[blparent] a new member

[Jo Elizabeth Pinto]

Hi Carol.  I understand how you feel.  My sister was that way with her first 
baby, only letting me hold him when she or her husband was watching.  She 
flat told me she wouldn't leave me alone with him because I couldn't see. 
Now I have a little girl of my own, and nothing disastrous has happened to 
her in almost four years.

Anyway, I was wondering, could you talk to your son?  Obviously, he knows 
you can raise children, since you raised him.  Maybe he could approach his 
wife easier than you could, and let her know how she's making you feel.

Take care,
Jo Elizabeth

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, 
compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of 
the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will have been all of 
these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist

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From: "Carol Schnip" <winddancer711 at wcoilexpress.com>
Sent: Saturday, December 31, 2011 5:12 PM
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] a new member

> Hi everyone,
>
> I to am a new member. I joined a month or so back just have been leerking 
> debating on how I can ask for some advice. I have a son who just had their 
> first baby in July. His wife does not want  my feancee and I to watch the 
> baby. Due to us being both totally blind. She knows that I raised my own 
> son by myself since my husband walked out after I became blind. But so 
> many persons just tell me that this is her first baby and she will get 
> over it. I dont think so. She even wants me to prove to her by showing her 
> how I would feed and diaper my grandson. This has really hit me hard that 
> she would do this to me. I want to talk about it with them, but I am 
> trying not to get upset and rejected. Her mother gets to keep the baby 
> over the weekend but I am not allowed to do so. I can visit him when they 
> are around but that is all she will let me do. She would not even allow me 
> to watch him for just three or four hours while she took my feancee to 
> school.
> I was looking forward to being a grandma but I feel like she has taken 
> that chance away from me.
> The way I feel I should not have to prove to family that I can do things. 
> But if I have to I will. It is just making me lose respect in her due to 
> this.
> Trying not to cry when I think about it.
> Carol
>
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