[blparent] how to handle a baby while you multi task

[hina altaf]

hi everyone,
Thanks for the advise on how to handle the baby. I liked your options
about a rug,  play pen, swing and jumping seat but these are things I
wish I could afford. My husband has other responsibilities as well and
he helps alot with the baby when I am at work. I am not a citizen, so
I can't afford the day care and i do not prefer to keep my child in
day care but when you are the only person running the household
financially, you have no choice but to work.
But I appreciate the suggestions in regards to handling the baby and
will see if I could get any of these items. but if anyone has any of
these things that they are no longer using them, I would appreciate
them.
Thanks.
Hina.

On 11/14/12, Bernadetta <bernadetta_pracon at samobile.net> wrote:
> Rebecca,
> Woe, aren't you overstepping the line here a little? Don't answer that;
> I don't think you'll agree that you are.
> But unless you know hina and hina's situation on a more personal level
> than the rest of us, who are you to make assumptions on her
> relationship with her husband? While you may have one valid point, that
> parents might find that spending time together with their baby is more
> enjoyable than separately, you went ahead and made a bunch of comments
> about being miserable, about separation, etc.
> Correct me if I'm wrong here, but Hina asked us for suggestions on how
> to handle her child when she needs to multitask. She didnt' ask for a
> marriage councelor. There's no reason to be sticking one's nose into
> someone else's marital life when they haven't asked anyone to do so.
> Perhaps you think you're being helpful, but in case you haven't
> considered this, not everyone can afford to have one parent stay at
> home from work. Also, not everyone can afford to invest in daycare. In
> this case, both parents have to work alternating schedules, and there
> may be no way around it. Some people don't have certain luxuries, no
> matter how much they can benefit from them.
> So unless you know something I dont' know, let's not pit a new mother
> against her husband and tell her what she should and shouldn't do about
> her marriage and lifestyle. Let's instead support her as a parent and
> if she asks us for advice on her relationships and how her free time
> should be spent, then we can perhaps dispense that sort of advice.
> My partner and I are lucky enough to both work from home, and so we do
> have that cherrished time with our baby together, but even partners who
> are both with the baby constantly have to alternate responsibilities.
> Sometimes I feel like we're doing shifts and we both have two other
> jobs in conjunction with our paying jobs; Our home and our baby. Often
> we can enjoy time together as a family, but sometimes our household
> runs more eficiently and smoothly when we take turns.
> So it's nice that you have this wonderfully idealistic view of how co
> parenting should work, but as we all know, being a parent is a tough
> job. And while we're on the topic of tough jobs, a marriage wouldn't be
> a genuine partnership without a few tough times now and then. Anyone
> who feels they might disagree with me, please feel free to do so, but
> every relationship, no matter how good it is, is a work in progress.
> Even the best of them have occasional kinks.
> Again, as I said previously, the nature of your last message suggests
> that you know more about hina's situation than the rest of us do. If
> that's true, then that's nice of you to offer her advice, but  if
> you're just assuming, well... you know the old saying. when you assume,
> you make an ass out of you and me.
> Had to put my two cents worth in.
> Rant over now.
> And I sincerely hope we haven't scared Hina off with our tendencies to
> get too personal on here.
>
> Bernadetta
>
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