[blparent] blparent Digest, Vol 100, Issue 10
Jennifer Bose
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Sun Sep 9 01:44:58 UTC 2012
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> 1. Diaper Rash (Jolynn Turpin)
> 2. Re: Diaper Rash (Bernadetta Pracon)
> 3. Re: Diaper Rash (Bernadetta Pracon)
> 4. Re: Diaper Rash (sharon howerton)
> 5. Re: Diaper Rash (Agnes Steinhoff)
> 6. Re: to gabe, was Whose rules should take precedence?
> (Kate McEachern)
> 7. Re: Knitting Baby Booties (Kate McEachern)
> 8. Re: Diaper Rash (Kate McEachern)
> 9. Re: Diaper Rash (Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S)
> 10. Roommates and being a single parent? (Kate McEachern)
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> Message: 1
> Date: Fri, 7 Sep 2012 20:58:38 -0700
> From: Jolynn Turpin <linnie1516 at gmail.com>
> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
> Subject: [blparent] Diaper Rash
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> Hi
> I am sorry if this is a stupid question but I am just not really
> sure how it all works :) I am watching my sisters baby for a while
> and she is about 3 months old. My sister tells me she is prone to
> diaper rash so I need to be on the lookout for it. I am just not sure
> how as a blind person would you spot diaper rash. Is there a
> difference in skin texture or does someone just put rash cream on
> periodically just to be sure there is nothing. Anyways thanks for the
> help and sorry if this has been gone over in the past. I am new to
> this:)
>
>
>
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>
> Message: 2
> Date: Sat, 08 Sep 2012 03:57:14 -0400
> From: Bernadetta Pracon <bernadetta_pracon at samobile.net>
> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Diaper Rash
> Message-ID: d47e4e6f-c4e7-44ba-8d33-575be479fb72 at samobile.net
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> Hi,
> Don't worry. No question regarding babies is uncalled for or insignificant.
> You can tell if a baby has diaper rash through texture, at least that's
> accurate in my experience. A baby's skin is normally smooth. If he has
> a rash, visually the spot will be discolored, and it will feel rough.
> If the baby is a boy, he will most likely get a rash under his penis
> and around his testicles, as well as the folds of the skin between his
> legs and testicles.
> It won't harm him to have the cream on periodically, so if you're not
> sure, go ahead and apply the cream during every diaper change or every
> other diaper change. Diaper rash can be avoided or greatly diminished
> with frequent diaper changing--like every two hours or so. if you want
> to be sure that he doesn't get any new rash, change his diaper
> freequently, and/or apply the cream periodically.
> Also, do wash his genitals and his bottom with a warm wet washcloth
> every once in a while, even if you use baby wipes regularly. sometimes
> it's the baby wipes that give babies diaper rash. so a plain old
> washcloth dampened with water can be better for the skin and will
> ensure that baby is clean in between bathtimes.
>
> Happy to help
> Have fun babysitting your nephew!!!
> All best
> Bernadetta
>
>
>
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> Message: 3
> Date: Sat, 08 Sep 2012 04:07:36 -0400
> From: Bernadetta Pracon <bernadetta_pracon at samobile.net>
> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Diaper Rash
> Message-ID: 6500a9a4-b938-4c3e-bfc1-397bff749e0b at samobile.net
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>
> Oops, sorry. I read the message over and realized you're talking about
> a girl. My bad. I'm beyond sleepy--for some reason I was sure you were
> talking about a boy. Probably because I have a little boy myself. So
> just disregard the bit about the penis and testicles, obviously. lol.
> Girls are so much easier to change and diaper rash can be spotted much
> easier with them. but apply the cream and do a thorough clean with a
> wet washcloth every few hours and she'll be fine. Important thing to
> remember when changing a girl though: When changing a poopy diaper,
> make sure to wipe front to back, not back to front. if you clean her up
> from back to front, you can transmit bacteria from the colon into her
> vagina and urethra, and she can get a urinary tract infection. Those
> are painful for grown-up women, so you can imagine how bad it could be
> for an infant.
