[blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!

[Peggy]

I agree with this, my son is 12 and he does his own laundry, if it's not 
done and he stinks, that's too bad.  I can't tell you the last time he 
brushed his teeth and I'll say to him ... you smell, your breath stinks, his 
sister tells him all the time his teeth are gross ... If he goes to school 
and someone thinks that poor child having a blind mother, hopefully someone 
will call me on it ... and I will say ... oh this poor blind mother with a 
child that has no hygene sense at all ... He has new, nice clothes, his room 
is decorated nicely with Nebraska Husker things ... But I'm tired of 
fighting with him.  I took everything off the floor once and kept it for a 
month ... I think he wore the same socks for that whole month ... I don't 
wanna know.  But he didn't seem to care so I gave all his stuff back and 
told him, you don't care, neither do I ... now I don't step foot in his 
room, his door has to be closed at all times, and if he stinks, I'll be the 
first to tell him and encourage others to do the same.  As far as helping 
around the house, you want something from me then you help me to earn that 
something ... you want money for a movie then you mow the lawn or take out 
the trash or do the dishes ... You can't do things around here for your 
family then you get no special treats.  My son usually goes to summer camp, 
he can't keep himself and his room clean I didn't spend the $400 for him to 
go to camp this summer.  Sometimes as parents we have to be mean and 
sometimes it's harder for us then it seems for them ... I'm sorry my son 
didn't get to go to camp this summer, it's a great experience for him, will 
he learn something from it, that remains to be seen.



-----Original Message----- 
From: Veronica Smith
Sent: Friday, June 08, 2012 11:07 PM
To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!

I know this has been answered over and over but I am only going to say one
thing, I told Gab if her clothes are not in the hamper and if they are on
the floor in her room, I have no problem picking them up and throwing them
out.  That is what I do with trash.  Of course she is my daughter.  I picked
them up, stuffed them in a bag and threw them in the trash.  When she wasn't
looking I took them out and hid them.  But the fact that I did what I said
meant a lot.
This is all I am going to say.  What does his dad say, please email me off
list.  Smiles!

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
Sent: Tuesday, June 05, 2012 3:12 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: [blparent] The maid wants to go on strike!

Hi.  Summer vacation is just beginning around here, and my stepson is living
with us during the weeks and going home to his mom on the weekends.  It's a
workable arrangement, except for one thing.  I think my stepson is used to
his mom pretty much waiting on him.  Like today, he wanted a frozen pizza
for lunch, but he made no move to get up and make it.  I finally did the job
because Sarah wanted some too.  He doesn't put dishes in the dishwasher, or
if he does, they're not rinsed first.  He doesn't see a problem with clothes
all over the floor.  The maid wants to go on strike!

Any tips for how to deal with older kids?  Sarah's young enough that she
pretty much does what I tell her, and she already knows she has to put
dishes in the sink and clothes in the hamper.  But my stepson is driving me
crazy, and I just don't have the energy to keep my house from getting to
look like Hurricane Katrina has taken up residence.

Run ragged,
Jo Elizabeth

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