[Nfbf-l] sorry

[David Anspach]

Hello Mark,
I totally understand where you are coming from as I was once there too. I
would even venture to guess that nearly every one of us has been there too.
I learned a long time ago that there will always be someone out there who
never posts or takes a stance on a certain issue, but seemingly comes out of
nowhere to criticize how you feel or the message you sent to the list. I
have also seen those same types of people complain abut the number of
messages they receive from a given list. They might say that the list is too
"chatty" or has too many off-topic messages. The sad part is that they just
don't get that, by whining and complaining about the number of unnecessary
messages sent to a list, they only serve to add to those numbers of messages
that they are complaining about <lol>.
As Betty said in one of her messages, the Delete key comes in very handy for
those types of people <grin>. Oh yeah, and you can even create e-mail rules
to just delete their messages before they ever make into your inbox too ha
ha ha.

I personally am glad you are here on the NFBF-L list. I think your
contributions to the list are just as valuable as those from any one else
here. Plus, I can always use my Delete key if  you happen to send a message
to the list that may not be of interest to me (just as I would do for anyone
else).  

In the end, I hate to see you decide to leave our list just because of the
callous actions of one or two people.  I think the whole topic of
undergoing something like a colonoscopy is just as valuable as talking about
our Tallahassee legislative trip. Without our health, we can never get out
there and educate people or do things to better our community. If someone
can't see the value in such a discussion, then too bad for them. It is they
who are short-side and are not seeing the big picture, not you. So, please
stay here with us and keep on posting just as you always do. After all, this
is why we have our list, to be able to talk about things that are going on
in our lives and ask for help or support, especially when it comes to a
medical procedure that we have never undergone. Although this list is
primarily used to discuss issues related to the NFBF,  there is far more to
our lives than simply being blind, at least that is how I see it anyway
<smile>. I may not speak for others, but I am on this list for many
different reasons, one of them being here to help anyone who asks for help
and/or support by either lending a technical hand, or a shoulder to lean on
or whatever it might be. We're all in this together.

So hang in there man! Become acquainted with that Delete key and use it as
often as necessary!

Dave

PS If someone took offense to your recent message regarding having a
colonoscopy and wasn't man or woman enough to come to you directly, then I
say put them in your deleted persons file. This just means that you
automatically press the Delete key as soon as you see that name in your
inbox, no if's, and's or but's! <grin>

-----Original Message-----
From: nfbf-l-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nfbf-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf
Of Mark
Sent: Thursday, March 19, 2009 7:14 AM
To: NFB of Florida Listserv
Subject: [Nfbf-l] sorry

On one of the other lists which I am on, it was stated in response to
someone else's concerns about getting too many emails that this list can get
chatty with things subjects that didn't need to be there, such as
colonoscopies.  I purposely did not go into the lurid details about this
when I discussed it the other day.  I was discussing why I might not email
much for a short period of time and looking for support since this is a
procedure I was not familiar with before experiencing it, a first time
procedure for me.  Apparently someone on this other list took offense and
didn't bother to come to me directly.  If I have offended anyone in this
group than I do apologize, because it certainly wasn't meant that way.  I
hope I don't sound too sensitive, but I was rather hurt by that comment, and
I kind of feel as though maybe I'm not as welcome as I thought I was. Are we
really there for each other or do we just say that because it sounds good?
It appears that in other circumstances where people have had medical
procedures, we were quick to be supportive.  So I'm just a bit confused and
hurt.  That's all.          
Mark Tardif
You can't hug your loved ones with nuclear arms
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