> Anyway, I don't mean to worry or scare you. People didn't know about
> urinary tract infections and front to back wiping back in the day and
> somehow, baby girls survived. lol. But just keep in mind to wipe,
> front to back. Try not to let the poo make contact with her girly parts.
> lol
> Ok. I'm ranbling now. It's beyond bedtime for me.
> Have a good time with your niece. and dont' hesitate to ask any more
> questions. we're here to help you.
>
> Bernadetta
>
>
>
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> Message: 4
> Date: Sat, 8 Sep 2012 06:34:57 -0500
> From: "sharon howerton" <shrnhow at att.net>
> To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Diaper Rash
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> Diaper rash is very tactile. It feels bumpy. My sons are adults now and they
>
> had it only maybe once when each of them was that young. They used cloth
> diapers then so it was easy to tell when they were wet. I am not experienced
>
> enough with disposable diapers to tell, but just clean the baby's bottom
> whenever you change her and especially clean the part between her legs at
> the top. Keep him/her clean, dry her off if you have to use soap and water
> to clean up #2 and she should be fine. Also I teach a parenting series for
> Hadley, and this is a topic we discuss.
> And if your sister's baby is a boy, put something over his front when you
> take off his diaper. The air seems to stimulate little showers and will
> surprise you if you aren't expecting it! :)
> Good luck.
> Sharon
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Jolynn Turpin" <linnie1516 at gmail.com>
> To: <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Friday, September 07, 2012 10:58 PM
> Subject: [blparent] Diaper Rash
>
>
>> Hi
>> I am sorry if this is a stupid question but I am just not really
>> sure how it all works :) I am watching my sisters baby for a while
>> and she is about 3 months old. My sister tells me she is prone to
>> diaper rash so I need to be on the lookout for it. I am just not sure
>> how as a blind person would you spot diaper rash. Is there a
>> difference in skin texture or does someone just put rash cream on
>> periodically just to be sure there is nothing. Anyways thanks for the
>> help and sorry if this has been gone over in the past. I am new to
>> this:)
>>
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> Message: 5
> Date: Sat, 8 Sep 2012 12:36:26 -0400
> From: "Agnes Steinhoff" <amorawska at nycap.rr.com>
> To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Diaper Rash
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> Hi,
>
> Both my children had diaper rashes and I was able to notice the rash from
> the texture of the skin. I always used either vaseline or Desitin cream.
> Sometimes its nothing to do with how well the baby is taken care of. Even
> teething will bring on a diaper rash, or at least that was what I was told.
>
> Just keep an eye on it, and the baby will let you know too. If she is
> crying frequently, chances are that one of the reasons is a diaper rash.
> Hope this helps.
>
> Agnes
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Jolynn Turpin" <linnie1516 at gmail.com>
> To: <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Friday, September 07, 2012 11:58 PM
> Subject: [blparent] Diaper Rash
>
>
>> Hi
>> I am sorry if this is a stupid question but I am just not really
>> sure how it all works :) I am watching my sisters baby for a while
>> and she is about 3 months old. My sister tells me she is prone to
>> diaper rash so I need to be on the lookout for it. I am just not sure
>> how as a blind person would you spot diaper rash. Is there a
>> difference in skin texture or does someone just put rash cream on
>> periodically just to be sure there is nothing. Anyways thanks for the
>> help and sorry if this has been gone over in the past. I am new to
>> this:)
>>
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> Message: 6
> Date: Sat, 8 Sep 2012 10:47:42 -0400
> From: "Kate McEachern" <kflsouth at gmail.com>
> To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [blparent] to gabe, was Whose rules should take
> precedence?
> Message-ID: <4201BBE971C344909EEEAB9FF302BC17 at katiepc>
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> Thanks Tammy. :) Hard to get a room when I'm still in Florida. But working
> on relocating just can't abandon the room mate.
>
> Katie
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Tammy
> Sent: Friday, September 07, 2012 11:19 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] to gabe, was Whose rules should take precedence?
>
> Oh get a room you guys! grin j/k I think you're very cute! Nice to see
> some love on this list instead of teeth and claws.
>
>
> Tammy
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Kate McEachern
> Sent: Friday, September 07, 2012 8:39 PM
> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] to gabe, was Whose rules should take precedence?
