[blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!

Wed Jun 6 17:38:21 UTC 2012

                        You don't need Dad's input if he's not home for the next meal. It would be nice for you to have it, but you don't need it.

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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
Sent: Wednesday, June 06, 2012 1:30 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!

Hmmm, interesting.  I'll have to see if his dad will go for that--and for
the tantrum that is sure to follow.  And yes, teenagers can and do have
tantrums.  They just look a little different from the toddler ones we're
used to.

Jo Elizabeth

"A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a
song."  Maya Angelou

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From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at tasc.com>
Sent: Wednesday, June 06, 2012 11:25 AM
To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!

> Nice idea with the cups and can.
>
> The boy is trainable you just need to make him feel the pain.
> Thing is these are life skills he's learning. You need food, and you need
> clean dishes to eat that food with.  Not serving him the next meal makes
> logical sense. You can calmly explain to him that since he didn't care
> enough to wash the dishes, then he must not care about dinner and why fix
> food for someone who can't be bothered to enjoy it?
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
> Sent: Wednesday, June 06, 2012 1:19 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!
>
> Little pizzas might be a good idea.  The dishes thing is interesting--I
> did
> stop him from leaving half full drinks sitting around where they could be,
> and were often, knocked over.  I said if I had to clean up one more spill
> I
> was going to take all the cups and glasses out of the kitchen and leave
> only
> sippies.  I would have done it, too, but so far I haven't had to.  Also, I
> have an empty Pringles can in my utensil drawer, and all of the steak
> knives
> go into that can so I don't reach into the drawer and grab one of the
> blades
> by accident.  I did take all of the knives and put them in a hiding place,
> and when I returned them to the drawer, I haven't had any more trouble
> with
> the blades not going into the Pringles can.
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
> "A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a
> song."  Maya Angelou
>
> --------------------------------------------------
> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at tasc.com>
> Sent: Wednesday, June 06, 2012 11:04 AM
> To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!
>
>>        To put a more positive spin on this, maybe his mom enjoys waiting
>> on him or maybe she's got some control issues and he's gotten yelled at
>> for not doing things exactly as she would do them?
>>
>> Not that you need to put up with this, but you may not know what went on
>> or goes on when he's with his mom.
>> If he was living with me, I'd first tell him what I expect. Then if he
>> ignored me, I'd make him feel the pain.  If dishes don't go where they
>> need to, well, he must not care so he doesn't get a place set at the next
>> meal because that requires clean dishes.  If his clothes are everywhere,
>> well he must not need them clean.
>>
>> Also, I'd probably have made Sarah a nonpizza lunch and explained to her
>> that you're trying to train her silly stepbrother.  I say this because
>> he's just figured out that if Sarah wants something you'll do it.  That's
>> not technically fair to Sarah but it also isn't fair that you fee like
>> the
>> maid and all of you need to realize you live as a group.
>>
>> If you just can't say no to pizza, can you get little pizzas, only big
>> enough for one so Sarah can have hers and stepson can go without?
>>
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>> Sent: Tuesday, June 05, 2012 5:12 PM
>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!
>>
>> Hi.  Summer vacation is just beginning around here, and my stepson is
>> living with us during the weeks and going home to his mom on the
>> weekends.
>> It's a workable arrangement, except for one thing.  I think my stepson is
>> used to his mom pretty much waiting on him.  Like today, he wanted a
>> frozen pizza for lunch, but he made no move to get up and make it.  I
>> finally did the job because Sarah wanted some too.  He doesn't put dishes
>> in the dishwasher, or if he does, they're not rinsed first.  He doesn't
>> see a problem with clothes all over the floor.  The maid wants to go on
>> strike!
>>
>> Any tips for how to deal with older kids?  Sarah's young enough that she
>> pretty much does what I tell her, and she already knows she has to put
>> dishes in the sink and clothes in the hamper.  But my stepson is driving
>> me crazy, and I just don't have the energy to keep my house from getting
>> to look like Hurricane Katrina has taken up residence.
>>
>> Run ragged,
>> Jo Elizabeth
>>
>> "A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a
>> song."  Maya Angelou
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