[blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?

[Marla Wertman]

In my personal opinion I would not have allowed my child the second
piece of cake just because of the tantrum.  However I agree with you Mom
and Dad make the rules no matter who's house they are at if they are
present.
On Mon, 3 Sep 2012 00:39:12 -0600
"Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at msn.com> wrote:

> I guess maybe I could have gone a step further and not let her have the cake 
> at all, since I knew she was going to eat the frosting off and leave the 
> rest.  She always does that.  Nanna did see her with the cake, but I reached 
> out and took it, so I knew how much was left.  A triangle piece, maybe the 
> size of my palm.  Hardly worth going to war over, I suppose, except that 
> yesterday, Nanna swatted Sarah twice on the bottom and said, "Maybe your 
> mommy lets you get away with temper tantrums, but Nanna won't."  I don't, in 
> fact, let my daughter have temper tantrums.  But I find that when she starts 
> screeching and waving her arms around, it usually means she's frustrated and 
> can't find the words fast enough to say why.  So I'm willing to stop her and 
> make her calm down and take a deep breath, then think about what she wants 
> to say and get her point across.  That's why I asked the original question, 
> wondering if maybe I overreacted.  It sounds like most of the consensus is 
> that I did, which I appreciate hearing, in civil terms.  Nanna and I will 
> get it figured out, but the bigger issue is that I have to stop her when she 
> does take over sometimes.  She's told me in the past that it's okay for me 
> to say she needs to back off a bit, but apparently when I did, it wasn't 
> right.  It all gets very confusing.  Still, it's called having family type 
> relationships, and it takes work.  I don't believe there are only two 
> legitimate choices, either walk away or give in.  I do believe it's good for 
> our children to see us resolve conflicts and go on loving those who are in 
> our world.
> 
> Jo Elizabeth
> 
> I am somehow less interested in the weight and convolutions of Einstein's 
> brain than in the near certainty that people of equal talent have lived and 
> died in cotton fields and sweatshops.--Stephen Jay Gould
> -----Original Message----- 
> From: Musiclady
> Sent: Monday, September 03, 2012 12:25 AM
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> Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
> 
> Personally, I would have gone with your nana.  Because she saw
> the kid with the cake, so she should deal with it.  I think it's
> important for our kids to receive correction for others not just
> us.
> Steph
> 
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Marla Wertman <mwertman72 at gmail.com>