[Blindtlk] Inferiority complex with disability vs nondisabledsociety

[Peter Wolfe]

Julie:


   I hate to say this but you didn't completely what I was conveying
to you. I was merely mentioning the specifically to a unique no size
fits all prospective in my unique case. For example, both of my
parents are dead, my sister is estranged, my brother is dependent on
me, in college, mental difficulties, vision problems, small Alabama
life, limited budget. You mentioned a person that doesn't have my same
thing, therefore, you comited a inductive reasoning there in
illegitament appeal to authority on my situation.
   I'm merely not blaming anyone. Did I mention Ronald Mcdonald is to
blame or the U.S Government? No, it's overall society is rather
uneducated and on the point of illiterate on anything in general
including people with disabilities. I understand the world isn't
perfect cause I can almost promise you that I've had a harder life
than most if not all of you on this small e-mail list. I'm wanting to
be treated like an unique individual not another blind person with
small baggage unlike that of my own. So, this usual approach of
abrasiveness doesn't work on everyone. We don't want excuses merely
posing to you that where you are from, life experiences and etc shaped
your life with your availible resources at that time.
   Unfortunately the NFB camp would be nice but I'm locked into paying
rent for another yewar lease. The money restraints with VR's budget
and time restraints on getting into my program to hopefully get a
degree by the age of thirty kind of facilitate a time demand. It's
often times stressful to make decisions as a first generation college
students.
    The what if game is cause the the indeppendent factors in this
little experiemental scenario in my unique situation. The responses on
here seem to me awfully arrogant and bordering on being rude. I don't
want special favors and this is a similar problem with overall society
like everyone that has posted. The group before the individual. I
guess we don't have unique ways of this information.
   I want people to brainstorm with and problem solve things rather
than this bs nfb approach of go and do it yourself. I bet that 9 out
of ten times you all at one time in your life have had people aid you
on the way. I am like a train slow to get started but when I do watch
out. Then the meanwhile these second thoughts come into my head like
you were saying "What if" mind bend. The world should not be given
merely started on a equal footing and if not later it should be
adjusted by balancing forces like taost believe in like yin-yang sort
of to balance the world out. Hence the reasoning behind why I am here.
    So, I might try this process again with a new post about the step
2 approach to the issue now that we are on the same page. For example,
neimith coding and the regular theory of precal as opposed to calculus
and how much is needed in  one to the other? The challenges in
programmers work life and how they adapt and such things like that. If
someone post about mentors on AFB that has been done plenty of times.
I'm not that impressed most it people are anti-social or arrogant as
crap. You guys act like all of this is obvious cause you have taken
forgranted how hard it was for you when you started out for the most
part. The apathy is strong here for sure like a conservative mind melt
like the melting pot and lacking in true unique solutions to a
multifasceted society where things change to suit the individual not
the dated group model.

On 6/2/10, Julie J <julielj at windstream.net> wrote:
> Responding to some of your thoughts...
>
> I think comparing what you are capable of with what you are actually doing
> is a much better use of your time, than imaginary comparisons of yourself to
> others or imaginary comparisons of what might have been if you were sighted.
> BTW sighted people play the what if game too.  They just pick different
> criteria...what if I had gone to college?  what if I took that other job
> instead of going into the family business?
>
> There are most definitely people who have had very, very rough childhoods
> who have come out the other side doing very well for themselves.  I just met
> a young lady who was in 21 different foster homes.  She is now in college
> studying veterinary science.  No, she's not blind, but I'd bet her
> experience was trying all the same.  We all have our struggles.  Blindness
> is just an obvious one that everyone notices right away.
>
> I'm 36 and while I've only been blind for about the past 16 years or so, I
> have to say that I wouldn't rank blindness as one of the top three most
> difficult things I've had to live through.  That's just my perspective
> though.  Someone else with the same experiences might see the whole thing
> very differently.
>
> Blame serves no purpose other than to distract one from claiming
> responsibility.  Shit happens and life sucks sometimes.  I've gotten to work
> to find that there was a power outage and my computer doesn't work.   Who
> should I blame?  To me the answer is no one.  I just deal with it.   Blaming
> someone, even myself, is not going to get the computer working any faster.
> I put my energy into what works.
>
> I also used to be sighted, although I have always had some degree of vision
> loss.  I used to be able to open a book and read it, read a street sign or
> look at a map.  I'm trying to think of words to explain my thoughts about
> having vision once...but there aren't really any coming to my mind.  I
> sometimes miss the convenience of it, but I don't actually miss "seeing".
> I've been blind for long enough now that I think in terms of blindness.  For
> example when I need to jot down a phone number, it doesn't cross my mind to
> grab an ink pen.  I automatically reach for the slate and stylus.  I think
> good adjustment to blindness training is the best way to learn the skills
> and make the mental leap to thinking in terms of blindness.
>
> You asked about help and whether people help because they feel sorry for us.
> I have no idea.  Honestly it is pretty rare that people offer help to me
> without my initiating a request for it.  I do find that if I make a
> conscious effort to look lost, dazed and confused that I will attract more
> offers.  Useful sometimes, but then again I am also a woman and that has a
> whole other set of social issues with it.
>
> You mentioned accessible books, family members leaving chairs out,
> accessible currency and repeated attempts to educate people about blindness.
> Please understand that I don't mean to be harsh here.  If you are waiting on
> the whole world to change to meet your needs, you are going to be waiting
> quite a while.  You have to do what you can do and leave the rest for
> another day.  All I can do is the best that I can do.  If I talk to my
> family about pushing in chairs that is all I can do about that.  If I need
> to use my cane in the house, move or walk more carefully in that area, well,
> those are also things I can do.  I won't like it and I'll probably complain
> loudly, but in the end whose responsibility is it to keep me safe and happy?
>
> Respect ...ahhh! One of my favorite topics!  You teach people how to respect
> you.  Carry yourself with confidence and poise, treat others with respect
> and most of all respect yourself.  If you've got all that the bit about
> others respecting you will fall into place almost as if by magic.
>
> Thank you so much for reaching out to the people on this list.  I feel
> honored that you shared so much of yourself so honestly.  I believe,  as
> others have suggested, that you would benefit immensely from attending a
> training center and connecting with other blind people.
>
> Julie
>
>
>
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