[blparent] Hi

[Jennifer Jackson]

Getting down on the child's level and making certain he is looking at you is
a great way to make sure he knows you are serious. I use it too. That said,
I have a question you may want to consider and ad into your thoughts on how
to handle him pushing on your face.  Are you sure that your son understands
the difference between when you take his chin and turn his head towards you
and when he pushes your face away because he does not want to listen? It
seems like an obvious connection for a kid to make. I am not trying to
indicate you should stop what you are doing because, of course, there are
thing it is acceptable for a parent to do and not for a child. It just seems
that it is an important difference if he sees it as a related action to the
movement of his chin to focus his attention as opposed to being more similar
to a hit.


Jennifer
Jennifer


-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Lisamaria Martinez
Sent: Thursday, August 16, 2012 11:36 AM
To: Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] Hi

Hey,

That's a trick I learned from the pediatrician ... when a kid is
acting up, hold their little chin or their face in your hand, look
directly into their face and say no or that's not nice, or that's not
acceptable, or whatever. When Erik really acts up that's what I do and
he gets the message. He usually cries and feels bad about it. He'll
get sad and then he'll come hug me later and we talk about why it was
bad.

The other day he was frustrated about something and he started
flailing his arms around and when I got down at his level he pushed my
face away with his hands and I wanted him to learn that hands in the
face isn't a good thing especaially if you hit someone. I put him in a
30 second time out where he cried the whole time and wouldn't look at
me. when I said he could get up he stood up and hugged me so hard. I
had to sit with him during the time out because he didn't really
understand he had to sit in the corner. It hurt my heart so bad to do
it but he's finally getting the idea that pushing people in the face
or hittting them in the face is not good.

anyways ... tyraid I know.

On 8/15/12, Agnes Steinhoff <amorawska at nycap.rr.com> wrote:
> Hello:
>
> That is really cute.  My daughter is 17 months old herself and she loves
to
> talk.  She can say her brother's name, which is Bobby, she says mommy, and
> uh oh.  She sounds so adorable when she does it.  Today I had a visit with
> my kids and she was climbing up on my coffee table.  She is definitely
miss
> independant and did I mention defiant.  I had to remove her off the table
> several times with her screaming at me but I think she was tired as well
> because she fell right to sleep when I laid her down for a nap.  If I look
> her right in her eyes and talk to her directly, she will repeat what I say
> and its so cute.
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