[blparent] toddler in crowds

Tammy, Paul and Colyn tcl189 at rogers.com
Mon May 10 14:12:44 UTC 2010 

Hi,

My son is school age and still doesn't like to sit for any length of time. 
But that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with him.

Tammy

Tammydoesn't mean
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Elizabeth Cooks" <elizabethcooks at comcast.net>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, May 10, 2010 3:26 AM
Subject: Re: [blparent] toddler in crowds


> No, you're not.  I said nothing about todlers or preschoolers.  When i say 
> "outgrow"  I mean by elementary schol age when children are expected to 
> sit for longer periods.  I also used the words "might be a possibility", 
> not "does have" or "is going to have".  I ma perfectly well aware of what 
> is acceptable at toddler and preschool age, thank you very much.  Sorry 
> about the post, everyone.  Just clarifying a few things here.
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at pcdesk.net>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Sunday, May 09, 2010 8:37 PM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] toddler in crowds
>
>
>>I am paying attention.  There is no such thing as hyperactivity disorder 
>>in toddlers, it is very rare in preschool age children, and just because a 
>>toddler wanders doesn't mean he might possibly have ADHD.  Even putting 
>>that out as a possibility at his age is absurd.
>>
>> Jo Elizabeth
>>
>> --------------------------------------------------
>> From: "Joy Wolf" <joy at kevinlwolf.net>
>> Sent: Sunday, May 09, 2010 7:50 PM
>> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] toddler in crowds
>>
>>> I must respectfully agree that even with that if, it is very easy to 
>>> worry
>>> parents unnecessarily with those kinds of possibilities.  Of course, 
>>> it's
>>> possible, but so are a lot of things.  I guess maybe I have heard too 
>>> many
>>> people, both acquaintances and professionals, go on about what could 
>>> happen,
>>> how a child might develop, and what if this doesn't get better.  In 
>>> fact, my
>>> parents were told that developmentally I wouldn't pass the age of about 
>>> five
>>> years.  Lol, I'd like to think I did, though.  I guess what I'm saying 
>>> is
>>> that I can see why some would be sensitive to even the thought that 
>>> there
>>> may be a problem, when what is being faced right now is normal toddler
>>> behavior.  In fact, at four years old, my son will get distracted by
>>> something and wander, and there are no signs whatsoever of ADHD, unless 
>>> the
>>> only criteria is occasionally wandering away.  No offense intended here, 
>>> but
>>> I can see why this might not have been taken in the best way.  In other
>>> words, why get ahead of ourselves?  Have a good week everyone.
>>>
>>> Joy and family
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] 
>>> On
>>> Behalf Of Elizabeth Cooks
>>> Sent: Sunday, May 09, 2010 8:24 PM
>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] toddler in crowds
>>>
>>> I said if he doesn't outgrow that.  Pay attention.  The operative word
>>> hereis "if".
>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>> From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at pcdesk.net>
>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Sunday, May 09, 2010 7:00 PM
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] toddler in crowds
>>>
>>>
>>>> Hey, back up the bus.  Shannon's son is very young, and wandering is
>>>> something that all toddlers do.  There is absolutely no reason in the
>>>> world to start thinking that he might have ADHD because he wanders at 
>>>> the
>>>> age of two, or somewhere around that age.  I have a pretty good deal of
>>>> knowledge about ADHD because of my stepson, and it positively does not
>>>> exist in toddlers, and very rarely in preschoolers.  I'm not meaning to 
>>>> be
>>>
>>>> rude or anything, but it's way too early to start ringing alarm bells
>>>> about a problem that isn't there.
>>>>
>>>> Having said that, keeping track of a toddler in a crowd is difficult.
>>>> It's a strain for me even in a small church on Sundays.  The child 
>>>> leash
>>>> does help, and having people you trust keep their eyes open helps also.
>>>> There are child locators that sound an alarm when you push a button. 
>>>> The
>>>> child wears a beeper that goes off.  Teaching a child to answer when
>>>> called is good as he gets older.  But to be perfectly honest, I've 
>>>> found
>>>> that without sighted help, it's very difficult to keep tabs on Sarah in 
>>>> a
>>>> crowd.  Because of that, I plan where I go if I am on my own to avoid
>>>> noisy, busy situations, or I go when someone who can see is available. 
>>>> I
>>>> seek out opportunities to go places with sighted people when I can 
>>>> because
>>>
>>>> I don't want to take away experiences that would be valuable for Sarah 
>>>> to
>>>> have, like playing on busy playgrounds.  It will probably put some 
>>>> super
>>>> turbo independent blind people off, but for the sake of my child's 
>>>> safety,
>>>
>>>> I've personally decided that there are some places I'd rather not go
>>>> unless I have a sighted companion.  That may change as Sarah gets older
>>>> and more verbal, but for now, I make sure we get out often and have a 
>>>> lot
>>>> of friends, and that I do things with her at home every single day 
>>>> instead
>>>
>>>> of just being in the same room.
>>>> F
>>>> or what it's worth,
>>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>>
>>>> --------------------------------------------------
>>>> From: "Elizabeth Cooks" <elizabethcooks at comcast.net>
>>>> Sent: Sunday, May 09, 2010 6:47 PM
>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] toddler in crowds
>>>>
>>>>> Keep a child leash on him.  If he doesn't outgrow that, ADHD might be 
>>>>> a
>>>>> possibility.
>>>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>>>> From: "Shannan Zinck" <shannanzinck at gmail.com>
>>>>> To: <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>>> Sent: Sunday, May 09, 2010 2:15 PM
>>>>> Subject: [blparent] toddler in crowds
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>> Sooo went to Moncton this weekend for a missions trip. a 1 nighter.
>>>>>> Anyway
>>>>>> how do you guys cope with being in large crowds with a toddler who 
>>>>>> loves
>>>
>>>>>> to
>>>>>> wander. He's a good kid but, can't keep still to save his life. We 
>>>>>> were
>>>>>> at
>>>>>> an overnight shelter, (the one we used to work at) and I found it 
>>>>>> really
>>>>>> nerve racking. I used the harness when I could but, I'm one of the
>>>>>> singers
>>>>>> so had to be up front and get some friends to watch him. Most of my
>>>>>> friends
>>>>>> are sighted so it's easier for them to chase him around the center. 
>>>>>> well
>>>
>>>>>> I
>>>>>> am claustrophobic as well so crowds freak me out anyway and with a
>>>>>> toddler
>>>>>> running around it's 10 times worse. I was sort of fine until I had to
>>>>>> rely
>>>>>> totally on my friends that's hard. His birth mom was there too and 
>>>>>> had
>>>>>> him
>>>>>> much of the time so I was a little wary and was constantly straining 
>>>>>> to
>>>>>> know
>>>>>> where he was and half the time I didn't know exactly. I trust my 
>>>>>> friends
>>>>>> but, I'm not always going to have the option of having them around 
>>>>>> every
>>>>>> time I take a trip. We did well on this trip but, quite leary about
>>>>>> taking
>>>>>> another one.
>>>>>> -- 
>>>>>> Shannan Zinck
>>>>>> Survival is letting GOD take over!!!
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