[blparent] a new member

[hina altaf]

Hi everyone,
Thanks for welcoming me to this list and so far it has been
interesting to learn from people's experiences. I will take the hadley
course once I am done with the excell course and also I will write you
off list.
I am in Rockford Illinois originally from Pakistan.
Veronica my name is pronounced as heena and written as hina.
Hope to talk to you all soon.
Hina.

On 1/2/12, Veronica Smith <madison_tewe at spinn.net> wrote:
> Carol, welcome to the list.  Ok, on the otherside of the coin, I am blind
> and when my daughter was born I kind of did the same thing to my sighted
> mother.  She was already 78 and had not been around a baby for many many
> years and I asked her to show me how she was going to diaper her, hold her,
> feed her.  Funny, she raised 5 children and yet, I had trouble letting her
> or anyone care for my darling daughter.
>  Give her time, how long has she been married to your son and how old is
> she?
> Invite them over more and let her watch you in action.  Maybe, you can also
> sit down with her alone and talk about her weariness of letting you watch
> the baby.  Maybe she needs to feel it is okay.
> Ask her why you are excluded?
> I told my mother it wasn't that I mistrusted her, but it had been a long
> time and she said to me, "trust me." And well, what could I say, she's my
> own mom.
> So I did and they seemed to do okay.
> V
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Carol Schnip
> Sent: Saturday, December 31, 2011 5:12 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] a new member
>
> Hi everyone,
>
> I to am a new member. I joined a month or so back just have been leerking
> debating on how I can ask for some advice. I have a son who just had their
> first baby in July. His wife does not want  my feancee and I to watch the
> baby. Due to us being both totally blind. She knows that I raised my own son
> by myself since my husband walked out after I became blind. But so many
> persons just tell me that this is her first baby and she will get over it. I
> dont think so. She even wants me to prove to her by showing her how I would
> feed and diaper my grandson. This has really hit me hard that she would do
> this to me. I want to talk about it with them, but I am trying not to get
> upset and rejected. Her mother gets to keep the baby over the weekend but I
> am not allowed to do so. I can visit him when they are around but that is
> all she will let me do. She would not even allow me to watch him for just
> three or four hours while she took my feancee to school.
> I was looking forward to being a grandma but I feel like she has taken that
> chance away from me.
> The way I feel I should not have to prove to family that I can do things.
> But if I have to I will. It is just making me lose respect in her due to
> this.
> Trying not to cry when I think about it.
> Carol
>
>
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