[blparent] dealing with the public

[Elizabeth Cooks]

I think you did what you could.  Some people just don't know when to back 
off.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, May 24, 2010 4:14 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] dealing with the public


> Leslie, if it had been me, I would have stood up and faced these well
> meaning women.  I would have said, thank you for your concern but Michael
> and I spend countless hours together alone and I know exactly what he 
> needs.
> Then smile and say thank you for caring.  Then sit back down with your 
> baby
> and ignore them.  Make sure though, the next time you see them invite them
> to coo over him. You don't want to make enemies. V
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Leslie Hamric
> Sent: Monday, May 24, 2010 3:41 PM
> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: [blparent] dealing with the public
>
> Hi group.  I wanted to tell you about a situation that happened yesterday.
> My husband and I were at a church doing and he had left me alone with the
> baby for a few minutes to go talk with some other people.  Michael started
> getting all fussy and crying and I immediately bent down to his carseat 
> and
> started rocking it like I normaly do.  Well, besides having this one lady
> ask me things like do you want me to hold him, I can try, I love babies, 
> do
> you need help rocking him, are you sure ou don't want me to hold him, etc.
> etc. I had three or 4 other ladies crowd around him, getting in his face,
> look for his pacifier which was right with my hand's reach,  and start
> talking to him which made him cry more.  Funny they all left me alone when
> my husband came back.  I know these women from choir and although they 
> were
> wel intentioned, I felt very uncomfortable.  They indirectly made me feel
> like I wasn't doing my job. I kept saying, no thanks, I have it and it 
> still
> didn't do any good. I'm wondering how have you all dealt with similar
> situations in the past?  My second question is, is there a such thing as
> being nice but firm when trying to get well-intentioned folks to back off?
> How else could I have handled it besides freezing up and feeling hurt?
> Thanks for any input.
>
> Leslie
>
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