[blparent] troubled parent

[Nikki]

    Hi Sharon,

I took one of your courses about 6 or 7 years ago. I also emailed you about 
this and am very surprised to get a message from you here. Very cool.

I did however, suggest some kind of testing or counseling. It seems like my 
dad's logic of spanking will do the trick. Spanking to me is last on my list 
if at all. When I mentioned the counseling or testing, my mom, being in the 
medical proffession, formed a question that upset me. She asked, do you 
really want doctors to perscribe him medicine to take for ADD or whatever it 
could be? Because that's what they'll do. My dad agreed and said, I'd rather 
see him spanked more. Now, I'm not getting him tested so they can pump him 
with drugs. I really don't believe in giving medicine to a child will fix 
their behavior. I believe if I just spent more time with him, engaging in 
his activity, things would be fine.

I'm currently seeing a christian counselor for family issues, one topic 
being this very one. I just started last month and don't see her very often 
so I can't say it's halping yet. Thanks for your input.

-----Original Message----- 
From: sharon howerton
Sent: Thursday, March 24, 2011 6:24 AM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] troubled parent

Nikki, perhaps others have responded to you by now. If your son is in school
and experiencing similar problems, you might ask for an assessment for
counselling or ADHD. Just like you are experiencing stress, he is, too, but
doesn't have the same verbal outlets adults do. You may also try to locate
counselling services for yourself as it sounds like you have stresses, too.
Those transmit to our kids and may contribute to the acting out behavior
you've described.
Good luck.
Sharon (whose sons are grown but still live at home; I also am an instructor
with the Hadley School and teach our Parenting series)
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Nikki" <daizies304 at comcast.net>
To: <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Wednesday, March 23, 2011 10:26 PM
Subject: [blparent] troubled parent


>        Nikki here and very distressed. Divorced mother of a 5 year old 
> boy. Live with parents, ugh!
>
> I need behavioral modifacations other than spanking. He doesn’t listen 
> well, follow directions, stay focused, and talks when he’s not supposed 
> to.
>
> Wanting to stay away from spanking for punishment. Anyone have any advice 
> for me?
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