[blindkid] Seeking advice: blind daughter intentionallyexcludedfrom birthday party

[landjwest at bellsouth.net]

Brandy,
great response. I tend to agree with that idea too. It does make you mad when you first hear it but people are just ignorant and need to be taught sometimes. i think the other childs parent could definetly help mend this whole thing. 
-------------- Original message from "Brandy with Discovery Toys" <branlw at sbcglobal.net>: -------------- 


> Hi, I wasn't going to reply since I'm not a parent, but I can't get your 
> post of my mind. First I doubt the school knows or realizes because she 
> wasn't in the room when it happened, and it was just 1 kid. That being said 
> my mad side says to go with your friend whether you play dumb and bring him 
> a gift and say that you heard from several parents and you just thought you 
> some how didn't get the invitation. But the logical side says if your friend 
> really wants tlo help I'd ask her to talk to the dad about his concern. Just 
> that What is your concern of not inviting your daughter. Then your friend 
> can share with the family that your daughter loves the place and was hurt 
> she wasn't invited. This could be a teachable moment. Just some ideas. Bran 
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> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Andy & Sally Thomas" 
> To: "NFBnet Blind Kid Mailing List,(for parents of blind children)" 
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> Sent: Tuesday, October 28, 2008 6:11 PM 
> Subject: Re: [blindkid] Seeking advice: blind daughter intentionallyexcluded 
> from birthday party 
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> > I'm surprised that the school allowed this to happen. In the many schools 
> > my kids have attended, if invitations were handed out at school then all 
> > children in the class had to be invited. That being said, maybe you could 
> > invite your child's friend to go with you and Milagro to the bounce place 
> > at a time both kids could enjoy it. That way the friend wouldn't miss a 
> > fun play time and your daughter could have fun with a friend. 
> > 
> > Sally Thomas 
> > ----- Original Message ----- 
> > From: "Grace Sato" 
> > To: 
> > Sent: Tuesday, October 28, 2008 5:38 PM 
> > Subject: [blindkid] Seeking advice: blind daughter intentionally excluded 
> > from birthday party 
> > 
> > 
> >> Because I'm sure parents on this list have lived this, I'm going to ask. 
> >> I've been trying to forget about this, but you know how things nag at 
> >> you and you can't let go? 
> >> 
> >> Here goes: 
> >> 
> >> I found out over the weekend that my daughter's first grade class was 
> >> invited to the birthday party of a classmate (Logan). 
> >> Apparently Logan's parents took invitations for all the kids and the 
> >> class and distributed them as school ended on Friday. 
> >> 
> >> I knew none of this until I spent Sunday with one of the boys in my 
> >> daughter's class (Chance), and his mom, as we visited a cool Children's 
> >> Discovery Museum together and she asked in the car if my daughter would 
> >> be attending the party on November 1st. 
> >> 
> >> The party will be held at "Pump It Up", an inflatables party place 
> >> (think large inflatable slides, bouncy castle, mazes, etc). 
> >> My daughter loves this place and attended two birthday parties there 
> >> before when in preschool and kindergarten. 
> >> 
> >> Because this little boy (Chance) is my daughter's best friend in school, 
> >> the one we spend the most time with, his mom decided to ask Logan's dad 
> >> directly if Milagro, "Chance's best friend in class", had been invited. 
> >> She told me he looked at her funny and said, "No." 
> >> 
> >> She asked if everyone else in the class had been invited and he said 
> >> yes. So, Chance's mom and I are concluding that Milagro has been 
> >> excluded, probably because the family thinks a blind child doesn't 
> >> belong in a bouncy inflatables place. 
> >> 
> >> Now, I don't know this boy Logan and his parents don't know me, so I 
> >> mostly don't care. I doubt Milagro knows she's been excluded because she 
> >> was in SDC at the end of the school day. But.....now Chance's mom is 
> >> going to boycott the party (not take Chance) in protest of Milagro being 
> >> excluded. Sweet gesture, but that's what's causing me grief. 
> >> 
> >> I feel (almost) obligated to do something, but not sure what? Would you 
> >> please share your wisdom with me on this? Part of me wants to crash the 
> >> party to show her classmates that she's as adventurous and strong as 
> >> they are (and more so in most cases). The rest of me says, "save your 
> >> energy". 
> >> 
> >> What do you think? What have you done in these situations when your 
> >> child has been excluded socially due to someone else's ignorance? Should 
> >> I just do nothing and beg Chance's mom to just take him and tell her I 
> >> appreciate the gesture? 
> >> 
> >> Such drama.....I know. And it's only first grade! Thanks! 
> >> 
> >> Grace in California 
> >> 
> >> 
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