[blindkid] Anger and other behaviors in sighted mothers?

[elizaellett at yahoo.com]

This probably won't help you much, since my daughter isn't quite 2 yet, but.... Unfortunately Anger is probably my dominant emotion still, guilt tops the list, and grief occasionally. The feelings aren't for myself, don't get me wrong I have my pity party days, but mainly it's all the struggles my little one will encounter and I won't be able to "make it all better." She is legally blind to what extent we're not sure yet and she is also severe to moderately deaf in both ears, so it's a roller coaster some days. I do feel like she is "MINE", I have to remind myself to share and believe in my spouses caring also(which he makes difficult), he kind of leaves it to me,because 'I know what to do' and he'll mess up! His words by the way. My daughter can and will do anything she desires, if she puts her mind to it of course! I can say without a question that I will never allow herself or anyone else to lead her to believe that she isn't smart and in control of her life and future!
Regards,
Eliza
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-----Original Message-----
From: "Gerardo Corripio" <gera1027 at gmail.com>
Date: Mon, 5 Apr 2010 12:07:16 
To: BlindKids<blindkid at nfbnet.org>
Subject: [blindkid] Anger and other behaviors in sighted mothers?

Hi guys, especially mothers: Any of you have the experiences of feeling deep 
down anger and grief as to why the child whom you have in you during the 
pregnancy didn't turn out as you wanted him or her only to have a 
disability? Even worse the mother is more overprotective than the father is 
in that the mother sees the child as belonging to her? The child in turn 
doesn't feel confident in making decisions on his or her own having to seek 
approval from the mothers. the child starts making decisions on his or her 
own and the mother says that the child is acting behind her back? Even worse 
the mother tells the child not to give his or her oppinion because the child 
doesn't know or is dumb? Sound familiar? and how have you coped with all 
this situation and is all that is happening to me normal in blind 
children/adults? sorry for all these questions but have had time with them 
in mind.G
erardo 

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