[blparent] children and trust

[Peggy]

I totally understand where you are coming from, especially when I have a 
dog's leash in one hand and a child leash in the other!!  When we are 
walking around, Dylan is being taught to hold my hand.  If we are sitting in 
a place, doc office, at a pool party, etc., I put a leash on him, this way 
he can move about a bit, I know where he is, and I can sit and converse with 
people without hollering every two seconds to find out where he is.  It also 
prevents him from running around like a maniac, which a lot of kids do, and 
I can't stand!!  When he's being stubborn about holding my hand, the leash 
does come out.  And I will never unsubscribe from this list, every blind 
person has things that work for them and things that don't.  I use a leash 
at times and take no offense that my son's treated like a dog!!  There has 
been a couple times I've hooked his leash to a retractible leash and then to 
something to anchor him, this is how I do yard work in the front yard, along 
a busy street.  This way he can play, safely, and I can work.  Is he a dog?? 
Nope!  But it works and keeps him safe ... Oh I'll probably get a lot of 
guff for chaining up my son, lol.

-----Original Message----- 
From: Jodie and Kahlan
Sent: Tuesday, May 22, 2012 1:27 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: [blparent] children and trust

Hi. I didn't want to send this before because I wasn't sure how I could
do it respectfully. Honestly, my first thought was to say that I won't
treat my child like a dog. But I thought about it and now I can see the
potential use for a leash. As for me, I would only use it as the very
last resort. This is just my opinion and I'm not trying to criticize
anyone's parenting style.

I agree with Rebecca that freedom is earned and that Miles made a
mistake, but it's my opinion that if your child is kept on a leash at
all times, he or she won't have the chance to earn back your trust or
his or her freedom. Personally, I would try all the audio tips, and
teach Kahlan to answer or come when called. if she doesn't respond in
some way when she's called, then and only then would I use the leash
because she proves to me then that she can't be trusted yet. Until she
learns to answer or come, I think the bells and the child locator will
be our best friends.

-- 
Hugs from Jodie and kahlan

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