[Blindtlk] Blindness and Singleness

Sun Sep 8 00:24:25 UTC 2013

I take umbrage at the assertion that sighted people who accept us for who we are are few and far between. Think how we would feel were someone to assert the conjugate? Yes, prejudice exists. That's why we have the nfb. But there are also plenty of good people who believe their eyes and can figure out that most of us get along very well. 
I think it is sometimes harder for us to meet people, especially the second or third time around. But as Arielle says, many sighted people have a tough time also. Use the suggestions you've been given here, don't isolate yourself and enjoy life. The happier you are, the more likely you will be to attract a pretty, lively, attractive, interesting, voluptuous, sexy woman. 
Mike freeman 

On Sep 7, 2013, at 15:55, Charlotte <sirius_black at comcast.net> wrote:

> I had a really hard time also finding someone. I am happily committed now and have a great relationship. I am with another blind person and I really like that because we know the things that each other deals with. I was also married before to a sighted person, but he was verbally abusive and controlling. I think it was just the way he was though and it didn't have to do with me being blind. There are sighted people out there that will accept you for who you are, but they are few and far between. I can't tell you how many times I'd get rejected when a guy found out I was blind. A lot of them think they'll have to take care of us and that's just simply not true. Some will learn, but the rest never do.
> 
> On 9/7/2013 3:59 PM, shelly christner wrote:
>> i have noticed that as well from a blind girls perspective.  I have only found three guys with vision that did not care about my blindness.  If you wanna chat send me an email offlizt. I can always use more friends.
>> 
>>  shelly christner Sent from my iPhone
>> 
>> On Sep 7, 2013, at 15:43, "Mike Freeman" <k7uij at panix.com> wrote:
>> 
>>> You're giving up too soon.
>>> 
>>> Mike
>>> 
>>> 
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blindtlk [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jason
>>> Terryn
>>> Sent: Saturday, September 07, 2013 1:22 PM
>>> To: blindtlk at nfbnet.org
>>> Subject: [Blindtlk] Blindness and Singleness
>>> 
>>> Hello everyone,
>>> 
>>> I am desperately in need of some advice. I am a totally blind Christian man
>>> in my early twenties and I am single. It's been my experience that it's
>>> extremely difficult for me to get dates. The few girls who do go out with
>>> me never turn out to be serious about me. After several years of being
>>> summarily rejected time without number and spending countless exhausting
>>> hours overthinking my approach, I'm beginning to wonder if it is actually
>>> something I'm doing (should I change my approach) or if its just a fact of
>>> being blind and I need to accept it gracefully.
>>> 
>>> Has anyone else had this experience. I'm honestly unsure if I'm being
>>> rejected because I am blind, or because there is something undesirable
>>> about me. Could it be that blindness isa dealbreaker for most girls?
>>> 
>>> I feel like, despite my blindness I have a lot to offer. I am steady,
>>> reliable, I have a job, I am tall and physically fit, I have a lot of
>>> different skills and interests. On the whole, I feel that I'm a fairly
>>> well-rounded individual and reasonably well-intergrated in society. Also
>>> it's not like I'm trying to get the most beautiful or desirable girls out
>>> there. I just want ONE nice, pleasant girl who will like and accept me that
>>> I can spend time with, and ultimately someone to marry. I don't feel like
>>> thats asking too much.
>>> 
>>> so if it is my blindness that is scaring girls off is there anything at all
>>> that I could do to offset this reaction? Could it be that I'm not
>>> presenting myself as confident enough or that they have some false
>>> stereotypes in their mind that I need to overcome? Am I just giving up too
>>> soon or is this really an almost hopeless situation?
>>> 
>>> This has all been extremely frustrating to me. Any advice would be greatly
>>> appreciated.
>>> 
>>> Thanks!
>>> 
>>> Jason
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