[BlindTlk] frustrating home situation

[David Andrews]

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Dave

At 05:00 PM 11/16/2020, you wrote:
>Hi all,
>Hope this is okay to talk about hear, I just really need to vent.
>I forgot to say that Dad and I went out for super on Saturday to get away from
>the craziness. Plus I don't eat pizza. Makayla's biggest issue is that her and
>Mom are too much a like, so they're always at each other and she 
>thinks that Mom
>is always mad at her when she isn't. Dad takes anti-depressant meds, 
>but I think
>he watches and reads way too much news. I also think he drinks way too much
>coffie and alcohol, and he also needs to lose weight. Makayla also 
>likes to nag
>me about stuff that Mom and Dad don't bug me about, I already have 
>two parents I
>don't want or need a third. I'm an adult so I think I should be 
>allowed to make
>my own decisions and not get told what to do. Mom also loves to be in control
>all the time which is very annoying. None of us are very good at talking about
>and sharing our feelings, if we were a normal family then we could talk about
>this stuff, but we aren't. I know that a therapist can't necessarily solve our
>problems, but hopefully they could give us ways to cope. Mom is the one that
>needs the most help, but we know that she wouldn't go or talk.
>I don't know that Mom would ever join us, and I don't know if 
>Makayla even wants
>to go. I'd consider it, but only if we found the right therapist. 
>There are many
>I'm sure, but they're not all the same. I'd love to move out, but I 
>don't think
>I want to live by myself. I used to think that Dad and I should go live
>together, but now I'm not so sure. I already told you about his issues, and he
>also nags me about stuff mainly personal hygiene stuff, mainly showiering. I
>don't go anywhere so I really don't care how I look or if I smell. 
>Plus the less
>we shower the less water we use, and the less product we have to buy. As an
>adult, should I not be allowed to make my own decsions even when it comes to
>personal hygiene? Sometimes I feel like I'm treated more like a kid then the
>adult that I am and should be allowed to be. Makayla would probably 
>just yell at
>me, she wouldn't actually teach me how to do something. She quite often just
>says "If you want something then why not just learn to do it 
>yourself." She also
>bugs me about stuff and tells me what to do too. She's also gotten 
>really bad at
>just taking things without asking, mainly food. Sometimes someone 
>buys something
>for themselves or for someone else (that's not her), but she just sees things
>and assumes she can eat or use them, when she can't always. If she'd just ask
>then chances are she could eat some of or use some of whatever it is, but she
>doesn't. Dad does this too, not as much though. We made fudge a few 
>months ago,
>and she ate a few pieces without asking. It had to be kept in the 
>fridge so Mom
>would cut up a few pieces and put them out to warm up a bit. Now if we make it
>again she's not allowed to have any because she didn't ask the first time, she
>blew it. What's fair is fair. Plus the last few times she's made stuff she
>hasn't asked me if I'd like any, not that I would unless it's plain. It's just
>annoying when Mom or Dad buys me something and then I don't really get any
>because she's eaten it. Dad says I'm going to have to start hiding stuff in my
>room, which would be weird, if it gets to that then I think we have a real
>problem on our hands. Plus she's good at noticing/finding things that Mom has
>tried to hide, in particular chocolate. Mom isn't always good at 
>sharing either,
>but I just ask and if she says no then I don't touch it. We might 
>have to start
>putting our names on things, which Makayla did yesterday, when she got this
>macaronie dinner from Sobeys, which I didn't get. If she wants her own then
>that's fine, but I like them too, so I should've gotten one too. I've learned
>that if someone gets something for me, whether it's a dinner or snack stuff I
>have to eat it right away or else there might not be any/one left 
>when I really
>want it/some.  She yells at me when we're doing dishes because apparently I
>don't dry them right. Now I just wait for her to finish washing and 
>then I dry.
>I've tried talking to Mom, but that didn't really work/help. She 
>thought that I
>was talking about some particular time or decision that I want to make, but I
>was just talking about in general. I still collect animal figurenes, 
>and she has
>this weird thing that if it's too close to my birthday or Christmas 
>then I can't
>buy anything, even though when I'm looking at stuff it usually over a month
>until either event. I do it because I worry that she won't like the 
>look of the
>figurine that I'm asking for so she won't buy it for me, regardless 
>of how much
>I want it. Like last Christmas I asked for this particular husky, well she
>didn't buy it for me because she said that she didn't like it's 
>face, it was too
>pointy, but the 2 that she got me looked way more like wolves then 
>huskies. It's
>my money, should I not be allowed to spend it when and how I want?
>Any thoughts/suggestions? Like I said, I just really needed to vent, so if no
>one answers then that's fine. Thanks for letting me do it anyway.
>Madison