[blparent] stranger contact with your child

[Peggy]

I think this is still because blindness makes the public uncomfortable but 
our children don't.  I guess I'm lucky, although people have interacted with 
my children while I've been out it's been nothing that I don't see them do 
with sighted parents and their children.  But I guess just pay close 
attention and if the displays get uncomfortable for you then say something!! 
What always amazed me is how people would say things like ... oh I bet you 
are such a help to your mom, I could see it when the kids were older but 
just a couple days ago someone said it to Dylan *he's 1 and a half*.  Oh 
yeah he's such a help, messing things up faster than I can get them cleaned 
up, lol.



-----Original Message----- 
From: jan wright
Sent: Thursday, October 20, 2011 1:25 PM
To: blparent
Subject: [blparent] stranger contact with your child

This is annoying, i'll admit. I was not jealous that they could see my
children's facial expressions and I couldn't.
It is annoying because it is the start of people communicating with
your baby or child without your knowledge and I would caution that you
do need to be a little careful.
Sometimes, people can take liberties with your child.
the thing that annoys me most in this stage is that people don't even
give you a respectful: "Oh,  you have a cute baby, do you mind?" They
just assume that you don't mind. Note: they do some of the same things
with my dog and it bothers me, also. I think that it is just
respectful to talk to the adult first. And, the more I think about it
the more i am convinced that it is just plain rude!
When my children were older, people would give them candy that I did
not want them to have; or toys to play with that were sometimes
inappropriate. They would try to comfort or quiet your child and
sometimes they were doing much more harm than good.
I hate to be the web blanket in this discussion: but, these are the
same adults who would rather talk to your child or your dog before
having a conversation with you. I always found it strange that after I
got my dog (and my children were teens) I experienced the same
reaction from people. They would say to my children: "You are so
sweet," "You are such a good baby," (and much more annoying comments).
And, now that I have the dog, they want to talk to the dog: "You are
such a good boy." GRRRR! And, I know that I am going to experience
more of the same when I have my baby boy (seven more weeks until the
due date).
it is strange, though. It is harder to ward off unwanted behaviors
from the sighted public and also harder to connect with them when we
want to. UGGG.

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