>
> Her point is nothing sweetie. Call me later. *smooches*
> Katie :)
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Gabe Vega
> Sent: Friday, September 07, 2012 8:16 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] to gabe, was Whose rules should take precedence?
>
> I openly admit my spelling skills aren't up to par sweety. actually most
> the
> time I spell check my messages but once in a while it slips. so your point
> again is what?
> Gabe Vega - Sent from my MacbookAir
> Blog: http://thebt.net
> iMessage/Email: theblindtech at gmail.com
> Phone: (623) 565-9357
>
> On Sep 7, 2012, at 5:04 PM, Bernadetta Pracon
> <bernadetta_pracon at samobile.net> wrote:
>
>> Gabe,
>> I know this may be off topic, but for a guy who judges so many people so
> often, who claims to be so smart and confident and seems to know so much,
> you sure can't spell worth crap. I'm saying this because if you are going
> to
> insist on bullying people and adding in your own two cents everywhere
> regarding people's situations, maybe you should at least spell check your
> messages so there's a little more credibility to all that you say. Just a
> friendly little piece of advice.
>> HTH
>>
>> Bernadetta
>>
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> Message: 7
> Date: Sat, 8 Sep 2012 10:50:04 -0400
> From: "Kate McEachern" <kflsouth at gmail.com>
> To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Knitting Baby Booties
> Message-ID: <3DE4EFA97FAC4739BB891C24325D50F0 at katiepc>
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> Yeah, hook me up.
> Katie
> kflsouth at gmail.com
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Tammy
> Sent: Friday, September 07, 2012 11:27 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Knitting Baby Booties
>
> Hi,
>
> Sure I can help you here...I think! There's a blind stitchers group that
> might be able to help you more but I can teach you the basic knit stitch,
> and casting on etc. What you'll need is a pair ofstraight knitting
> needles,
>
> probably size 9 or ten to start and some really thick woll, worsted weight
> or maybe even bulky woll would probably be better. You can go on youtube
> to
>
> get videos, but I have a book written by a blind guy that will get you
> started. I'll write you privately if that's okay and give it to you. Then
>
> we can go from there.
>
> hth
>
> Tammy
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Gabe Vega
> Sent: Friday, September 07, 2012 9:16 PM
> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: [blparent] Knitting Baby Booties
>
> When I was younger, my grand mother use to nit all day. quilts, slippers,
> and even end table doilies. she was highly skilled at what she did. can
> some
>
> one explain to me how I can do this and learn the basics so, maybe the next
>
> baby I have. with Katie maybe I can knit my own baby booties.
> Gabe Vega - Sent from my MacbookAir
> Blog: http://thebt.net
> iMessage/Email: theblindtech at gmail.com
> Phone: (623) 565-9357
>
> On Sep 7, 2012, at 6:06 PM, "Kate McEachern" <kflsouth at gmail.com> wrote:
>
>> HERE'S AN IDEA, STOP BICKERING WITH SOME ONE WHO DOESN'T GIVE A DAM IF
>> YOU
>> LIKE WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY!! You know what I shouldn't have to yells at
>> an
>> adult this crap is why I left before, not because of Gabe but because of
>> a
>> bunch of women who just won't stop till they think they have the last
>> word.
>> There now, I'm done. Now don't waist time commenting to this because I am
>> done with topic. Some one please asks how to nit baby booties or
>> something
>> that can't be turned in to a cat fight or an attack Gabe section.
>>
>> Grow the hell up!
>> Katie
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>> Sent: Friday, September 07, 2012 8:28 PM
>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
>>
>> This list should be a safe and open forum where blind parents can discuss
>> things that are important to them, not a kindergarten class where people
>> have to be repeatedly asked not to call each other names. Therefore, I
>> shouldn't have anything that I have to get over after a week, or at all.
