[blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!

[Sean Paul]

I personally think that before you have this type of discussion with him. 
You should involve your husband. Explain to him what is going on. Then you 
both talk to your step son.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Erin Rumer" <erinrumer at gmail.com>
To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Tuesday, June 05, 2012 17:32
Subject: Re: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!


> Hello Jo Elizabeth,
>
> I would just sit down with him and have a calm and non-threatening
> conversation about what is expected from him around the house and what the
> rules are.  As you already know, this will be foreign to him because he's
> never treaded these waters with his biological mom so expect lash back but
> just stay relaxed yourself as a united front with your hubby.  More than
> anything, let your step son know what the rewards are for taking
> responsibility like allowance and such and that should at least be a 
> carrot
> to entice the horse so to speak.  Make sure to discuss all of the details 
> of
> consequences and rewards with your hubby ahead of time that way there's no
> conflict between the two of you, especially in front of your step son
> because he will see that as weakness and take advantage for sure.  For 
> those
> things that aren't black and white you might just simply ask your step son
> to help you out more with tasks, like making the pizza for example.  Your
> daughter wanted some, but that's no reason he shouldn't have a hand in
> helping out so, maybe just tell him that you're going to throw it in the
> oven, and if he could take it out when the timer goes off and cut it up as
> soon as it cools, that would be great.
>
> Hope this helps and good luck!  I've worked a lot with teens and they can 
> be
> a species of their own for sure! SMILING
>
> Erin
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
> Sent: Tuesday, June 05, 2012 2:12 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!
>
> Hi.  Summer vacation is just beginning around here, and my stepson is 
> living
> with us during the weeks and going home to his mom on the weekends.  It's 
> a
> workable arrangement, except for one thing.  I think my stepson is used to
> his mom pretty much waiting on him.  Like today, he wanted a frozen pizza
> for lunch, but he made no move to get up and make it.  I finally did the 
> job
> because Sarah wanted some too.  He doesn't put dishes in the dishwasher, 
> or
> if he does, they're not rinsed first.  He doesn't see a problem with 
> clothes
> all over the floor.  The maid wants to go on strike!
>
> Any tips for how to deal with older kids?  Sarah's young enough that she
> pretty much does what I tell her, and she already knows she has to put
> dishes in the sink and clothes in the hamper.  But my stepson is driving 
> me
> crazy, and I just don't have the energy to keep my house from getting to
> look like Hurricane Katrina has taken up residence.
>
> Run ragged,
> Jo Elizabeth
>
> "A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a
> song."  Maya Angelou
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