[blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?

[Bernadetta Pracon]

Well, Gabe, with respect, it's not always that simple. You tend to see 
things in black or white, figuratively speaking of course, but it's not 
always that simple. People already tend to have their ignorant 
misconceptions about blind people, even if they happen to have a blind 
person in their family. So if you cause a scene around a bunch of 
people who think they're right and your not not only will you be 
incompetent in their eyes, but also a crazy jerk. I stand my ground 
regarding my son, but there are limits. I don't want to come across as 
a rude, ass, or become a recluse. I want to be treated with respect 
just like anyone else. There are times when you can safely say "it's 
complicated" and no one knows the ins and outs of a given situation 
without being in it themselves.
Once again, I see how my peers and relatives who have brand new babies 
are treated, even if they don't know the first thing about being a 
responsible parent. They can do goodness knows what with their babies, 
and everyone leaves them to it. When I attempt to parent my kid, all 
eyes are on me and everyone jumps in with overhelpful intentions.  I am 
a competent parent who doesn't let blindness become an obstacle in my 
parenting--other people make it an issue, and that's where I run into 
problems. So clearly, that is blindness related.
Thanks

Respectfully,

Bernadetta