[blparent] finding time

[Pipi]

Nikki,
As a single mom, I can tell you that it isn't always easy.
One thing that is very important is to build up a great support group. 
You'll need time to yourself. You'll need kid free time. Everyone does. I'll 
say that yes I've changed a lot for my daughter, but I don't see it as 
sacrificing. Being a mom was my choice and my life dream. I used to be a 
night owl. Now I sleep more of a 10 to 6 schedule.
I used to have total freedom being able to go out with friends when i wanted 
and now it's more of a planning process and is less frequent. My group of 
friends has also changed. I used to have loads of not so close friends. now 
i have very few very close friends who also have kids. we get out adult 
sanity time by taking the kids to the park together, or doing other 
activities together.
We also try to plan a once a month adults only time. Whether I do it with my 
best friend, or someone else, or even just a night alone with no children 
here at all, I do my best to make it happen. I need and deserve this time. 
It makes my relationship with Savannah much better.
Finding time for things like my personal care has been the hardest for me 
along the way. Due to my living situation, I don't have a totally kid safe 
area. If this is possible, I'd highly suggest having it.  I currently have 
to rise before my daughter, wait until nap time, or wait until she goes to 
bed before I can shower and do the other things that I just can't do with a 
kid under foot. My daughter is only 2 though.
I've tried to answer what I can think to answer. If you have any other 
specific questions or anything, feel free to write me privately or even 
write in here. I'd be more than happy to talk to you about being a single 
parent.
blahblahblah0822 at gmail.com write anytime
Pipi

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Nikki" <daizies304 at comcast.net>
To: <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Wednesday, April 13, 2011 3:29 PM
Subject: [blparent] finding time


>        For the single moms or dads, how do you find the time to do things 
> for yourself? Do you have to give, sacrifice every moment of the day to 
> your children? For the new parents, is it hard to give up your freedom, if 
> it was unplanned? How do you compensate and are still able to get things 
> done or do things for you as if the children didn’t exist, like life 
> beforehand? How do you make life easier?
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