[stylist] sharing

Wed Aug 19 12:52:37 UTC 2015

Sem,

That's so funny. And I love that I was calmly drinking an entire bottle of
wine. I actually drink rarely, and when I do, wine is not really my thing. I
can just picture that, ha-ha.

Bridgit

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HI, Bridgit,
WOW that's neat to hear as I've also been told, even from childhood that I
should be a lawyer for the same reasons you listed exactly. And I would've
too but I was drawn by other interests by the time I was old enough to go to
university and the 8 or so years of  schooling  just didn't draw me at the
time. LOL. I tend to clash hard with my overly emotional friends because of
the same things you mentioned of subtext and when they react to their
feelings as if they're facts rather than taking the time to analyze them to
learn where they rate coming from before putting them off on someone else. I
asked a friend recently not to do something that everyone found reasonable
and I was very nice and he decided that he felt criticized so I'm the bad
guy without looking at what he was doing. Said thing wasn't cool but I was
still very nice, explaining why we didn't want it done. But he's reacting
more to his over the top feeling than to what actually happened and doesn't
get the problem in that. He even told another friend I wasn't mean but it
was how he felt...but it still didn't occur to him that that's on him, then,
not me. LOL. So rather than arguing a point to death as I used to do I now
just see when someone is going to continue with subtext that  isn't really
there and refuse  to see the point because they're already set on seeing one
that isn't being made. In those cases including the one I just mentioned I
just stop talking bout it and step back. Sadly often it  doesn't make people
like my friend happier because his emotions aren't satisfied when I don't
respond either. But as they're his emotions and have to do with something
other than this situation with me, and he's not taking responsibility for
that, nothing I say will matter. I hate it when people put their stuff onto
a situation with me. *sighs* If I have an issue with a friend that they can
put in cut and dry factual terms we can solve it far faster, but in such
cases I really can do something about it. LOL. And I'm happy to do so.
I also meant to comment on how you said you write stories based on your
dreams often. I think that's awesome. MIT's how Merry Shelly wrote
Frankenstein as you likely know. It's how I wrote one too, and in that one
like many others I didn't factor in. IT was like I was watching it. I forget
a lot of mine as does my husband which is a pity as we've both had some
dreams that would make fantastic stories. I actually had a dream with you in
it last night. It was like a writer's or NFB convention we were all at, but
my family was there too, so I  guess more was going on. Something big was
going down, like world or nation catastrophe and we were all waiting to hear
what was happening. IT was a huge cafeteria where we started out and
everyone was freaking out. People at our table were being pretty quiet,
though, and when we were ordering you got an entire bottle of wine and were
just calmly drinking the entire thing down. Considering that it was a bad
situation, not sure what it was, I thought it was kinda a good idea. LOL. 
You did remain calm and mellow. I was amused/impressed. But we were all
kinda subdued at the table, then we got up to go somewhere and there were
big crowds. I started out with my cane then found my husband and  put it
away to walk with him as it was easier with all the  people. I usually tell
people when they factor into one of my dreams, and I figured you probably
did because you were talking about dreams and I was thinking how interesting
that was bout getting all your material that way. My husband and I are also
working on learning lucid dreaming but it's way harder than the books make
it seem. You do need extremely good dream recall to start, though and you
seem to already totally have that so I bet you'd have an easier time of it.
Sem
I'm friends with the monster that's under my bed.
I get along with the voices inside of my head. 

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