.  Perhaps it's an idea to ponder further.

Thanks to all of you!  I will update as I progress...probably when I get 
stuck and need a fresh perspective!  You guys are awesome!

Julie
Courage to Dare: A Blind Woman's Quest to Train her Own Guide Dog is now 
available! Get the book here:
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00QXZSMOC
Visit my new website on developing courage and living authentically:
http://www.falling-up.com
-----Original Message----- 
From: Chris Kuell via stylist
Sent: Thursday, December 18, 2014 12:33 PM
To: 'Robert Leslie Newman' ; 'Writer's Division Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [stylist] my next project

Hi Julie,

Congrats again on your first book publication. And I'm not surprised that 
you are ready to go on to your next project. Personally, I like the marriage 
and relationship book idea. But, I'd suggest that the book not be about 
blindness or a blind partner, but rather focus on overcoming challenges, and 
creating an equality environment, which every relationship/marriage 
eventually deals with. There will be curveballs, and you need to know how to 
not get hurt by them. And, many relationships aren't equal, meaning one 
person feels like they do more, which always causes resentment and problems. 
This might be especially true for a person with a disability. However, it 
needen't be that way. In my house, for example, it's just easier for my 
sighted wife to do the food shopping. Sure, I can and have done it, but it's 
easier for her to do it. So while she's out doing that, I'm doing laundry or 
mopping the kitchen floor or scrubbing out the bathroom shower--jobs that I 
can do well, and help the household run smoother.

Anyway, your blindness will obviously be a part of such a book, but all 
relationships have their ups and downs, and I'm sure you can write a helpful 
book on ideas for dealing with them.


Good luck,

Chris




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