>>
>> Jo Elizabeth
>>
>> I am somehow less interested in the weight and convolutions of Einstein's
>> brain than in the near certainty that people of equal talent have lived
>> and
>> died in cotton fields and sweatshops.--Stephen Jay Gould
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: Kate McEachern
>> Sent: Friday, September 07, 2012 6:24 PM
>> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
>>
>> He just mentioned that she was responding to old messages, I don't see
>> that
>> as starting something. Maybe she didn't know they were a week old. Oh,
>> and
>> seriously after a week you can't get over big Barny tuff girl? A little
>> thin skinned are we? This time he didn't start anything I see. Get over
>> it.
>> Katie
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>> Sent: Friday, September 07, 2012 7:24 PM
>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
>>
>> I'm not quite over "big barny tough girl" or "cowers from confrontation"
>> yet. Sorry. If you insist on personally attacking fellow list members,
>> you
>>
>> have to realize it will take time for the hard feelings to wear off.
>> Veronica was asking for common courtesy, which never goes out of style.
>> I've said all I'm going to.
>>
>> Jo Elizabeth
>>
>> I am somehow less interested in the weight and convolutions of Einstein's
>> brain than in the near certainty that people of equal talent have lived
>> and
>> died in cotton fields and sweatshops.--Stephen Jay Gould
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S
>> Sent: Friday, September 07, 2012 4:59 PM
>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Cc: Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
>>
>> Seriously? Joe Elizabeth? You want to start again? You really can't leave
>>
>> it
>>
>> alone? Must you get the last word?
>>
>> Gabe Vega
>> Sent from my iPhone
>> (623) 565-9357
>>
>> On Sep 7, 2012, at 3:44 PM, "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at msn.com> wrote:
>>
>>> Frankly, her remarks are still very applicable. Thank you, Veronica.
>>>
>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>
>>> I am somehow less interested in the weight and convolutions of
>>> Einstein's
>>> brain than in the near certainty that people of equal talent have lived
>>> and died in cotton fields and sweatshops.--Stephen Jay Gould
>>> -----Original Message----- From: Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S
>>> Sent: Friday, September 07, 2012 4:05 PM
>>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>>> Cc: Blind Parents Mailing List
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
>>>
>>> Veronica, you are responding to seven day old messages. You are
>>> responding
>>
>>> to old messages that are over and done with. Please check the date of
>>> the
>>> messages you're responding to, I think you're thinking I sent is
>>> recently
>>> but these were sent a week ago
>>>
>>> Gabe Vega
>>> Sent from my iPhone
>>> (623) 565-9357
>>>
>>> On Sep 7, 2012, at 2:39 PM, "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
>>> wrote:
>>>
>>>> Gabe, there you go again being hateful. Keep those unkind remarks to
>>>> yourself and stick with the topic. I, for one, do not think it is off
>>>> topic as we are talking parenting here. And if I recall correctly, we
>>>> all are blind parents. Right?
>>>>
>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>> On
>>
>>>> Behalf Of Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S
>>>> Sent: Sunday, September 02, 2012 10:12 PM
>>>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>>>> Cc: Blind Parents Mailing List
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
>>>>
>>>> grandmas house, grandmas rules. dont like it, dont go back. simple as
>>>> that. and its still off topic. and blindies only get mistreated if they
>>>> allow it. its funny how joe thinks she is a big barny tough girl on
>>>> list,
>>
>>>> but in real life, she just like the rest who use this act. and cowars
>>>> from confrontation because it on an email list and partially
>>>> annonymous.
>>>> :-)
>>>>
>>>> Gabe Vega
>>>> Sent from my iPhone
>>>> (623) 565-9357
>>>>
>>>> On Sep 2, 2012, at 8:55 PM, "Angie Matney" <angie.matney at gmail.com>
>>>> wrote:
>>>>
>>>>> Actually, Gabe's text is at the bottom of the post. He said that
>>>>> grandma's rules should apply.
>>>>>
>>>>> Sorry, no one but me gets to decide what my kid eats, unless I'm not
>>>>> around and that person has responsibility for my child. It was very
>>>>> disrespectful of this woman to try to interpose herself in the
>>>>> parent-child relationship.
>>>>>
>>>>> And I do think this is blindness-related, because people tend to
>>>>> infantilize blind adults. I wonder if this woman would have done the
>>>>> same thing to a sighted parent.
