[blparent] punishment
Veronica Smith
madison_tewe at spinn.net
Thu Feb 2 04:43:58 UTC 2012
Hahahaha and when does it pass, I hear not till they have a job and move far
far away. I guess in my daughter's case, we are stuck with it forever as
she has told me many times she is never leaving home.
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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Gabe Vega
Sent: Wednesday, February 01, 2012 11:49 AM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] punishment
yes V, the mood swings, the attitude. woe, most of you parents with yong
kids are in for it in about 8 years. because wow, do they sure have attitude
and do they sure know it all at this age. :-) Gabe Vega - Sent from my Apple
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On Feb 1, 2012, at 9:54 AM, Veronica Smith wrote:
> I hear you loud and clear. And Dave, we have to go through the mood
> swings that start occurring at this age. (11/12)
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
> On Behalf Of Gabe Vega
> Sent: Tuesday, January 31, 2012 8:45 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] punishment
>
> I got to agree, we all go through it, I got a 6 year old son next
> month and we deal with the same school issues his mother and I, she's
> my neighbor so I am still heavily involved wth his raising and his
> schooling. and my 11 year old daughter who I raise on my own still has
> issues from time to time with listening.
>
> when you are going through it though, it sure feels like you are alone
> in the world.
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> On Jan 31, 2012, at 8:38 PM, Tammy wrote:
>
>> Hi,
>>
>> I completely agree with this message. I don't think spanking is an
> appropriate punishment for everything, especially if it doesn't work
> or has stopped working. You need to find out what your son really
> likes, and use that as punishment. My son likes to stay up at night
> on week-ends but if he's bad he doesn't get to stay up. During the
> week if he's bad he looses his tv or goes to bed right after supper
> which means before his brother and that annoys him. I also think
> talking to the school is a very good idea. I think meds are a last
> resort but a resort nonetheless. I hope you find comfort in the fact that
you're not the only one who has these problems.
> This age is a very tough age for children, and parents alike.
>>
>> Good luck!
>>
>> Tammy
>>
>> -----Original Message----- From: Veronica Smith
>> Sent: Tuesday, January 31, 2012 10:27 PM
>> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] punishment
>>
>> Nikki, what is he substituting for the Wii. It will get boring doing
> nothing but sitting. It works for other children, but tough love is
> usually what it takes. You could turn to meds, they settle children
> down, but at what expense. Some of those kids walk around like
> zombies because they are doped up. Spanking is reserved here for
> serious crimes like darting into the traffic breaking items that could
possibly be harmful.
>> Sometimes, just sometimes, if you show that it is okay to hit (spank)
>> then
> a child thinks it's okay to hit.
>> I do recommend talking to the school counselor and see what they
>> recommend for changing this behavior. V
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org
>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>> On Behalf Of Nikki
>> Sent: Tuesday, January 31, 2012 7:39 PM
>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] punishment
>>
>> Taking things away from him isn't solving the problem. He likes
>> Mario
> Kart Wii a lot. He hasn't been able to play it since the stream of
> yellows and few reds. It hasn't been doing much since the behavior
> continues. The punishment is that if he brings home a yellow or red,
> no Wii. If he gets a yellow or red on a Friday, that means the whole
> weekend without the Wii, computer playing, or playing with his train.
>>
>> He has been confined to his room before, but that doesn't seem to work.
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: Veronica Smith
>> Sent: Tuesday, January 31, 2012 5:18 PM
>> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] punishment
>>
>> The only way is restricting him from the things he likes and if that
>> means you have to hear him scream or throw a huge tantrum for x
>> amount of time, then be it. My husband used to put Gab in her room
>> when she'd do what she wanted and she would scream and scream and we
>> told her she could come out when she could control herself and do as
>> she was told. Sometimes it took a few minutes, sometimes a few hours
>> and then the next time she acted up, back into the room she went. I
>> know that professionals say not to use their rooms as a place of
>> punishment, but that is what I did, some peeps use a rug and others
>> use a chair, but you use what works. V
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org
>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>> On Behalf Of Nikki
>> Sent: Monday, January 30, 2012 11:12 PM
>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] punishment
>>
>> IDK if I could do that. I don't think he's angry with me. It has
>> more to
> do with him not listening and doing what he's told. Sunday, he and
> papa went for a walk in the woods. As they were walking back to the
> car, my dad told him not to pick up any snow because he didn't want
> his gloves to be all wet when they got in the car. You know what? That
> little defiant brat did it anyway. He doesn't listen. Two weeks ago,
> he got a detention for not listening to the lunchtime supervisor and
> just continued playing, ignoring the call to come line up. As far as
> last week and today, I don't know why he pushed another kid, except
> today, he played freeze tag even after he was told not to. So, I'm
> just wondering how to fix this "not listening, ignoring, and not doing
what told to do" business.
>>
>> It seems his answer for everything is "I don't know." I'm ready to
>> wash
> his mouth out every time he says that. Because I know he knows.
>>
>>
>> -----Original Message----- From: Veronica Smith
>> Sent: Monday, January 30, 2012 11:20 PM
>> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] punishment
>>
>> Nikki, can you attend his class for a day or so. Tell him that mommy
>> is going to check up on him and then stick to your words. It might
>> be today or
>> 2 days later, but perhaps you need to see what the class is doing and
>> why he is acting up.
>> Is he angry at you for something? Sometimes a child will take it out
>> on someone his own size to (in his mind) is punishing you.
>> Maybe the teacher is only seeing the hitting or pushing, but not
>> seeing the whole reason for the behavior. Perhaps, your son is
>> defending
> himself.
>> You know, there is always 2 sides to every story.
>>
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org
>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>> On Behalf Of Nikki
>> Sent: Monday, January 30, 2012 3:02 PM
>> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
>> Subject: [blparent] punishment
>>
>> Hi all. Yes I'm back again. How would you discipline a six year old
>> boy who doesn't listen and do what he's told? I haven't figured out
>> what will change his behavior. He pushed another child, in school
>> today and Friday. He lied to me last night by saying he'll be good
>> today. We even had him saying "I know I can, I know I can, said the
>> engine that did." I'm out of my witts end. The past few weeks have
>> been
> horrible. I can't understand why.
>>
>> The teacher uses a sliding scale for the behavior. You come to class,
>> you start with an orange. Your behavior throughout the day
>> determines the outcome. So you can either do great and get a green
>> card, but you can slide back to orange, which is a "ready to work"
>> day. Ah, but there's the possible yellow, which is a "behavior needs
>> to be worked on"." You could go to red, which is the worst. I almost
>> forgot, after the green is blue, "the best behavior, you're like a
>> role model." One thing, if you get a red or blue, that's it. You can't
slide off.
>>
>> Now, my son has been bringing home yellows and the past two days
>> including today, were red. I've made the decision to take all of his
>> toys out of his room, including stuffed animals and having him go to
>> his room after school until he fixes his behavior. For each day he
>> brings home a good report and I'm not just talking an orange, I will
>> give
> him one toy back.
>>
>> I'm tired of spanking him. It doesn't seem to work for me. What do
>> you think?
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