[blparent] a new member

[Veronica Smith]

Carol, welcome to the list.  Ok, on the otherside of the coin, I am blind
and when my daughter was born I kind of did the same thing to my sighted
mother.  She was already 78 and had not been around a baby for many many
years and I asked her to show me how she was going to diaper her, hold her,
feed her.  Funny, she raised 5 children and yet, I had trouble letting her
or anyone care for my darling daughter.
 Give her time, how long has she been married to your son and how old is
she?
Invite them over more and let her watch you in action.  Maybe, you can also
sit down with her alone and talk about her weariness of letting you watch
the baby.  Maybe she needs to feel it is okay.
Ask her why you are excluded?
I told my mother it wasn't that I mistrusted her, but it had been a long
time and she said to me, "trust me." And well, what could I say, she's my
own mom.
So I did and they seemed to do okay.
V 

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Carol Schnip
Sent: Saturday, December 31, 2011 5:12 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] a new member

Hi everyone,

I to am a new member. I joined a month or so back just have been leerking
debating on how I can ask for some advice. I have a son who just had their
first baby in July. His wife does not want  my feancee and I to watch the
baby. Due to us being both totally blind. She knows that I raised my own son
by myself since my husband walked out after I became blind. But so many
persons just tell me that this is her first baby and she will get over it. I
dont think so. She even wants me to prove to her by showing her how I would
feed and diaper my grandson. This has really hit me hard that she would do
this to me. I want to talk about it with them, but I am trying not to get
upset and rejected. Her mother gets to keep the baby over the weekend but I
am not allowed to do so. I can visit him when they are around but that is
all she will let me do. She would not even allow me to watch him for just
three or four hours while she took my feancee to school.
I was looking forward to being a grandma but I feel like she has taken that
chance away from me.
The way I feel I should not have to prove to family that I can do things. 
But if I have to I will. It is just making me lose respect in her due to
this.
Trying not to cry when I think about it.
Carol 


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