>>>>>
>>>>> As for what you can do now, you could calmly explain to her that you
>>>>> make the rules for Sarah, and if she can respect that, then her
>>>>> informal
>>
>>>>> grandmother-type relationship can continue.
>>>>>
>>>>> Best of luck.
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> ----- Original Message ----- From: "Kate McEachern"
>>>>> <kflsouth at gmail.com>
>>>>> To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>>> Sent: Sunday, September 02, 2012 11:37 PM
>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>> Gabe nothing is written here.
>>>>>> Katie
>>>>>> ----- Original Message ----- From: "Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S"
>>>>>> <theblindtech at gmail.com>
>>>>>> To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>>>> Cc: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>>>> Sent: Sunday, September 02, 2012 11:31 PM
>>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Whose rules should take precedence?
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> Gabe Vega
>>>>>>> Sent from my iPhone
>>>>>>> (623) 565-9357
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> On Sep 2, 2012, at 8:14 PM, "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at msn.com>
>>>>>>> wrote:
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> I know this may not sound blindness related, but it kind of is in a
>>>>>>>> way because my daughter's adopted Nanna tends to take over a lot
>>>>>>>> instead of letting me be the mom. She's been there all of my
>>>>>>>> daughter's life, knitted her a blanket, kept her overnight, all the
>>>>>>>> things a grandma loves to do. I love her dearly. But, frankly,
>> she's
>>>>>>>> pushy.
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> There was a situation that happened today while we were at her
>>>>>>>> house
>>>>>>>> for a barbecue. A bunch of us from church had contributed food.My
>>>>>>>> daughter had eaten a fairly balanced meal, so I wasn't worried
>>>>>>>> about
>>>>>>>> her nutrition. When it came time for dessert, she chose to have a
>>>>>>>> piece of carrot cake, which she promptly ate the frosting off of
>>>>>>>> and
>>>>>>>> then lost interest in. Par for the course. Then she asked Nanna
>>>>>>>> for
>>
>>>>>>>> some lemon cake. Lots of us were just having little smidges of
>>>>>>>> each
>>>>>>>> kind, so I was surprised when Nanna said no, there was still cake
>>>>>>>> on
>>>>>>>> her plate. I could see it if she hadn't eaten dinner first, but
>>>>>>>> she
>>>>>>>> had, so I thought that was ridiculous. Trying to keep the mood
>>>>>>>> light, I reached over and took the cake off my daughter's dish,
>>>>>>>> then
>>>>>>>> said, "Okay, tell Nanna your plate's clean." Nanna still refused
>>>>>>>> to
>>>>>>>> give her the lemon cake. My daughter started to pitch a fit in
>>>>>>>> true
>>>>>>>> four-year-old fashion, screeching and waving her arms around.
>>>>>>>> Nanna
>>>>>>>> told her to go sit on the stairs till she was ready to be fit
>>>>>>>> company. I said no, she's my daughter and I'm in charge here.
>>>>>>>> Nanna
>>>>>>>> told me, raising her voice, that we were in her house, so her rules
>>>>>>>> came first. I said I didn't appreciate her yelling at me, and that
>>>>>>>> if
>>
>>>>>>>> she wouldn't serve my daughter a slice of lemon cake, I would do it
>>>>>>>> myself. I guess Nanna's husband had gotten his fill by that time
>>>>>>>> because he cut my daughter a slice of cake and gave it to her
>>>>>>>> without
>>
>>>>>>>> saying anything.
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> I know that situation should ideally not have happened in front of
>>>>>>>> my
>>
>>>>>>>> daughter, but it did. I'm not looking for anybody to get on my
>>>>>>>> case,
>>
>>>>>>>> but I'm interested in some answers from other blind parents. Whose
>>>>>>>> rules should have taken precedence? Is there anything I can do
>>>>>>>> about
>>
>>>>>>>> it now?
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> I am somehow less interested in the weight and convolutions of
>>>>>>>> Einstein's brain than in the near certainty that people of equal
>>>>>>>> talent have lived and died in cotton fields and
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>>>>>>>> Grandma's house, grandma's rules. Yes I know she's your daughter,
>>>>>>>> and
>>
>>>>>>>> if this was another strangers house your rules would stand. But in
>>>>>>>> a
>>>>>>>> normal house, with a grandma parent relationship grandmas house
>>>>>>>> trumps all. It is her house, her roles, sorry you feel that way.
