[blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?

[Kate McEachern]

You don't rezolve conflicts infrunt of children.  It gives them amo to play 
you all against each other.  You can pull some one aside and your kids can 
see that but you should try not to fight infrunt of them.  At times it can't 
be helped but trying not to let it happen too much is a good move on your 
part.  This still isn't blindness related.

Katie
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at msn.com>
To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, September 03, 2012 2:39 AM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?


>I guess maybe I could have gone a step further and not let her have the 
>cake at all, since I knew she was going to eat the frosting off and leave 
>the rest.  She always does that.  Nanna did see her with the cake, but I 
>reached out and took it, so I knew how much was left.  A triangle piece, 
>maybe the size of my palm.  Hardly worth going to war over, I suppose, 
>except that yesterday, Nanna swatted Sarah twice on the bottom and said, 
>"Maybe your mommy lets you get away with temper tantrums, but Nanna won't." 
>I don't, in fact, let my daughter have temper tantrums.  But I find that 
>when she starts screeching and waving her arms around, it usually means 
>she's frustrated and can't find the words fast enough to say why.  So I'm 
>willing to stop her and make her calm down and take a deep breath, then 
>think about what she wants to say and get her point across.  That's why I 
>asked the original question, wondering if maybe I overreacted.  It sounds 
>like most of the consensus is that I did, which I appreciate hearing, in 
>civil terms.  Nanna and I will get it figured out, but the bigger issue is 
>that I have to stop her when she does take over sometimes.  She's told me 
>in the past that it's okay for me to say she needs to back off a bit, but 
>apparently when I did, it wasn't right.  It all gets very confusing. 
>Still, it's called having family type relationships, and it takes work.  I 
>don't believe there are only two legitimate choices, either walk away or 
>give in.  I do believe it's good for our children to see us resolve 
>conflicts and go on loving those who are in our world.
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
> I am somehow less interested in the weight and convolutions of Einstein's 
> brain than in the near certainty that people of equal talent have lived 
> and died in cotton fields and sweatshops.--Stephen Jay Gould
> -----Original Message----- 
> From: Musiclady
> Sent: Monday, September 03, 2012 12:25 AM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
>
> Personally, I would have gone with your nana.  Because she saw
> the kid with the cake, so she should deal with it.  I think it's
> important for our kids to receive correction for others not just
> us.
> Steph
>
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