[stylist] Writing exercise: creative nonfiction- Life Lessons

[Bridgit Kuenning-Pollpeter]

Vejas,

I think it depends on how you are raised. Say you are a macho guy who thinks
crying is for girls, and then you have a sensitive son who cries at times,
that son would likely not meet the dad's expectations and standards of
"being a man," unless the dad evolves as a person himself. My brother ended
up with addiction problems, and both he and I have struggled with depression
through the years. While psychological problems are not necessarily a
person's fault, the way people behave around one can certainly affect a
person's state of mind who has problems like depression. My parents were
most likely too young to start a family, and by the time they were mature
enough for a family, us kids were already living in disfunction. So, my
point is that it all depends on how you are raised, and how willing parents
are to learning and growing.

Bridgit

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Yes, it seems that the mother's conflict has something to do with the fact
that she doesn't really know the proper way to raise a child.
If Bridgit were a boy, I think this would be very different.  
Although the role of women in society is still evolving, I think that where
boys have to be is more obvious.  (Feel free to disagree with me on this
one).
Vejas

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Bridgit, I feel the conflict, the longing, the desire to be like your
mother.  And your mother's conflict, too.  I understand so much, about you,
but also about how mothers and daughters send mixed signals to each other.
Mom: Oh, Debra, I don't want you to be heavy.  You look so pretty when you
are slim." Mom: "Do you want some ice cream?" Mom: You are very smart, you
should go to college, and get an education." Mom: I hope you find a good man
who will be good to you." Mom: You should always have money of your own.
You don't ever want to be totally dependent on some man." Mom: I need to get
the mail before your dad sees....  Lol.
No wonder we're all mixed up!

But I loved the imagery, the scents, the tastes, all that those images
brought to mind.  I could taste the banana bread, the Snickerdoodles, the
chocolate chip bars.  Thanks for making me
hungry.  Lol.     Debby

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