>>>>>>>> Now
>>>>>>>> you may always choose never to return to grandmas house, if you
>>>>>>>> don't
>>
>>>>>>>> like the way grandma runs her house. But again, that is up to you.
>>>>>>>> But this situation is all about respect, her grandma issued her
>>>>>>>> decree, and you chose to try and overcome per. This is very
>>>>>>>> disrespectful no matter what culture you're in, this will not stand
>>>>>>>> in my house, and my daughters grandma would always overcut me as a
>>>>>>>> sign of respect. Right or wrong. So please, take it for what it is
>>>>>>>> take your losses and make a decision, you either like the other
>>>>>>>> situations you have been with grandma, and this is a small think
>>>>>>>> you
>>>>>>>> could get over. Or you could choose to not like it, her, or any
>>>>>>>> future situation, and just never return to her house. Very simple,
>>>>>>>> if
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> Message: 8
> Date: Sat, 8 Sep 2012 11:13:04 -0400
> From: "Kate McEachern" <kflsouth at gmail.com>
> To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Diaper Rash
> Message-ID: <E884B1A521764C158CE8A7B9BAC86D30 at katiepc>
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> It feels like a sunburn. If its really bad the skin will blister. When my
> two were little I would use the diaper cream at either the first changing
> of
> the day, or after nap time to be shore. Also, if your in a hot climate
> baby
> pouter sprinkled on the bottom can wick moisture away to prevent a rash.
> And if you're brave leave the diaper off for a few minutes before putting
> on
> a new one. But only do this if your very brave and are confident their
> done.
>
> HTH.
> Katie
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Jolynn Turpin
> Sent: Friday, September 07, 2012 11:59 PM
> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
> Subject: [blparent] Diaper Rash
>
> Hi
> I am sorry if this is a stupid question but I am just not really
> sure how it all works :) I am watching my sisters baby for a while
> and she is about 3 months old. My sister tells me she is prone to
> diaper rash so I need to be on the lookout for it. I am just not sure
> how as a blind person would you spot diaper rash. Is there a
> difference in skin texture or does someone just put rash cream on
> periodically just to be sure there is nothing. Anyways thanks for the
> help and sorry if this has been gone over in the past. I am new to
> this:)
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> Message: 9
> Date: Sat, 8 Sep 2012 08:00:29 -0700
> From: Gabe Vega Via Iphone4S <theblindtech at gmail.com>
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> Cc: "blparent at nfbnet.org" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Diaper Rash
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> I would like to note, that too much diaper rash cream unnecessarily can
> cause yeast infections. Do take note of this, thank you
>
> Gabe Vega
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> (623) 565-9357
>
> On Sep 8, 2012, at 12:57 AM, Bernadetta Pracon
> <bernadetta_pracon at samobile.net> wrote:
>
>> Hi,
>> Don't worry. No question regarding babies is uncalled for or
>> insignificant.
>> You can tell if a baby has diaper rash through texture, at least that's
>> accurate in my experience. A baby's skin is normally smooth. If he has a
>> rash, visually the spot will be discolored, and it will feel rough. If the
>> baby is a boy, he will most likely get a rash under his penis and around
>> his testicles, as well as the folds of the skin between his legs and
>> testicles.
>> It won't harm him to have the cream on periodically, so if you're not
>> sure, go ahead and apply the cream during every diaper change or every
>> other diaper change. Diaper rash can be avoided or greatly diminished with
>> frequent diaper changing--like every two hours or so. if you want to be
>> sure that he doesn't get any new rash, change his diaper freequently,
>> and/or apply the cream periodically.
>> Also, do wash his genitals and his bottom with a warm wet washcloth every
>> once in a while, even if you use baby wipes regularly. sometimes it's the
>> baby wipes that give babies diaper rash. so a plain old washcloth dampened
>> with water can be better for the skin and will ensure that baby is clean
>> in between bathtimes.
