[BlindTlk] frustrating home situation

Thu Nov 19 17:40:29 UTC 2020

A friend of mine posts a list of daily quotes. Thought these might be of encouragement.

One man’s dream is another’s reality. Unknown

The path, in the beginning, is the same and so are the challenges. Daniel Levis

You are the problem, and you are the solution. Gary John Bishop

Fear is only as real as we let it be. Brian Feinblum  

Have a good day!_._,_
Ericka Nelson

> On Nov 18, 2020, at 2:41 PM, PLipovsky via One man’s dream is another’s reality. Unknown

The path, in the beginning, is the same and so are the challenges. Daniel Levis

You are the problem, and you are the solution. Gary John Bishop

Fear is only as real as we let it be. Brian Feinblum  

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>  blindtlk at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> 
> This is true, everyone needs to be very careful with what they share.
> Although some of it has been interesting, I think this topic is pretty much
> exhausted anyway.
> 
> 
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> -----Original Message-----
> From: BlindTlk <blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org> On Behalf Of David Andrews via
> BlindTlk
> Sent: Wednesday, November 18, 2020 2:53 PM
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> Cc: David Andrews <dandrews920 at comcast.net>
> Subject: Re: [BlindTlk] frustrating home situation
> 
> I understand your need to vent, but this list is publicly archived, so
> anyone can find it, using internet search.
> 
> Dave
> 
> At 05:00 PM 11/16/2020, you wrote:
>> Hi all,
>> Hope this is okay to talk about hear, I just really need to vent.
>> I forgot to say that Dad and I went out for super on Saturday to get 
>> away from the craziness. Plus I don't eat pizza. Makayla's biggest 
>> issue is that her and Mom are too much a like, so they're always at 
>> each other and she thinks that Mom is always mad at her when she isn't. 
>> Dad takes anti-depressant meds, but I think he watches and reads way 
>> too much news. I also think he drinks way too much coffie and alcohol, 
>> and he also needs to lose weight. Makayla also likes to nag me about
>> stuff that Mom and Dad don't bug me about, I already have two parents I 
>> don't want or need a third. I'm an adult so I think I should be allowed 
>> to make my own decisions and not get told what to do. Mom also loves to 
>> be in control all the time which is very annoying. None of us are very
>> good at talking about and sharing our feelings, if we were a normal 
>> family then we could talk about this stuff, but we aren't. I know that 
>> a therapist can't necessarily solve our problems, but hopefully they 
>> could give us ways to cope. Mom is the one that needs the most help, 
>> but we know that she wouldn't go or talk.
>> I don't know that Mom would ever join us, and I don't know if Makayla
>> even wants to go. I'd consider it, but only if we found the right 
>> therapist.
>> There are many
>> I'm sure, but they're not all the same. I'd love to move out, but I 
>> don't think I want to live by myself. I used to think that Dad and I 
>> should go live together, but now I'm not so sure. I already told you 
>> about his issues, and he also nags me about stuff mainly personal 
>> hygiene stuff, mainly showiering. I don't go anywhere so I really don't
>> care how I look or if I smell.
>> Plus the less
>> we shower the less water we use, and the less product we have to buy. 
>> As an adult, should I not be allowed to make my own decsions even when 
>> it comes to personal hygiene? Sometimes I feel like I'm treated more 
>> like a kid then the adult that I am and should be allowed to be. 
>> Makayla would probably just yell at me, she wouldn't actually teach me 
>> how to do something. She quite often just says "If you want something 
>> then why not just learn to do it yourself." She also bugs me about 
>> stuff and tells me what to do too. She's also gotten really bad at just
>> taking things without asking, mainly food. Sometimes someone buys 
>> something for themselves or for someone else (that's not her), but she 
>> just sees things and assumes she can eat or use them, when she can't 
>> always. If she'd just ask then chances are she could eat some of or use 
>> some of whatever it is, but she doesn't. Dad does this too, not as much 
>> though. We made fudge a few months ago, and she ate a few pieces 
>> without asking. It had to be kept in the fridge so Mom would cut up a 
>> few pieces and put them out to warm up a bit. Now if we make it again 
>> she's not allowed to have any because she didn't ask the first time, 
>> she blew it. What's fair is fair. Plus the last few times she's made 
>> stuff she hasn't asked me if I'd like any, not that I would unless it's 
>> plain. It's just annoying when Mom or Dad buys me something and then I 
>> don't really get any because she's eaten it. Dad says I'm going to have 
>> to start hiding stuff in my room, which would be weird, if it gets to 
>> that then I think we have a real problem on our hands. Plus she's good 
>> at noticing/finding things that Mom has tried to hide, in particular
>> chocolate. Mom isn't always good at sharing either, but I just ask and 
>> if she says no then I don't touch it. We might have to start putting 
>> our names on things, which Makayla did yesterday, when she got this 
>> macaronie dinner from Sobeys, which I didn't get. If she wants her own 
>> then that's fine, but I like them too, so I should've gotten one too. 
>> I've learned that if someone gets something for me, whether it's a 
>> dinner or snack stuff I have to eat it right away or else there might 
>> not be any/one left when I really want it/some.  She yells at me when 
>> we're doing dishes because apparently I don't dry them right. Now I 
>> just wait for her to finish washing and then I dry.
>> I've tried talking to Mom, but that didn't really work/help. She 
>> thought that I was talking about some particular time or decision that 
>> I want to make, but I was just talking about in general. I still 
>> collect animal figurenes, and she has this weird thing that if it's too 
>> close to my birthday or Christmas then I can't buy anything, even 
>> though when I'm looking at stuff it usually over a month until either 
>> event. I do it because I worry that she won't like the look of the 
>> figurine that I'm asking for so she won't buy it for me, regardless of 
>> how much I want it. Like last Christmas I asked for this particular 
>> husky, well she didn't buy it for me because she said that she didn't 
>> like it's face, it was too pointy, but the 2 that she got me looked way 
>> more like wolves then huskies. It's my money, should I not be allowed 
>> to spend it when and how I want?
>> Any thoughts/suggestions? Like I said, I just really needed to vent, so 
>> if no one answers then that's fine. Thanks for letting me do it anyway.
>> Madison
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