>>
>> Happy to help
>> Have fun babysitting your nephew!!!
>> All best
>> Bernadetta
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> Message: 10
> Date: Sat, 8 Sep 2012 12:56:05 -0400
> From: "Kate McEachern" <kflsouth at gmail.com>
> To: <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: [blparent] Roommates and being a single parent?
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> Hi list.
>
>
>
> I have been thinking and thinking and have now because of an incident I
> walked in on this morning decided to get the lists thoughts on an issue I
> have started to have with my roommate. My roommate has known both my
> children for years and had moved to SF to take a job and help me out with
> the kids after their Dad fell ill. Now that I have lost the house we moved
> in to an apartment together to help us each save money. My roommate has
> always understood that she is only aloud to repeat to my children what I
> have set as a consequence or relay a message I had spoke to her about
> earlier in the day sort of like a messenger. She has been told she is not
> to give my kids punishments or handle parenting situations because she
> feels
> she can. I felt this was cut and dry but I have had a few instentses where
> she has overstepped and wanting to live in some sort of peace till me and
> the kids move in with Gabe, I would like some thoughts on how to handle
> this
> with out creating a roommate rift. For the record, I have told Gabe the
> basics on this situation but not events so some of this will be news to him
> but I think at this point I need to have some unbious thoughts on this and
> give him more of an idea of how this affects me and the kids.
>
>
>
> Last night my girls were aloud to stay up late because of it being the
> weekend. Tiffy asked to watch TV and my roommate said she was watching
> something and would change the channel after the show was over. The show
> ended and Tiffy being three asked again to watch TV. My roommate noticeably
> annoyed turned on a random children's channel and walked off to continue
> watching TV in the other room. Later when the girls were bickering not
> fighting just being well, little girls, my roommate threatened that if they
> didn't stop they would go to bed. The girls ended there squabble by
> deciding to play a video game. This morning my roommate was mopping the
> floor and again Tiffy being three walked by and asked what she was doing.
> My roommate annoyed told my three year-old to get out of the room. Now,
> yes
> Tiffy didn't have to be in the room being mopped, actually she wasn't in
> the
> room she was standing in the door. It didn't bother me that my roommate
> didn't want to give up the TV, or that she wanted Tiffy to stay out of a
> room being mopped; I just don't like the tone she is speaking to my
> children
> with. She has also made snotty comments under her breath about dissitions
> I
> have made with the girls. One night when the kids just would not sleep I
> told both girls they had lost TV and the computer the next day because they
> were playing and wouldn't want to get up in the morning. My roommate
> sitting on the couch muttered that "It's not like their going to listen
> anyway." I promptly told her that they may not listen but I was going to
> stick to what I said. I didn't expect them to stop I just gave them the
> consequence for not stopping.
>
>
>
> My concern is that the level of annoyance my roommate speaks to my children
> with seams to be building and there have been times that the girls are
> doing
> nothing and she just gets annoyed. My room mate at times helps pick my
> youngest up from child care and I had my sister-in-law tell me she saw my
> roommate with Tiffy and didn't like the way she was speaking to Tiffy. I
> don't think she would hurt the girls, but the annoyed tone has to go,
> because my oldest has used this tone towards her sister and once towards
> me.
>
>
>
> So how should I talk about this with my roommate, or is there just nothing
> I
> can do?
>
>
>
> Thanks for your thoughts.
>
> Katie
>
>
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Hi, Katie and list.
These incidents with the roommate are interesting.
Without knowing you or the roommate, it sounds on the face of it like
your roommate might just be having a harder time with things in her
life and may just be more prone to get annoyed. It doesn't really
sound like a blind-parent issue. Since you have this relationship with
her in which you've said she's usually understood that you're the
parent and she's just supposed to reinforce what you say, you could
just bring up her tone in a neutral way and point out the specific
instances. Maybe she just has a shorter fuse these days and it might
help you to find out what she's dealing with. Or maybe, in fact,
there's something she's noticed about the kids that she hasn't shared
with you that's been annoying her and causing her to be short with
them. Anyway, you also want to be clear with her that she should pay
attention to her tone with them.
Jen
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